Worried about vanishing twin

SSFaith

I hate to post something that's such a downer, but I need to know if anyone else was in this situation and to hear some success stories if you were.

 I had my first u/s at 6w1d and found out we're having twins.  B was smaller than A, but not by much.  2nd u/s was today at 7w2d.  B is now much smaller than A, but their heartbeats are close (162 and 173 with B the faster one). 

After the u/s my RE told me that there was a 20% chance we'd lose Baby B in the next week or two, and we're just so upset at the possibility.  I know it's not that uncommon, and there is an 80% chance it won't happen, but of course I'm still terrified. 

 Did anyone have the same warning about a vanishing twin in your first tri and still go on to deliver two healthy babies?  I could use some words of enouragement.

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i was never told i had a specific chance, but told that sometimes it happens - so not to be shocked if it did....

my boys always measured a few days apart- and were 2lbs apart at birth (totally healthy at 38w) - so i wouldn't worry too much -esp since you have seen the HBs for both and they are good. 

there's nothing you can do to prevent it- so you just have to learn to deal with the worries- that are normal for all pregnancies- and only get worse when your babies are here!    Lots of prayer is what helps me get through it!

 

SSFaith

Thank you, Goldie.  You're right- it's just the start of a lifetime of worry   Since I can't do anything else, I'll keep praying.

 They are measuring 5 days off right now.  My H thinks they only made a point of saying this to CYA, but of course he's still worried, too. 

Hilarigh

We found out we were having twins at 5 weeks and I worried about vanishing twin from week 5 until 12. I tried to tell myself that worrying doesn't help anything but it's hard to not worry. Try to focus on the fact that you were able to see both HBs.

 

Good luck.

SMILEYD

Just have to think positive!

I too feel a little nervous and scared. My sono was at 8 1/2wks and that is when I found out twins. We heard both HB's and she said that baby b was about 2/3 days behind (also smaller).

I think with any pregnancy, being singleton or twins, the 1st trimester is one we all want to get past and feel safe.

ETA: I wasnt even told that (percentage) and if anything to no think like that at all and with strong hb's its a good sign.

kaiteedidit

I was warned about it also. I wasn't given a certain percentage but just told that it could happen. 

efhoping2010

I think everyone with a multiples pregnancy worries about this in the first trimester.  And sadly, there is really nothing you can do about it.  I think the fact that you have seen two strong heartbeats is a good sign.  Also your twins measuring apart is probably no cause for alarm.  If they are fraternal they could have implanted on different days or one could just be larger than the other.  One of my twins is 1oz larger and measuring about 5 days ahead of the other.  So it is not unusual.  Take care and good luck 

aussiebride2

I always had one twin (girl) smaller than the other, they did warn me but it never happened!!!

ChiBride2007

I was told that once we saw both strong heartbeats then the chance of early loss went down dramatically (maybe 2-5%) I worried like crazy about vanishing twin. Honestly, I almost wish I would have found out about having twins later so that I wouldn't have been so worried in those early weeks. It's tough but try not to focus on it. Those heartbeats sound great and it's not unusual for twins to measure different (those measurements are totally not an exactly science) Good luck!

SSFaith

You've all made me feel a ton better- thank you for being supportive!

finallyreilly

We had a vanishing triplet at week 8 and I worried until week 12 that we would have a vanishing twin since one was a few days behind.  I know it is hard not to worry, but it sounds like the heartbeats are great for both.  GL!!

Nikki1007

I was warned about it at every appointment until the end of the first tri. Baby A always measured a few days behind Baby B up until my last u/s at 18 weeks, then she was bigger. They grow at their own rates. I was very worried at the beginning about Baby A.  There is always something to worry about. YOu just have to try to enjoy your pregnancy and not let yourself get too worked up.