Were you disappointed?

MommyTori1

I have my big ultrasound today at 4 and we plan on trying to find out the sex. In the beginning I wasn't sure if I wanted to find out early or just wait for delivery day, but DF really wanted to so i compromised for him. My question is: were any of you who were on the fence and ended up finding out the sex, regret not waiting for the delivery room? Or with one baby you waited and another baby you found out, which experience was more enjoyable?

MrsBraun

Sorry, I don't have direct experience, but I know that if it were up to me, I would cave and find out the sex (but DH doesn't want to). I'm secretly thankful that DH is so against finding out because it keeps me from feeling disappointed for giving in - I know that I would regret finding out....not to say that its wrong to do so, but I think the surprise will be more than worth it in the end.

MrsBalletStar05

We found out with DS and we found out with this one as well - I was glad we did.  I prefer to plan ahead. 

Ms.MJP

This is my first and I just found out this weekend that we are having a girl.  I really thought it was a boy so I am having to readjust my thinking.  I am glad I found out though so it gives me time to prepare for our daughter. 

carasizemore

MrsBalletStar05:

We found out with DS and we found out with this one as well - I was glad we did.  I prefer to plan ahead. 

This exactly! I'm such a planner I HAVE to know things like that! 

butterbeansmama

We didn't find out with ds and we aren't finding out with this one either. Truthfully, I don't even think about it. Not even going in every 2 weeks for an ultrasound deters me. I'm a major planner too, but this is something that I can plan around. I can still plan without knowing the gender.

 

TookMyTime

The u/s tech told us he was a boy. But I was still somewhat surprised when DS was born. My SIL had gone into the hospital for delivery having been told 90 percent sure she was having a girl. She had no boy anything (clothes, blankets, etc). She had a boy. I am not going to be sure until the baby is here, no matter how sure the u/s is. Did I find out early? Yes. Was I still surprised? Yes.

thehimwithher

we found out with dd b/c dh really wanted to.  but, with it being my first pg i really felt a need to 'plan' too. 

with this one i told him i really wanted to do 'suprise' since i compromised last time.  he agreed (although he still wants to know).  i would have had a hard time going suprise the first time but this time i'm more relaxed about 'planning'.

skiwic8

DH and I were exactly in your position.  He wanted to know and I didn't.  I did what you are doing and have absolutley no regrets! I am so much more excited now that I know I am cooking a little boy!  Finding out has also made it all so much more real.  I do have a suggestion for you though....try to make it more exciting.  We had our US the Wed before xmas.  We didn't find out there but had the tech write it in a card and seal it.  We opened it with IL's on xmas eve. It was so exciting and so fun!  We then did another fun reveal for my family on xmas day.  What if you don't find out at US and do the envelope thing and open it together on new years eve or new years day?  I still smile and get all excited when I look at the card the tech had written It's A Boy in!

mrsjenni

I would never regret finding out early.  Personally, I think it makes a woman connect with the baby a little more, because they actually know WHO is in there.  I'm not saying that its not wonderful to wait or that women on Team Green aren't connected to their baby (they ARE!)  I'm just saying that I think that you get even more connected once you know.  It's a WONDERFUL feeling.

Gigs2000

I didn't regret finding out early at all.  I am a planner and it helped me prepare knowing I was having a boy.  Also, I don't think the thrill of seeing him for the first time was diminished because I hadn't kept the gender a surprise.  

I am definitely finding out again this time around--pregnancy is a long 40 weeks and I like the 20 week present of finding out the gender! 

joelen&louis

We were Team Green but when faced with some medical scares a couple weeks ago, our specialist offered to tell us the sex if we wanted. Because it was such an emotional rollercoaster of a day with hours in the ER and another hour with the specialist, we wanted some positive news to leave with... so we buckled and found out.

We couldn't have been more thrilled because I think either way you'll be experiencing the same joy and happiness... its just a matter of how soon you want to find out. I feel a stronger sense of connection with LO knowing the sex and can refer to his name.

If and when we have a second baby, we will definitely wait until delivery so we can experience the suspense of finding out.

MsMonica's1st

NO I was not at all disappointed finding out it makes it that much more for me to look forward to......seeing my daughter and now I imagine who she looks like how big she will be just the general questions about her, but I don't regret finding out....there are still more surprises to look forward to throughout her life......It makes me feel like we have a strong bond already

jilicious

I think it's so funny when people are like "omg I am such a planner I couldn't NOT find out" when planner-type people from yesteryear and the days of yore somehow figured it out.

It's not THAT hard, LOL. There are more colors in the world besides pink and blue.

DannyBoysGal

No way! I am SOO glad that we have the technology nowadays to find out the sex early. I feel like it has made our connection to the baby stronger - not that I didn't feel connected anyway, it's hard to explain I guess. Knowing it's a girl and starting to plan and think about what she'll look like etc. just gives us even more to look forward to. It was still a great surprise finding out early. And bonus - I'll still be surprised when she comes out on delivery day - surprised to just see her, hear her, feel her, hold her and know she's finally here. And I'll probably be surprised by the labor pains too, ouch! As PP said, pregnancy is a long 40 weeks and that halfway point reward of getting to find out the sex was priceless for us.

MrsWindyCity

jilicious:

I think it's so funny when people are like "omg I am such a planner I couldn't NOT find out" when planner-type people from yesteryear and the days of yore somehow figured it out.

It's not THAT hard, LOL. There are more colors in the world besides pink and blue.

LOL, I think this too. I am a MAJOR planner, bordering on semi-psychotic planner. And I don't understand what this has to do with the baby's sex. I've had no problem planning (and overplanning) for this baby's arrival. I love the idea that it will not only be a huge surprise for DH and me on D-day  and that I'll get to  hear my H say "we have a daughter!" (or son, of course). I think it will be really exciting for everyone else, too, and thankfully, not many people have given us a hard time about not finding out.

magdalina.h

I'm sooooo happy that we found out. I have no experience with being on team green, but I feel so much more connected to the baby knowing that he's a he. Not saying that team greeners don't have that feeling, but that's just how I feel. Before I found out it was so abstract to me that there was something in there growing and kicking.

laurasue

mrs.jenni:

I would never regret finding out early.  Personally, I think it makes a woman connect with the baby a little more, because they actually know WHO is in there.  I'm not saying that its not wonderful to wait or that women on Team Green aren't connected to their baby (they ARE!)  I'm just saying that I think that you get even more connected once you know.  It's a WONDERFUL feeling.

This. Honestly this pregnancy is now so much more real now that we know. And we were both shocked and excited when we found out so technically it was a surprise... just 4.5 months earlier than delivery! Having found out, I'm not sure I'd do it any other way for future pregnancies.

Sept_Bride'07

we found out with both.  neither of us was disappointed, we were quite the opposite and it was so much fun finding out.  no regrets whatsoever.

**Purr-Fection**

MrsBalletStar05:

We found out with DS and we found out with this one as well - I was glad we did.  I prefer to plan ahead. 

This.

broomy

I was on the fence at first, but DH convinced me to find out. I am SO glad we did! From the beginning of the pregnancy, I thought 100% we were having a boy. A couple weeks before the big u/s, however, I started getting this "feeling" that it was a girl... by the time the u/s rolled around, I'd pretty much convinced myself it was a girl, and was slightly confused and disappointed when told otherwise, lol.

I have a feeling if we hadn't found out, I would have become more and more "convinced" that it was a girl (especially because he has a faster heart beat and I'm carrying high), and then I'm not sure what I'd feel when I found out "boy." I picture that scene in "Riding in Cars with Boys" where Drew Barrymore finds out she just had a boy and she's like, "No, there must be some mistake. I'm having a GIRL." Haha!

Anyway, I am glad to know for sure that it's a boy. No more wondering, no more guessing. Now I can call him by his name and really start thinking ahead.

FemmeNat01

I was team green up until my 20 week appointment. We struggled with whether we should find out. We ended up finding out and while I am excited to know, I know I could have waited and it would have been more enjoyable for me. I am a little sad that we found out but at the same time, I am SO excited that I can buy actual clothes for Elena and Lucas. It's bittersweet.

jilicious

laurasue:

mrs.jenni:

I would never regret finding out early.  Personally, I think it makes a woman connect with the baby a little more, because they actually know WHO is in there.  I'm not saying that its not wonderful to wait or that women on Team Green aren't connected to their baby (they ARE!)  I'm just saying that I think that you get even more connected once you know.  It's a WONDERFUL feeling.

This. Honestly this pregnancy is now so much more real now that we know. And we were both shocked and excited when we found out so technically it was a surprise... just 4.5 months earlier than delivery! Having found out, I'm not sure I'd do it any other way for future pregnancies.

I'm not being rude but I still just do not get how this can be the case. A baby is baby, and a baby in YOUR belly is all yours, no matter what is between its legs!

This way of thinking mystifies me. Also when people say mom can connect more with baby, I think that's just an excuse to explain why they had to find out early. Just admit it ladies, you were the kids who peeked at your Christmas presents!