Anyone planning their own shower?

babycrane

I am glad this post went up!!!

This is a very entertaining one! YES!!!!

anabell0920

sherina825:

anabell0920:

Peony81:

Something tells me that your reasoning is more about the "no one will do it how I want it done" than the "I feel bad having someone spend all that money on me".

IMO, people know how much it will cost to throw a shower, they wouldn't offer if they didn't want to spend it on you. 

I completely agree that's what I got from her post as well!

If that is how I felt that is what I would have said.  I felt bad having my friends spend money on bridesmaid's dresses when I got married (and they weren't expensive).  All of my friends are early 20's and just starting out.  They don't have the money to spend $200 on throwing a party.  I am grateful that they offered and that is why I think that it's a little selfish to ask them to spit out a bunch of money to feed and entertain my friends. 

As another poster said, it will be more them planning and me helping.  They will come to me with information and I will tell them how I feel regarding this or that.  I will also contribute financially and it will be hosted at my house because I have the room and am in a central location.

You do realize you can go back and edit instead of posting this bs twice and adding a sentence or two. Like I said to your first version if you were really that worried about others money you would not be having a shower period because that involves people spending money on gifts.

americanada

well now it sounds like you are just doing it for your friends' sake...don't bother if it's not what you want...and you are highly overestimating the amount of time it requires to plan a baby shower. as previous posters have said: if they offered to throw it, they know what it entails....let it go!

sherina825

anabell0920:

sherina825:

anabell0920:

Peony81:

Something tells me that your reasoning is more about the "no one will do it how I want it done" than the "I feel bad having someone spend all that money on me".

IMO, people know how much it will cost to throw a shower, they wouldn't offer if they didn't want to spend it on you. 

I completely agree that's what I got from her post as well!

If that is how I felt that is what I would have said.  I felt bad having my friends spend money on bridesmaid's dresses when I got married (and they weren't expensive).  All of my friends are early 20's and just starting out.  They don't have the money to spend $200 on throwing a party.  I am grateful that they offered and that is why I think that it's a little selfish to ask them to spit out a bunch of money to feed and entertain my friends. 

As another poster said, it will be more them planning and me helping.  They will come to me with information and I will tell them how I feel regarding this or that.  I will also contribute financially and it will be hosted at my house because I have the room and am in a central location.

You do realize you can go back and edit instead of posting this bs twice and adding a sentence or two. Like I said to your first version if you were really that worried about others money you would not be having a shower period because that involves people spending money on gifts.

Please don't just read what you want...  I said that it is not necessary for them to spend money on the shower.  If you read my other post you would have seen that the sole purpose for this "shower" is to fellowship with my friends and not to get free gifts.  Please get all the info before you comment.  BTW putting out $200 (which I'm sure the hostesses will average) on a shower and buying a $20 gift (which are about the costs of what my friends would spend) are drastic differences. 

americanada

the whole point of a baby shower is to 'shower' the mother to be with gifts...it's expected that if you are invited to a shower, you bring a gift.  it sounds like that's not what you want.  it would suit you better to have a post baby meet and greet, so why don't you just wait until after the baby is born and do that?

anabell0920

americanada:

the whole point of a baby shower is to 'shower' the mother to be with gifts...it's expected that if you are invited to a shower, you bring a gift.  it sounds like that's not what you want.  it would suit you better to have a post baby meet and greet, so why don't you just wait until after the baby is born and do that?

Yah I suggested that twice now to her seems like SHE is reading what she wants. Don't waste your breath anymore on her! 

anabell0920

Lets just hope for a GBCP

LaurenSweat

Wow, I must be some sort of budgeting genius.  I have hosted three showers in the past year and all have cost me less than $100.  I have been the only host and the average amount of people in attendance was 40.  It is amazing what some sam's club chicken salad, croissants, veggie tray and chips can do.  

KristinKD

sherina825:

KristinKD:

You sound like a peach.

And you sound like a b!tch.

This may be true, but at least I'm not a self-professed control freak who can't trust my friends when they offer to do something nice for me.

kategw

sherina825:

anabell0920:

Peony81:

Something tells me that your reasoning is more about the "no one will do it how I want it done" than the "I feel bad having someone spend all that money on me".

IMO, people know how much it will cost to throw a shower, they wouldn't offer if they didn't want to spend it on you. 

I completely agree that's what I got from her post as well!

If that is how I felt that is what I would have said.  I felt bad having my friends spend money on bridesmaid's dresses when I got married (and they weren't expensive).  All of my friends are early 20's and just starting out.  They don't have the money to spend $200 on throwing a party.  I am grateful that they offered and that is why I think that it's a little selfish to ask them to spit out a bunch of money to feed and entertain my friends. 

As another poster said, it will be more them planning and me helping.  They will come to me with information and I will tell them how I feel regarding this or that.  I will also contribute financially and it will be hosted at my house because I have the room and am in a central location.

 

I have a SIL that does this, has other people plan things for her, but then directs everything from the sidelines from the timing, locations and  decorations to the invitations and food.  She too is a control freak and she just comes across as ungrateful and pushy.  Be honored that you have people who care about you enough to host a shower for you. 

sherina825

KristinKD:

sherina825:

KristinKD:

You sound like a peach.

And you sound like a b!tch.

This may be true, but at least I'm not a self-professed control freak who can't trust my friends when they offer to do something nice for me.

Well at least we can agree on something.

sherina825

anabell0920:

americanada:

the whole point of a baby shower is to 'shower' the mother to be with gifts...it's expected that if you are invited to a shower, you bring a gift.  it sounds like that's not what you want.  it would suit you better to have a post baby meet and greet, so why don't you just wait until after the baby is born and do that?

This isn't out of the question.  I just have really good friends and a lot of them are excited about me having a baby and being pregnant and I would love to spend time with them, especially with all the drama that goes on with a pregnancy.  Honestly, I don't care if they bring gifts or not. 

Yah I suggested that twice now to her seems like SHE is reading what she wants. Don't waste your breath anymore on her! 

You are a definate genius that you waste breath typing.  Maybe muscle usage, energy or even time, but breath, that's a bit dramatic.  And honestly, if you don't like what I have said, you don't have to read it or comment on it.  That's why we have the freedom of choice.  Don't get your panties in a bunch because I said something you don't like.  I NEVER asked you specifically for your opinion, you offered it and if you didn't want to you didn't have to. 

anabell0920

sherina825:

anabell0920:

americanada:

the whole point of a baby shower is to 'shower' the mother to be with gifts...it's expected that if you are invited to a shower, you bring a gift.  it sounds like that's not what you want.  it would suit you better to have a post baby meet and greet, so why don't you just wait until after the baby is born and do that?

This isn't out of the question.  I just have really good friends and a lot of them are excited about me having a baby and being pregnant and I would love to spend time with them, especially with all the drama that goes on with a pregnancy.  Honestly, I don't care if they bring gifts or not. 

Yah I suggested that twice now to her seems like SHE is reading what she wants. Don't waste your breath anymore on her! 

You are a definate genius that you waste breath typing.  Maybe muscle usage, energy or even time, but breath, that's a bit dramatic.  And honestly, if you don't like what I have said, you don't have to read it or comment on it.  That's why we have the freedom of choice.  Don't get your panties in a bunch because I said something you don't like.  I NEVER asked you specifically for your opinion, you offered it and if you didn't want to you didn't have to. 

 

Oh and since you are bringing up how much of a genius I am it's spelled definite not definate.

biddybaby

This post deserves one of these

sherina825

LaurelBee:

lydia_w:

I've been trying to figure out what to do about this as well. My problem is that dh's family is so big and all of our male friends want to come. I'm looking at @ 50 people. There is no way that many people are fitting into my house and it will be in feb. so having it at a park is out. I'm having a hard time finding a hall or rec center that is under $100 an hr. and am not comfortable with anyone spending that much on a shower!

 

What about at a church?  You should make it a pot luck if you're worried about feeding that many people...

 

 I have the room to have it at my house, that's why I named the post "Throwing your own shower".  I also told my friends that I would prefer a pot luck for that exact reason so that they aren't slaving for two days cooking food.  I could buy the plates, cups and flatware.  They could set up, take gifts and greet guests or whatever else hostesses do. 

melissainabq

According to your bio page:

my job

Community Activist , Educatior , Graduate Student

 

Where on earth are you an "educatior" that can not spell basic words? 

sherina825

anabell0920:

sherina825:

anabell0920:

americanada:

the whole point of a baby shower is to 'shower' the mother to be with gifts...it's expected that if you are invited to a shower, you bring a gift.  it sounds like that's not what you want.  it would suit you better to have a post baby meet and greet, so why don't you just wait until after the baby is born and do that?

This isn't out of the question.  I just have really good friends and a lot of them are excited about me having a baby and being pregnant and I would love to spend time with them, especially with all the drama that goes on with a pregnancy.  Honestly, I don't care if they bring gifts or not. 

Yah I suggested that twice now to her seems like SHE is reading what she wants. Don't waste your breath anymore on her! 

You are a definate genius that you waste breath typing.  Maybe muscle usage, energy or even time, but breath, that's a bit dramatic.  And honestly, if you don't like what I have said, you don't have to read it or comment on it.  That's why we have the freedom of choice.  Don't get your panties in a bunch because I said something you don't like.  I NEVER asked you specifically for your opinion, you offered it and if you didn't want to you didn't have to. 

 

Oh and since you are bringing up how much of a genius I am it's spelled definite not definate.

Close... but no cigar.  Spelling's not a sign of intelligence (according to my research in pursuit of my Master's Degree). 

MWoodside

To answer your original question- no I am not throwing my own shower.  Personally I feel it's tacky to be involved in your own shower.  Do whatever you want because I really don't care.  But if you are as concerned with your friends finances as you seem to be in your repeated responses & you "don't really like baby showers" then you should just not have a shower at all.

sherina825

melissainabq:

According to your bio page:

my job

Community Activist , Educatior , Graduate Student

 

Where on earth are you an "educatior" that can not spell basic words? 

Sorry...  You don't have to be a master typist to be an educator.  For argument's sake though, look at my previous post. 

melissainabq

No but a decent command of the language is necessary.

charlies-angel

Without reading all of the rest of the responses, I will just say that throwing your own shower is very tacky.

sherina825

melissainabq:

No but a decent command of the language is necessary.

Exactly.  So please learn how to use commas if you want to post on something I have said.  In addition, you can tell from my previous posts that I have a strong command of the English language.  Thanks.

lydia_w

LaurelBee:

lydia_w:

I've been trying to figure out what to do about this as well. My problem is that dh's family is so big and all of our male friends want to come. I'm looking at @ 50 people. There is no way that many people are fitting into my house and it will be in feb. so having it at a park is out. I'm having a hard time finding a hall or rec center that is under $100 an hr. and am not comfortable with anyone spending that much on a shower!

 

What about at a church?  You should make it a pot luck if you're worried about feeding that many people...

I loved the idea of a church, but the pricing has been the same as other places. My mom is the one throwing the shower and her fiance was just laid off so it's pretty bad timing money wise. I think I'll let her do all of the planning and give her money for the site. That way I'll still be supprised and not have to feel so guilty about it.  

homebird

you are an idiot. *gavel*