NBR: I hate my life today...(long-vent)

shanmoyer

So my hubby came home last night at 2:24am (i guess this morning) rather intoxicated. He was all yelly and swearing and stuff, and I got out of bed to see what all of the chaos was about.

 

He and 3 friends went to the pub for the night football games (I kicked them out so I could watch Survivor finale) at around 8ish - they walked because they had all had maybe about 3 beers each which I was happy about.

I went to bed around 11ish after Survivor, knowing that DH would be home around 12 after the football game. I woke up at around 2:24am to the chaos and went out to see what was up.

 

Apparently, the boys had gotten "pulled over" (though they were walking) by the police, and Colin ended up with a $160 public intoxication ticket. I don't know the details, but he was pretty pissed off and was yelling and then started yelling at me for some reason or another.

 

I told him that he should fight it, as it was a 15 minute walk home and yes whilke he was drunk, he was being safe by not getting behind the wheel of a car. That should count for something right? Maybe not, but it's at least worth a shot. He argued with me, saying that he just wanted to forget what happened and pay the ticket - even though he can't afford it and he's "in a bad place right now".

 

Well lovey - that's one hell of a bomb to drop on your pregnant wife's lap at 4am.

 

Needless to say, I'm exhausted and want to go home. I've only been here for an hour and I already just want to go home. I'm so worried about him - he's never done anything ridiculous like this....ever. And I don't want it to set a trend for things to come. With his mother being an alcoholic, it makes me very nervous about trendsetting and what will come in the future if this behaviour continues.

 

Whether or not the ticket was justified, I can almost guarentee you that he tried reasoning with the officer, and it probably came off that he was being an arrogant *** which landed him a ticket for being biligerant (oh how I wish I could hand out tickets every time he was biligerant with me when intoxicated).

 

I just feel sick and want to go home. He doesn't seem to understand that him "being in a bad place" puts alot of stress on me, and this baby.

alexis0812

*hugs*

I'm sorry about your DH...I've been there on the "being in a bad place" with my DH & his job...but know that no matter what, things always seem to work themselves out for the best!  Can you leave work and get some rest? sometimes consulting with the pillow makes things seem better...

PM me if you need to vent further, I'm all ears

beanie00914

Oh Shan im sorry you have to deal with this now...have you spoken to him since, try talking to him now that he is calmed down and sobered up.

shanmoyer

I tried talking to him this morning and I got the cold shoulder "it's not your problem, I'll just pay the ticket and forget that it ever happened" response.

Okay fine - if that's how he wants to deal with it then sobeit, I can walk away from it and just forget that it happened too.

However, I cannot and will not forget that he made me cry at 4am and that me makes me stressed out right now. I'm trying to be supportive, and he told me that he doesn't deserve it and that he knows I deserve better.

Okay, then stop being a douche and be better!

AnnaBanana0327

*** hugs ***

Sorry about your night!  I'm sure you are just exhausted too!  I hope your day goes by quickly so you can crawl into bed and get some rest!