Who will be in the delivery room with you?

Taylor11

I have always said my DH (of course) and mom, but now I am having 2nd thoughts on my mom being in the room.  I am getting really anxious and nervous about the pain level and delivery in general, and feel like the fewer people, the better and more I can focus.  I also kind of feel like it's something special I want just DH and I to share together.  I think my mom will be hurt if I tell her, as I just assumed I would feel comfortable w/her there.  Now that it's getting closer, I am really having 2nd thoughts....  What are you doing?

IrishBrideND

DH. IMO its a private moment for the new parents.

 

I think its odd that some would even think to be offended if they weren't included. Its nice that some want to include others. But I don't understand those who take offensse.

trapani2be

Just DH, same as last time.  But honestly, I think the room could have been packed with strangers last time and I wouldn't have noticed..I was very focused on getting him out ASAP! lol

 

Mrs.ABC

Just DH and medical staff. I don't need any extra attention on my hoohaa!

Baby_Bunny_Hopeful

I'm unsure... I wanted just me and DH... but now I'm thinking of having my mom, and possibly my MIL in there.... since I'm my mom's only daughter, and my MIL doesn't have any girls...

But DH says it should be just me and him....

Ugh.... I don't know!!

RaphSandra2005

With DS my whole family was there while I was laboring (both parents and my 2 sisters) along with DH.  I ended up with a c-section, but they would have all left before pushing started, leaving me with just DH.  I plan the same for this labor/delivery as well, except the c-section hopefully!

ameliaandmatt

IrishBrideND:

DH. IMO its a private moment for the new parents.

 

I think its odd that some would even think to be offended if they weren't included. Its nice that some want to include others. But I don't understand those who take offensse.

This.

jmarie17

I was in the same boat as you.  I always thought I'd have my Mom in there with us for extra support.  Now as it's getting closer I think it would be more special if it was just my Husband and I. 

Mhild

Just DH and our doula. I had thought about having my mom there too but eventually decided against it.

KristinKD

I'll have DH and my mom, just as I did with DD1. I was happy to have my mom there for extra support, and it wasn't until afterwards that I found out how much it meant to her to be there with me.

witoga

DH only. I prefer it be something we experience on our own - if you are having second thoughts I wouold recommend just telling your mom how you feel - she may be a bit hurt at first but I am sure she would understand.

jilicious

Just my DH and medical staff. The family is welcome to come greet little buddy once he or she is out and in my arms, but not while I'm laboring. It seems so intrusive and distracting.

mommyrenee

probably just dh .. but hopefully my mom too. that really depends if theres someone else to watch DS.

with ds my mom and mil were there as well & it was great. the only person that saw 'down there' was dh (besides the ob of course). it meant a lot to them.

Janacash

Initially I just wanted my mother because I thought I would want to murder my DH for putting me through this pain (haha) but then I thought...who will be there to get me ice chips? So I've reconsidered....the DH will be in the room along with likely my mother to catch the DH (doesnt do well with anything medical)

Fillegirl25

My husband and I. He is very insistent that it just be him and I...I think my Mom will be in and out until the actual delivery

mommyrenee

KristinKD:

I'll have DH and my mom, just as I did with DD1. I was happy to have my mom there for extra support, and it wasn't until afterwards that I found out how much it meant to her to be there with me.

ditto this. my mil STILL talks about it & it made her tear up for a while after. DH is an only child so she would never experience it if we didnt give her the chance.

evasecka

Just DH like with the first. My mom is welcome to come in and out while I am in labor but I just want DH there for the delivery! My mother in law was dead set that she was going to be in there, I almost laughed right outloud, causewe had never talked about it but she had already conviced herself she was coming in. I had have DH let her down easily!

KSEDmini

Just DH. My parents are divorced and remarried. I'm not having 2 sets of parents and DH's parents in with us and I'm not going to pick and choose the parents that will be allowed in. 

Aa+C

I'm in the same boat...my mom and I are very close and I have already told her I want her in the room, but now I kinda want it to be just DH and me, it's sorta "our moment" However, if my sister makes it there in time, (she'll be driving up from NC) I want her in the room. She has always been able to talk me through anything like no one else can! But, we'll see...I may have mom in and out while I'm laboring but then kick her out when it comes time to push....

daniellejeanne35

J and my mom. It was J who actually told me he thinks we should let my mom in the room. He and my mom are very close. (He lost his mom 2 years ago)

It also means a lot to my mom. I'm her only daughter. She had c-sections with both my brother and I (planned and asleep for both). She's really excited to be there and experience labor with me.

Also, J doesnt do well with blood. He gets squeemish watching Nip/Tuck! It'll be nice to have someone solid there, too. haha 

Calibride31304

DH and possibly my best friend (who is like a sis to me) to take pictures.  I wouldn't mind if my mom was in there, but then DH would want his mom in there and well, I don't want my entire area on display for the family to see, nor would I want my MIL in my face or my newborn's face right after delivery. 

GreysGirl

I am going to have MH and my mom, my mom is really comforting. MH really tries but I know him seeing me in so much pain is going to upset him so I think having my mom there too will be more calming.

brookiedawn

It will definitely be just me and DH.  I know that my MIL expects to be in there (because she was present when my niece and nephew were born), but I don't want to share that moment with anyone else, other than the person who helped me create it. 

MoriahAnn

I plan on having my DH, my mom, and my cousin.  Honestly, I think I may need other people there to help my DH along. haha He gets SUPER emotional, and I don't know if he is going to be able to handle the whole situation without help from them! My cousin like a sister to me, and is a lot more calm than my DH, so I am counting on her to keep me sane while my mom keeps the DH sane. haha

amykins1283

It's going to be my husband, me, and any necessary medical personnel.  That's it.  Although, I might make an exception for my mom if for some reason I freak out and want her there.  Sometimes, you just need your mom .

alabaster_angel

The Husband & The Mom

paratender83

only 2 are allowed back during vaginal delivery and one during c section. My mother has been a doula for 8+ years and she is also a certified tech in labor and delivery at the hospital that I'm giving birth at. She's been on staff for 30 years so even if I need a c-section my mother will assist with that. I feel very lucky to know that my mom will not only have the motherly knowledge to help me but also knowledge that the hospital trust to help with other deliveries every day.

emolee84

just DH

kirkette

emolee84:

just DH

Same here. Everyone else can be in the waiting room.

Sara8

Just DH and the slew of medical professionals that will surley be in my room. . .LOL

mrsjohnny

IrishBrideND:

DH. IMO its a private moment for the new parents.

This. 

Lexi0402

DH and maybe my mom if I freak out.

MrsBalletStar05

DH.  That is all.

jorden&kristin

DH and BFF. DH is not one for blood and stress so I know, and he even said it himself, that I will need someone else in there just in case!

 

no mothers at all! 

FutureMrsDavidson

DH and my mom

paxilchyk

DH.  We want time to bond as a family before we get overwhelmed with visitors and have to play "pass the baby."  I also know my mom is the smothering type so I probably would go off on her for trying to "help."

MrsHollyMetesh

Hey! I'm having the DH and my mom, because she's studying to be a surgical tech and actually wants to watch the birth--and she's really good dealing with my severe anxiety about needles, blood, etc But your mom IS NOT the one having the baby--you are! I think you and the DH should come to an agreement and you should just tell her you'd feel more comfortable if she were with you in spirit...or in the waiting room!

**Purr-Fection**

I'm having a scheduled C-section, so it will be just DH and I.

teelaman

One of my SIL's actually had about 5 or 6 people in the room (including myself) when she had my youngest nephew....and my other SIL only had my brother and her mom in the room....and having been on the other end of both types of situation....it's just going to be me and DH. I don't really care that this is his mom's first grandchild....she can see her when she gets here....in fact, I already told him that we're not calling anyone down to the delivery room - except my mom (in case I freak out and think I need her) - until I'm dilated almost halfway. Since I don't plan on letting anyone in the room til I'm done...there's no reason for everyone to sit in those uncomfortable chairs waiting for hours (cause I've been there, done that, and it sucks). Of course we'll call them and tell them I've gone into labor...but we'll also tell everyone else to wait until we call again to come down.