MIL sucks the joy out of EVERYTHING

angiek941

My niece on DH's side wants to throw me a baby shower. I really did not expect this, but I was really touched. I told MIL, and she said, "Why would she want to do that?"  I really wasn't sure how to respond to that.  She NEVER gets excited about anything. She's not really excited about the baby and she is the most negative person I've ever met.  Just had to get that out.  Vent over

anabell0920

I think you need to stop telling that woman anything! If she can't even pretend to be happy for you then just don't include her. Sorry that's what I would do!

angiek941

Anabelle, that made me laugh. Yeah, she's insane. I'm DONE talking to her for while.

sherina825

That's really nice of your niece.  Stop talking to her and don't invite your MIL to sh!t.  While she doesn't HAVE to be excited (although she should and I would be hurt if I was in the same situation) it would be nice if she was, but don't let her steal your joy.  That's not fair to you.

KateAndMark

That sucks. Your MIL should have kept her mouth shut.

Jasmine1082

KateAndMark:

That sucks. Your MIL should have kept her mouth shut.

Sorry to hear that! I agree w/ PPs, dont include her in anything for the baby. The older I get the more I realize life is too short to let negative people(and dramatic ones) suck the energy out of me!

StrawberryAlarmClock

I am trying to adopt a new attitude about my MIL and I think it would work for you, too.  My new mentality is: "I'm going to live my life the way I want and if she *chooses* to get her t!ts in a wringer over it - that's her business" HTH

kate930

My MIL is like this. She is obstinate just to be so. If you bring up any topic with her, she has to disagree with you or find something negative. My H and I just talk over her and ignore her negative comments. It probably drives her batty, but I am not letting her spoil my fun.

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We call this kind of person a Fun Sponge. My MIL is similar...no interest in helping with a shower...ILs are going to be gone all summer and then spending 6 months out of the next year in FL when they live 10 min away and are our only family around.

angiek941

StrawberryAlarmClock:

I am trying to adopt a new attitude about my MIL and I think it would work for you, too.  My new mentality is: "I'm going to live my life the way I want and if she *chooses* to get her t!ts in a wringer over it - that's her business" HTH

 

HAHAHA "tits in a wringer" I love it!  Thanks for the good advice guys!

g8trkim

Mine is the same way. I moved here for her son so I have no family in town but she never offered to throw me a bridal or baby shower. She's just completely selfish. I've just learned to deal with it and luckily DH knows how she is.

Aliki

I can relate! My MIL asked me where we were planning on registering, so I told her BRU, and then she said: "I dont believe in baby showers, you know that? I think there are too many things that can go wrong in a pregnancy and couples should take care of their own stuff since they're the ones having the baby."

 

Umm.. Okay.