Erghhh... FB friend issue

ArcticFox

My friend I've kept in touch with on FB is being super annoying.  We had a great time talking throughout our pregnancies (and we even had m/c's the same time last fall), and we had our babies 2 weeks apart.

Thing is, she just had her first baby and I'm on baby #2.. and every.single.time I go online on FB, she IMs me.  I'm always having to run (and I'm honest with her - like the kids are screaming, I was just popping by before lunch, DH just got home, DD's bath time.. etc etc etc)..

But she is constantly giving me unsolicited advice, and really pushing it on me.. like don't co-sleep, I need to force my 8 week old onto a schedule, etc (she's the one starting rice cereal at 6 weeks).  I appreciate that she wants to help but our styles are so totally different and sometimes I just want to have a conversation without her telling me what to do.  And it is her telling me, not offering it as an idea.

It stinks because I like to chat with friends online a lot but her style has gotten a little abrasive.  The few moments I do have to chat, she stresses me out.. I don't know what to do!!?

xKimx

That would bug me! Especially since you have a beautiful thriving toddler already, its almost like she's implying you didn't do it the right way with her either.

Have you said to her something along the lines of we have very different parenting styles but I'm glad we can agree to disagree? Or just blocking your chat feature?

MelissaSue81

Umm.. well if you really can't take it.. you can make it so you appear offline to certain people.. make a group called "offline" and move anyone you don't want to talk to into that group..

as far as the unsolicited advice. I think everyone has someone like that in their life.. It SUCKS.. you just have to ignore it and try not to take it personal. You know what works for you.. especially since you've done it before.

MarcyIam

MelissaSue81:

Umm.. well if you really can't take it.. you can make it so you appear offline to certain people.. make a group called "offline" and move anyone you don't want to talk to into that group..

as far as the unsolicited advice. I think everyone has someone like that in their life.. It SUCKS.. you just have to ignore it and try not to take it personal. You know what works for you.. especially since you've done it before.

I'm not on FB so can't help with that piece, but wanted to say how true this statement is.  And my friend who does this doesn't heven ave any kids!  (nor even married, pregnant, has never really babysat, etc... - so annoying!).

ArcticFox

ohhh thanks!  I didn't know you could make yourself look offline to certain people!!! yay!

I appreciate her trying to "help" me but it has gotten out of control. and I don't want to hear her telling me about feeding her 6 week old rice cereal or doing CIO with him.  Hopefully she'll calm down a little with the advice if I avoid her a little.

jnk062602

ArcticFox:

feeding her 6 week old rice cereal or doing CIO with him. 

I would try saying what Kim said bc maybe she will realize what she is doing.  If she acts that way to you, she probably acts that way to others too.  If she still persists, then make her offline.

MelissaSue81

PS.. I left out a little piece of the how to go offline to certain people.. once you make the group, you have to switch the little green dot to "offline".. it sort of slides over and goes grey..

mommabird77

Yeah, making yourself offline and can be great!  I just want to say that I think that really sucks she is being like that, especially since you already have a toddler!  Like she thinks you don't know what you are doing!