are you keeping your names a secret?

aoverlock

dh and i decided that we were going to keep the name choice a secret from our family and friends.  (we don't have it picked out yet... thanks to all who voted on my name poll last night and if you didn't but want to let me know and i will post the link again).  if you are keeping your LO's name a secret, how are people taking it? most people are fine with it, my mom keeps dropping little hints and asking me if we've decided yet, but my sister begs me pretty much every time we talk to tell her the name! am i the only one getting hounded?

lil_rhody

We haven't told our families yet, but I guess we'll just keep telling them we haven't decided yet, and might not until the delivery room! Both sides have a little problem with filtering before speaking, and we just don't want to hear / deal with other people's opinions!

Lisa10e

We wanted to keep the name a secret, me more then dh. Dh ended up telling his parents and his parents told my mom. I was pretty upset people found out. But I guess his parents kept hounding him. dh just isnt good at keeping secrets, I'm hoping he wont tell anyone else before hes born.

aoverlock

lil_rhody:

 Both sides have a little problem with filtering before speaking, and we just don't want to hear / deal with other people's opinions!

that is exactly why we are not telling before he is born!

Mrs. Diss

We're keeping the name a secret till she's born. I could care less but H wants it to be a surprise since everyone knows we're having a girl. My family isn't thrilled and has made that known but most other people seem to understand.

Irishsapphire

I am the kind of person that would just say that I have a couple of names in mind, but I would like to meet my child first, and then the name would be announced. 

CanonMom

we are undecided on a girls name ( we have a boys name) but want to try to keep the names secret until birth. But it may be hard for us being I like to refer to my LO by name even in the womb. I always referred to DD by her name way before she was born and it just made everything so real. It would be SO hard to not slip around family and friends. But we arent making a HUGE announcement either.

Kelanne

I think we will.  We told some friends last night and one of them didn't like our name choices at all.  Just me . . . but if I didn't like someone's name choice - I wouldn't tell them to their face.  LOL 

I think we'll just say we haven't decided yet . . . which is true for our boy name. 

JennLuvsMatt

We haven't decided on a name yet but even when we do I don't think we're going to tell people because I don't want everyone opinion on it.  I was talking to someone about name choices and she told me that one of the names my DH likes sounds like a stripper and asked if we were register for a strip pole.  I am just going to tell people we haven't decided yet. 

aoverlock

JennLuvsMatt:

  I was talking to someone about name choices and she told me that one of the names my DH likes sounds like a stripper and asked if we were register for a strip pole.   

what??? how could someone say that? that is ridiculous.

Eviebee

We kept DDs a secret, it was the only thing no one had heard before she was here, and I didn't say it out loud until she was in my arms (spent 20 min being suctioned while I was stitched before I got to see her).  It was great keeping that a secret since everyone knew she was a girl.  This time we are team green and haven't decided on names yet, so it may be a surprise for us too. 

AmysMelody

We've had the opposite reaction.  We've had names picked out since before we were married.  Now that we know it's a girl, people are surprised that we have a name already.  I wanted to share the name because I know that  I would slip up and ruin the secret, I'm sure!  But we haven't gotten a single bad reaction to our name.  Most people ask and after we tell them they say "oh, very nice." Whether they mean it or not.  It's easier to tell people the name when you've officially decided on it rather than when you're choosing.  If you're still choosing, people will feel the need to put in their two cents.  But once you've decided, people pretty much shut up about it.  At least that's my experience.

Lissa003

I can't keep my mouth shut so everybody will know when we pick names

emma9

We're keeping the names a secret - even close friends have no filter- I've discovered -

I will share here, of course , but no IRL !! until we meet the baby !

We're having a hard time with our girl's name, boys is pretty set

aoverlock

emma9:

We're having a hard time with our girl's name, boys is pretty set

that's kind of funny, we were having an easier time picking a girls name and he ended up being a boy what is your boy name if you don't mind me asking?

Bride2b2004

Yes.  I have no interest in having anyone "ruin" our names.  Been there, done that.  We don't say that we aren't telling, we just speak in vague terms about names we are considering and NEVER mention the ones we really like and will likely use.  If you turn the conversation around and ask them what their favorites are, that usually distracts them.  With DS at the end, we told the really persistent people we were naming the baby Hannibal Gomer if it was a boy.  That led to so much conversation that we really never had to worry about anyone ruining our real names.  In the end, we gracefully acknowledged that MIL (and everyone else's) opinions were probably right and we decided to name the baby Michael instead... ANYTHING would have been deemed wonderful after they worried about Hannibal for weeks.  

Bride2b2004

aoverlock:

JennLuvsMatt:

  I was talking to someone about name choices and she told me that one of the names my DH likes sounds like a stripper and asked if we were register for a strip pole.   

what??? how could someone say that? that is ridiculous.

Yup.  Unfortunately, you would be surprised with what people will say about prospective names.   This is why we had to invent the decoy name I mentioned in my earlier post.  Let them ruin a name we hate anyway!

nicobean1

aoverlock:

JennLuvsMatt:

  I was talking to someone about name choices and she told me that one of the names my DH likes sounds like a stripper and asked if we were register for a strip pole.   

what??? how could someone say that? that is ridiculous.

I went to a baby shower earlier today and the mom-to-be told us someone said the same to her. And I thought the name she chose was lovely - Aubryn.

superaunt

for the most part people have totally respected our decision, oddly enough. I was expecting a lot more hounding than we got but we just kind of lied and said that we had a couple names we were thinking of (when in reality we've know the name since the day we found out girl) and people have been OK with that.

erinkate23

Because we're having a boy and DH is David the 8th, it wasn't really a secret that our son will be David the 9th.

 

Our friends kept their name secret by saying that they had a few choices, but couldn't name a child till they met her.  They said - what if we pick "Mary" and she doesn't look like a "Mary"? 

It also kept the "You're naming the baby WHAT" comments out of the way completely.   I thought it was an elegant way to handle the situation.

sept9107bride

we were going to but then just told.  the girl name everyone pretty much knew because it was also the name we had picked before the first 2 m/c.  the boy name got mixed reactions which I did not care at all about.  I am SOOO glad we told though. my fam was fine and I could tell held in any thoughts if they disagreed.  DH's fam was of course ridiculous.  his mom said "what about Robert or Michael" and of course I knew the biggest problems would be from his 18 year old sister.  she has NO FILTER and thinks whatever she says is fine (sample...we picked out paint colors for our house and told us...no offense, but I don't like these AND here are the colors I would pick out if I were you).  ugh!  so of course her response was totally rude and inappropriate.  I actually felt bad for DH because he usually lets her comments go but I could see it got to him a bit.  HOWEVER I was so glad we told because if his sister would have said those things in the hospital I would have hit her and then threw her out for ruining one of the best days of our life! crisis averted! (we did tell extended family, but not really friends or coworkers)

sept9107bride

AmysMelody:

to tell people the name when you've officially decided on it rather than when you're choosing.  If you're still choosing, people will feel the need to put in their two cents.  But once you've decided, people pretty much shut up about it.  At least that's my experience.

 I agree with this!  people didn't have much feedback since we said we knew what we wanted!

hokiefan04

We both agreed that we wanted to keep his name a secret. And its really fun that only DH and I know! It's almost like the excitement before we told everyone that we were pregnant again. Most people have accepted that we're not telling - but some are pushier than others.

We also don't call him by name when we're talking about him in private just in case we might accidentally slip up when talking to someone else.

erpetdoc

We're definitely going to keep it a secret.  My parents, specifically, my mom swears that we will cave and tell her before the baby is born.  She (right now) doesn't know we're pregnant again, but when she does, I'm sure she'll try to get it out of me.  We're sticking firm to just telling them that they'll meet Little H. after he/she is born.