F/U to last nites post

allyandpat2010

Well I guess DH was having a moment yesterday and after I spent all nite crying and worrying that he was leaving me he came home all apologetic and saying he was stressed out and worried. I told him its not a good idea to tell a good idea to tell a pregnant woman that you are not sure you want to be with her. He has been kissing butt since last nite. On the new: potty training my 3 year old. He seems to be picking it up. 3 pee pees but no poo yet!

MrsEmm

so glad he got his stuff together & you can relax now. Take advantage & send him out for some ice cream & a dvd. ?

Congrats on the PT-ing!!?

amy0105

So glad to hear that, Ally

Good luck with potty training!

vegandy

I just saw your post from last night, I'm glad things are working out better now.  I think all men have a freak out session when their wives/girlfriends are pregnant, especially if the baby wasn't necessarily planned (even as happy as you both are)  Women are mothers from the moment we get out positive pregnancy test, but for men I think it takes longer.  They don't go through what we do while pregnant & so the joys of fatherhood don't always settle in until the baby is here.  

Hang in there lady  

dixielane

vegandy:

I just saw your post from last night, I'm glad things are working out better now.  I think all men have a freak out session when their wives/girlfriends are pregnant, especially if the baby wasn't necessarily planned (even as happy as you both are)  Women are mothers from the moment we get out positive pregnancy test, but for men I think it takes longer.  They don't go through what we do while pregnant & so the joys of fatherhood don't always settle in until the baby is here.  

Hang in there lady  

I dont know if I go for that. Men can bond/feel joys of fatherhood as much as the mother, if they chose and open up to it. My husband does. He doesn't get the physical changes, but all the emotional happiness is there for him. I think men need to grow up if they get "scared" or have freak sessions when their wife is pregnant...Pregnancy takes TWO. Ontop of that, a mans role apart from being the father, is to support his wife when her body/mental state is undergoing alot of scary/weird changes...if he whines, he needs to grow up and get over it, he can be just as apart of the pregnancy if he really, really wants to be.

Not saying this to OP, just saying "in general"  because I hear alot of women who let men off the hook by saying they just had a "freak out" moment and are better now.

If it were me, I'd realize there are probably some underlying issues that caused it, and seek out support/help for him, and our relationship, even if its something minor.

EllePost

Hey dear.  I am glad he realized quickly he was being ridiculous and has been trying to make up for it since.:) He better be kissing your a$s for a while too because saying things like that is unacceptable! HUGS!!! 

allyandpat2010

I am completely making him go talk to the counselor at our church. I don't want another "freak out" in 2 weeks or 2 months after our wedding

amy0105

allyandpat2010:

I am completely making him go talk to the counselor at our church. I don't want another "freak out" in 2 weeks or 2 months after our wedding

Good for you, Ally!! You're a strong woman! 

EllePost

YGPM

kasslynne

Ally! I am SO glad to hear that everything is better! I just swung over here to see how you were and WTH!  

My fiance can pull that silly crap too! Feel better we are almost to our big day!