Uh-oh...

VampyAuthor

I am beginning to think MIL and FIL are expecting DH and I to come out their way in the New Year. Now a while back there were some issues that really upset me. Long story short when I was 12 weeks we drove 6 hrs to tell his aunts and uncles we're pregnant and FIL told before we got there. DH and I were both upset because that was our news. Also FIL threw a huge fit a few days before that said trip and told us our fur babies could not come at all so we had to find quick fur baby sitters.

Now the way it sounds on coversations they're hinting at us coming back out. But DH and I decided that the cost of fur baby care and the trip just wasn't worth it. I don't want this mess to start all over again. What can we do? If we're heading into round two of this, I doubt talking would even work anymore. It's not that we're trying to be rude or mean, but we're trying to save lots of money. Fur baby care and a trip to the cities would be just too much.

amy0105

Tell them (as nicely as possible) that you and DH would like to spend your last new years without having to have a babysitter doing something different.  That next year, you'll try to plan to come with the baby for a NYE celebration...

 

That's how I got out of a party I was DREADING!! 

ktjruss03

If it were me I would be honest.  Tell them you are trying to save as much money as you can before the baby comes.  It is very expensive to keep your pets at a kennel and driving that far would just add extra cost. 

I am in the same boat except I have to fly to get home (Currently live north of Seattle, family is in Indiana).  I told my family flat out we will not be coming home until the end of 2010 or 2011 because it is just too expensive!  

Hopefully they will understand and if not it is their fault, not yours!

VampyAuthor

amy0105:

Tell them (as nicely as possible) that you and DH would like to spend your last new years without having to have a babysitter doing something different.  That next year, you'll try to plan to come with the baby for a NYE celebration...

 

That's how I got out of a party I was DREADING!! 

It's definitely easier for us. We've planned our little babymoon and that's just for us. We didn't want to go to his parents because it's our time. And, we get to bring our fur babies with us. If we went there with them, who knows what would happen.

VampyAuthor

ktjruss03:

If it were me I would be honest.  Tell them you are trying to save as much money as you can before the baby comes.  It is very expensive to keep your pets at a kennel and driving that far would just add extra cost. 

I am in the same boat except I have to fly to get home (Currently live north of Seattle, family is in Indiana).  I told my family flat out we will not be coming home until the end of 2010 or 2011 because it is just too expensive!  

Hopefully they will understand and if not it is their fault, not yours!

I'm hoping they didn't find out about our babymoon to Duluth. BUT, we've saved for that trip and our fur babies are going with us. It's a babymoon because it's mine and DH's time. It's not that we're trying to be mean at all. But, kenneling my fur babies isn't an option for me at all. Especially after FIL throws such huge fits about it.