Even when you're the happiest person on earth to be a new parent, it's common to have nagging little feelings of disappointment.
Not that you want to tell anyone. But you spent nine months imagining
what your baby would be like and now here he is ? perhaps not exactly
what you'd pictured. Parents of a baby born with a health problem are
especially vulnerable to this feeling of not getting what they'd
bargained for. But parents of healthy children often have such feelings
In all of these situations, there's a wonderful new baby to celebrate. And yet there's often an imaginary baby to mourn before the real baby can be fully embraced. Rarely does anybody talk about this phenomenon, but it's perfectly normal and human. So if your joy is tinged with a little regret, don't feel guilty. Give yourself a little space to privately grieve, and then count the blessings you do have.