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Today DH is back to work and i dont have family around to help.  I have been alone w/ the LOs while he worked over time but today starts reality!!!! I know i can do it just worried if they both freak how i will sooth both at the same time.  in any event i decided to start this AM off right and realize that every time they coo or groan i dont have to be by thier side.  so i decided that i would finally do my hair!!! (i got a new hair cut almost 2 weeks ago and besides the day it was cut its been a rats nest!!) i feelso empowered that i was able to relax do my hair and the babies were just fine despite a little groaning!  Please pray the rest of today goes as well and i can gain the confidence to take care of the LOs on my own w/o stressing out too much!  PS these are my 1st babies if you cant tell!!!hahaha

courtneyaok

Good for you!  I definitely think it's important to take little "time-outs" for yourself throughout the day!

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you can do it!

and yes- it's important to have some time for you to make yourself look nice so you feel better about you. 

I shower every other day - but i get dressed, do my hair and makeup - EVERY DAY - and I have twins + a toddler!  There are a ton of ways to make it happen - i do whatever works for that day... usually when the babies are napping and DS1 will hang out with me or watch a DVD in his crib (portable DVD players are great!)

I'm always amazed at posts from moms of one who say "I haven't been able to shower in days" -seroiusly?? Even with a needy baby - it won't kill the child to cry for 5 minutes while you shower. 

As for soothing both at the same time- you'll find ways to do it that work for you and the situation. You start to feel like an octopus - using legs, arms, random fingers, etc lol

#1_BadgeBunny

Goldie let me just start by saying you are my idol!!! i am always reading your responces and you seem to just have it so together!!!! I wish i could have you come to my house and give me lessons in taking care of my LOs!!!

I agree i shower at least every other day and get dressed everyday.  at first i didnt but once i started getting up and creating a morning routine i felt so much better about the day! for instance this am the LOs were pissed but mom HAD to have coffee this am so i quickly made a pot while making hier bottels i figured they had to lay in the crib and be pissed while i made the bottles what 2 more mintues? 

hahaha DH and i are always saying geeeeeze 1 baby would be soooo easy what does everyone complain about hahahaha!!!

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GL today.  DH is only taking this week off (thankfully next week will be short) but I'm terrified to be by myself with the twins and DS1.  Baby wearing is always an option if one baby is especially needy.  I have a couple of Moby's and an Ergo, just have to learn how to do the twin hold with the Moby soon.

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#1_BadgeBunny:

Goldie let me just start by saying you are my idol!!! i am always reading your responces and you seem to just have it so together!!!! I wish i could have you come to my house and give me lessons in taking care of my LOs!!!

I agree i shower at least every other day and get dressed everyday.  at first i didnt but once i started getting up and creating a morning routine i felt so much better about the day! for instance this am the LOs were pissed but mom HAD to have coffee this am so i quickly made a pot while making hier bottels i figured they had to lay in the crib and be pissed while i made the bottles what 2 more mintues? 

hahaha DH and i are always saying geeeeeze 1 baby would be soooo easy what does everyone complain about hahahaha!!!

awe- thanks That is sweet.  i used to be a kidnergarten teacher- i think that has something to do with me being able to manage the 3 kids - because it's not 26 like i had all day by myself when i was a teacher!

I am also very mellow - i let things just roll as they may... because getting upset over little things doesn't help - you have to laugh when things go wrong (like Gibby puking all over me and the couch today - that was fun!). you can't stress about the house being clean or fabulous meals being cooked - what matters is time with the kids - and some time for you each day, too

rasuhu

Good for you!  I remember the first time being truly alone with them too. I'm glad you can talk to us on here & that everyone is being supportive of you. I had posted my fears on a different MB (not a mom board) and I had lots of rude replies that just made me feel even worse!

I'm glad you found time to do your hair! I need to be better about taking care of myself. I usually only shower every 3 days, and often forget to even brush my teeth on the days I don't. I don't really have an excuse...just laziness I guess, because I know I'm not going to be leaving the house!  Or now, it's winter, so if I need to I can just throw on a stocking cap!

amanda31H

Goldie_Locks_5:

you can do it!

and yes- it's important to have some time for you to make yourself look nice so you feel better about you. 

I shower every other day - but i get dressed, do my hair and makeup - EVERY DAY - and I have twins + a toddler!  There are a ton of ways to make it happen - i do whatever works for that day... usually when the babies are napping and DS1 will hang out with me or watch a DVD in his crib (portable DVD players are great!)

I'm always amazed at posts from moms of one who say "I haven't been able to shower in days" -seroiusly?? Even with a needy baby - it won't kill the child to cry for 5 minutes while you shower. 

As for soothing both at the same time- you'll find ways to do it that work for you and the situation. You start to feel like an octopus - using legs, arms, random fingers, etc lol

I love that you mentioned you do your hair and makeup every day!  It's uplifting to know that it's not impossible!  Thank you!!!