Behavior Charts

mylove2005

Could you please show me your behavior chart that you use with DC.  Also could you please explain how it works. I am thinking about using it for not listening, being fresh I am not liking the back talk that is coming my way. Also one for school with nap time whether or not she naps and if she was quiet during nap time.  She is being loud and waking up her friends at school. Any help or input or ideas will be more than welcomed

 

thanks so much 

femmegem

Well, the main point of behavior charts the way I do them is to reward good behavior and stop focusing on the negative, so you would be rewarding her good listening. I like to focus on good listening because then you can pretty much cover all other good behaviors. For instance, if your DD is being fresh or backtalking, you calmly ask her to say it in a nicer way. If she listens and starts speaking nicely to you, she'd get a sticker.

This is the way I handle the good listening chart. If I have to ask DS to do something once and he does it, he gets 3 stickers. If I have to ask him twice, he gets two stickers. If I ask him three times, he only gets one sticker, and any more than that he gets no stickers.

When you first start using it you probably want to remind her a lot of what will happen if she does listen well. Sometimes when I've gotten to the point where I've asked DS something twice, I'll say, "Okay, I've asked you twice. Remember that you can still earn one sticker if you listen when I ask you again."

You can really implement the chart however you want, but the important part is that you're rewarding a positive behavior, not using it to punish negative behavior. Once she earns her stickers they're hers. She doesn't lose them for negative behavior.

And after a certain number of stickers she can earn a reward. It's up to you how many you have her earn before she gets her reward, and the reward can be anything: reading a favorite book together, a special trip to the library, watching a favorite show or DVD. You don't have to actually buy her anything, although you can if you want, obviously.

I'm not sure where my sticker chart picture is, but mine looks similar to this one. Obviously it doesn't say anything about books at the top, but it's really just a simple grid.

HTH.