I know its early (Kinda long post)

krys0322

Im only 6 weeks, but all of my friends andco-workers keep asking me about a shower.. heres my question.

I have a daughter almost 5, from a previous marriage. I got divorced and I have none of her old things, the ex and I obviously weren't having more kids so we donated everything from when she was a baby. I did have a baby shower then...

now almost 5 years later im engaged and having another baby. I dont want to assume that anyone is going to throw me a baby shower, and i will not ask for it. So how do I best handle this with co-workers and friends? When I mentioned to a friend that I didnt think I would have a second baby shower she got upset. My family cant throw me a shower, and I just dont think his family will. Seeing as they have already talked about me getting all of his olders sisters stuff.. Which im okay with I appreciate all the help I can get. But my friend was really upset that no one is throwing me one. So she talked about doing it... but would it be rude if I let her throw it when his family made it sound like I dont need one?

 Sorry kinda long post lol.

jenfurleigh

No, I don't think there is anything wrong with having another shower.  It has been 5 years since your last and it is understandable that you don't have anything left over.  It is great that your in-laws are providing you with hand-me-downs, but you could put things that you will not be getting as hand me downs on a registry.  You don't have to invite family if you don't think they would be interested...you could just give her your friends names as guests.

EastCoastBride

jenfurleigh:

You don't have to invite family if you don't think they would be interested...you could just give her your friends names as guests.

Ditto this.  Which really- if this friend follows through on her offer, SHE decides how many people you can invite anyhow.  "everyone" doesn't have to be invited to a shower. 

ocho2002

You're 6 weeks.  Tell your friend, you're not in a position to even think about it yet.

mrssamuels2b

jenfurleigh:

No, I don't think there is anything wrong with having another shower.  It has been 5 years since your last and it is understandable that you don't have anything left over.  It is great that your in-laws are providing you with hand-me-downs, but you could put things that you will not be getting as hand me downs on a registry.  You don't have to invite family if you don't think they would be interested...you could just give her your friends names as guests.