2nd timers: Sick of "are you hoping it's a ___" comment

nooniesgal

Everyone I know...even my MIL...keeps saying "are you hoping it is a boy" since I have a dd already.  Anyone else getting this comment alot to see if you are hoping it is the opposite sex?

My MIL actually said to me that it would be OK if I have a girl, because I wouldn't have to buy clothes.  Just OK.   ahhhhhhhhhhhhh.   She then said she thinks it is a boy because my sisters only have boys.  I explained that it was up to the sperm...not my family history...to determine the sex.  She then stated that only a boy would carry on the family name.  No pressure there.   I feel I am the only one, along with DH, that is just excited regardless of pink or blue! 

MrsAmyB

nooniesgal:

  She then said she thinks it is a boy because my sisters only have boys.  I explained that it was up to the sperm...not my family history...to determine the sex. 

These comments always crack me up!

Well, I was hoping for a boy.  We have a chance for either now.  If I end up with 3 girls, I will probably be a little sad that I will never have a boy, but I will get over it.  We'll see...

nooniesgal

MrsAmyB:

nooniesgal:

  She then said she thinks it is a boy because my sisters only have boys.  I explained that it was up to the sperm...not my family history...to determine the sex. 

These comments always crack me up!

Well, I was hoping for a boy.  We have a chance for either now.  If I end up with 3 girls, I will probably be a little sad that I will never have a boy, but I will get over it.  We'll see...

I totally understand this!!!  I was from a family of 3 girls (no boys) so I can relate!   It just drives me crazy when other people call it out.  Like you have any control over what your uterus is growing. 

MrsAmyB

Do you remember any of those silly old wives tales before a clear understanding of what determines sex "if you eat ___ when you are pregnant, the baby will be a ___"    So women would rush out and eat a ton of dairy or whatever to ensure they had a boy or girl. 

I giggle at this. 

I also giggle at DH who got down that DD was a girl.  I told him it was HIS doing

zakuravlm

LOL, yeah. I wouldn't say it bugs me but it does amuse me I guess. DH and I really didn't care if our next child was a girl or a boy. We just wanted them to be healthy. We found out that we're having another girl. Everyone has asked if we are disappointed and if we're going to try for a boy. Two is enough for DH and I . We have a couple of friends that keep trying to have a girl and they are both on there 4th boy. Not that that's a bad number but that's waaaaay too many kids for me.  

MrsBalletStar05

I was just sick of the lady at church who asked me 3 times in the 1st tri if I was having a boy or girl I kept telling her, "I don't know yet!" and it's crazy I even know right now.

Court0026

YES!  Someone at work keeps telling me over and over again that if I have a girl it will be the "perfect family".  UGH.  Like that has anything to do with it. 

jessie55

Ugh its so annoying! And a large part of me actually wants another boy, so DS can have a brother- my DH has 2 brothers and they are really close which is so nice.

KGraham05

I think it's funny and I love the fact that my Mother & DH are on the same team which is pink and I'm by myself on this one which is another boy. We'll find out eventually

MrsPedersen

I know! As if we wouldn't be happy with whatever child we get!

Next time someone says that I should think of some really smart ass comment to say back like , "Yes, as a matter of fact we had decided that if this wasn't a girl we would put the child up for adoption and try again!"

MotherBucker

MrsBalletStar05:

I was just sick of the lady at church who asked me 3 times in the 1st tri if I was having a boy or girl I kept telling her, "I don't know yet!" and it's crazy I even know right now.

 

I had a guy at work ask me when I was 8 weeks if I knew what I was having. IT made me laugh. Obviously he hadn't been around many pregnant women.

JessesGirl81

I have my big u/s today and feel soooo pressured by everyone to announce its a girl! My parents, friends. EVERYONE hopes this baby is a she and it drives me NUTS. 

amygauntt@windstream.net

It bothered me A LOT. I would have been THRILLED to have another girl, I actually wanted a girl. Everyone would say "I hope this one is a boy"

Well, now that we know, I'm ecstatic & so glad/excited about having a boy. But I still get comments like "I'm so glad it's a boy", "Oh, great, one of each!", "DH really needs a boy". And all that still bothers me. We, including DH would have been more than happy with another girl. I hate how people think you have to have one of each to be happy, or complete.

gmugrad9

We did get this a little from DH's family but DH really would like to have a boy.  This will be our last one so it would be nice to have one of each.  I think for us we have clearly stated we are just praying that I get through the pregnancy and delivery okay and the baby is healthy, if it is a boy or girl it doesn't matter.

 

My mother really hopes it is another girl though but she isn't bad about it.

bacala1

Please...I've been hearing this since after my son was born! So annooooooooying. My uncle actually even said that the kings preference is to have a boy then a girl and that it is the perfect family. This was before I knew I was having a girl. I wanted to punch him. I would have loved another boy and actually feel more comfortable with boys. He said that feminists want only boys lol. I am also excited about experiencing a girl...feel like I am having a baby again for the first time. People are so rude.

gmugrad9

The one comment about this though that bothers me is the whole DH really needs a boy, or the family name is through the boy, and all that crap stuff, or a mother really needs a daughter.

WHY???

Ummm my DD may find a man who will take her last name, or she may not get married and still have a child, or she may never have kids, or my son might never have kids, or he could get married and take the other persons name.  Or my son might take tap lessons and my daughter play football.  STOP TYPECASTING THE KIDS BEFORE THEY ARE BORN.

 

Hmmm okay yep I think this does bother me more then I know lol

CD+AL

We announced that we are having a DD this time at Xmas, and DH's family was amazing with their lack of enthusiasm.  I expected them to be a little more excited considering this is only the second girl in four generations in their family (the other is a couple of generations back), but their only comment was that it was too bad DS wouldn't have a brother close in age.  You can't win, and quite frankly it made me a little irritated that they aren't more excited about DD.  Inlaws...what can you do?

mrsjenni

Yes, and I can't stand it!  I respond with "We're just hoping for a healthy baby."

Now that it's a girl, everyone is saying "you must be SO happy" or "now you have a rich man's family."  What?  A rich man's what?  I would have been just as happy with a baby boy!

le sigh. 

erinlynn711

Ugh- Yes!!! I am a 3rd timer and I have 2 boys...so EVERYONE is dying for me to have a girl...I was hoping for one, too, at first. But one of my best friends just gave birth to a baby with a severe heart defect and he will require numerous surgeries throughout childhood. After seeing this- how can anyone want anything but a healthy baby? (Cliche, yes- but true).

 I was speaking with my aunt about my friend and said I would love a daughter but I would also love another boy and she said "well everyone else wants you to have a girl so too bad"  WTF? So, if I have a boy everyone else will be disappointed- ridiculous!

 

Eviebee

I've only gotten one so far, just yesterday.  I'm sure all the GPs are hoping for a boy but so far keeping it to themselves.  but I honestly can say it doesn't matter to me which it is.  I was hoping for another girl at first, but have decided a boy would be just as awesome and it's not my choice so what does it matter.

mysticporter

gmugrad9:

The one comment about this though that bothers me is the whole DH really needs a boy, or the family name is through the boy, and all that crap stuff, or a mother really needs a daughter.

WHY???

Ummm my DD may find a man who will take her last name, or she may not get married and still have a child, or she may never have kids, or my son might never have kids, or he could get married and take the other persons name.  Or my son might take tap lessons and my daughter play football.  STOP TYPECASTING THE KIDS BEFORE THEY ARE BORN.

 

I agree with this one.  We've had a few people ask if we're hoping for a boy since we have a girl, and we always respond no, because it wouldn't change anything.  For one thing, both DH and I, and our families, have a history of bucking gender stereotypes.  I'm the one who wants to play baseball in the yard with our kids, he's the one who envisions planting the garden with them, which makes hoping for one sex or the other for stereotypical reasons ridiculous.

On the positive side, we both changed our last name when we got married, so at least the boy/last name thing is off the table for IL's.  Judging from the fuss when we decided to do it, I'm guessing it would come up otherwise.

 

ksb717

haha, I think it's just natural for family and friends to assume that you want one of each.  My family never really said anything, but my inlaws drove me insane.  my sil actually said she's hoping for a boy but it'd probably be better if it was a girl so you won't need new clothes.  Um, they aren't being born at the same time.

 Also, yesterday when I called my mil to tell her (hubby was uploading ultrasound pics) the first thing out of her mouth was that she hopes he likes playing with girl toys and wearing pink.  Huh??   Some people just don't think.

thehimwithher

yes i think it's insaine how many people assume we will go for #3 if this one is another girl!  we keep telling everyone that the # of children we decided on had NOTHING to do with the sex of the baby.  we felt that was silly for us. 

 on a side note, that is one reason i am loving being team GREEN this time.  it drives people crazy.  haha.  it's so funny that they seem to care a lot more than dh and i. 

Noisemaker

Yep, this is driving me crazy, too.  MIL tells me every time we speak that they're hoping for a boy.  She's also pissed that we're not finding out again, so she won't know if she gets her wish until delivery day.  Personally, I'd be just as happy with a sister for DD as I would a brother, maybe even happier! 

thomas&lynn

Not so much on my end. I think it was more me saying I hoped it was a boy so we can 100% be "two and through" :P

StephanieDM

MrsAmyB:

nooniesgal:

??She then said she thinks it is a boy because my sisters only have boys.? I explained that it was up to the sperm...not my family history...to determine the sex.?

These comments always crack me up!

Well, I was hoping for a boy.? We have a chance for either now.? If I end up with 3 girls, I will probably be a little sad that I will never have a boy, but I will get over it.? We'll see...

My MIL did the same thing - she told me 100+ times that it will be a boy. She even told me before DH and I got married that I will never ever have a girl because the men in the family "only produce boys" *eye roll*?

I had girl vibes all along and had a feeling we would be team pink... Boy was I glad to prove her stupid theory wrong once and for all! Its like she doesn't understand the basics of how babies are made!?

nooniesgal: Congrats on your triplets! Thats so exciting! ?