Don't mind me, I'm venting.

oparcm

I'm venting and whining too.  Today I'm having a conversation with my father.  We are talking about the holiday plans and what we are doing tomorrow.  I have the day off tomorrow but I worked today.  Anyway, he starts about Christmas dinner and what he wants.  I'm doing a turkey dinner with squash, green beans, potatoes, stuffing and cranberry sauce.  So he wants some other stuff.  I'm not a cook and I have already done Thanksgiving dinner for 12.  I wasn't supposed to do Christmas but my brother and sister aren't speaking so they now we are doing a split holiday.  I'm having my father and brother.  Anywho, I  mention my dh is working tonight and has worked 7AM-11:30 PM. all this week.  He tells me that my dh isn't working like he used to work (UPS driver).  I know my father worked very hard there but my dh works at a stressful desk job during the day and in a restaurant at night.  He goes from one job straight to the next job with no time in between.  My dh is really working his butt off and my father was home by 8 every night.  So then I mention that it puts more on me to do at home with dd.  He tell me that my mother had 3 kids.  Umm yeah, she was a lot younger than me, stayed with us at home ( until we were older) and had the help of my grandparents quite often.  I'm not taking anything away from what they did but geez.  Then he added that I have a girl so it is not like parenting because I have one child and the child is a girl.  I have it easy.  I also mention that I'm a teacher so I work with kids all day.  I'm just venting because it just pizzed me off that is all.  Vent over.

EMT

WTF? Why is it a pissing match on who had it worse? Whether or not his perceptions are correct about your responsibilities vs his (and I am not saying they are); WTF cares? You are not allowed to complain?

Weird and super annoying.  I'm sorry!

docmay25

Sorry.  That would drive me crazy too.  My mom can do that sometimes too...the "you don't really have it that bad/have much to do" kind of talking.

I hope it doesn't ruin your holiday.  Try to ignore the best you can.  He may not understand, but a lot of other people (like us here), do.

oparcm

Thanks and I know I was whining.  I wasn't even complaining to him vs. telling him that I already did  the shopping for the meal and won't have time to go to the store again to get his requests.  I told him that tomorrow we have to visit dh's family during the day and my aunt's at night.  Then I'm having them Christmas day.  We had 22 inches of snow here and the roads are still a mess.  I have a full meal planned and snacks.  He was mad that I wasn't having a few other things my mom used to make.  I think it more that he's upset I'm not making all the stuff my mom made at the holidays.  Truth is, she was the only one who ate those foods and he doesn't even eat them.  Why would I make them?  Just because my mother Would've eaten them.  Then the pizzing contest began, lol.  the holidays.

veloelle

Nothing worse than a martyr. Did he walk up hill to work and back home? Gotta love family.

belle204

That's crappy. I hate when people, let alone your parents, do that. (((hugs)))