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lvisser

mabst196:

I like the Brittany Spears song "3"

Like?  I LOVE - and I love the music video even better.  The girl to the right of her on the poll - HOTNESS.   

 

 

KMLP

redstars93:

And since it looks like this is going to be another all about pregnancy thread, I am out of here.

I wish we could have one day that this wasn't the 4th tri.

 

I agree.  Not to be bitter betty, but I would love to  not see posts complaining about being pregnant.  I would love to still be pregnant.  I would love to have my baby bump right now and still feel sick all damn day, but I don't.   

HellsBelle08

tonysbride2b:

I'm really pissed at my dad. He has played favorite my whole life, and has spoiled my sister rotten. I try not to let it bother me too much because I know I've turned out to be a better person since I wasn't spoiled my whole life. However, I find out, via my sister's facebook status, that she's going on vacation with my dad and her son to Florida next week. Mind you, my sister lives with my parents, has no job, pays no rent or bills, and uses my mom as her personal babysitter often as she's always going out. It bothers me to no end that my dad asked her to go with him on an all expenses paid vacation with him. I hate that it makes me resent my sister even thouh it's really not her fault. Not to mention that when I brought it up when I was at their house the other day my dad played it off that he only asked my sister because he wants her son to go. So now he's playing favorites with his grandkids too. It really hurts my feelings...what does he have against me?

My dad is like this too-I love him, but he so obviously prefers my little sister. She's 24, and lives in a 2br condo right on the beach in Myrtle Beach-my dad was supposed to live there too, but since there is more work for him in NY, he stayed up here...meanwhile, he pays ALL the rent on the Myrtle Beach house, plus the utilities! All my sister has to pay for is her car insurance and cell phone bill, yet she still calls my dad, crying poverty, and he buys it. He's never paid bills for me, and i've never expected it, but to see him catering to my sister-yeah, it annoys me. He's always talking about my sister's horseback riding lessons, or how she lost an inch off her waist at the gym this month-yet he neglects to mention my almost FIFTY POUND weight loss? That one actually made me laugh.

I HAVE confronted him about it, and he says it isn't a preference, it's that he feels like he can "rest easy" with me because i've always been smart and independent, and he feels like I married a responsible man and he doesn't need to worry about us. Meanwhile, he feels like he needs to take care of my sister. Give me a break! At 24 I was living w/DH, in grad school full time and working full time. Why should she grow up if she doesn't have to? Anyway, this turned into a vent, but yeah, I know where you are coming from, and I am willing to bet your dad feels kinda the way mine does since your sister seems to a bit less independent than you!

mrsmorris1

I'm sad that we aren't going to be in our house on Christmas morning to see DD get her new kitchen and do our own family thing.  My MIL doesn't understand that I'm a little sad about that.  She told me that DD will get plenty of other presents to open, I told her that wasn't the issue.  Oh well.  Next year. 

And I'm making myself take DD to story time this morning because we need to get out of the house.  But last time we went she was a royal terror and I'm scared to death of what might happen today.  Ugh!

Jessibell

I really am not fond of the girl that my brother is engaged too and I am having a hard time trying to bond with her kids. She's done some pretty crappy things over the years and has no interest in getting to know me. My brothers and I have always been so close and I'm afraid of losing him.

I'm just going to have to make a bigger effort. Oh, and her name is Jessica too, so she'll have my old name. That's really salt in the wound. I was very attached to my maiden name and I had a hard time giving it up.

BrideInSunnyFL

violetvirgo:

it also irks me when people are so negative (i have two friends and many co-workers who are constant debbie downers).  crappy things happen to everyone, it's all about attitude!  you can make yourself happy or make yourself miserable, but in the end it's up to you!

ITA.  I was just talking to DH about this the other night.  This will be the first Christmas since I lost my mom and I've been trying really hard to stay positive and remember the things I do have to be grateful and happy for this Holiday Season.  But like you I have a friend and a co-worker who are constantly negative....I'm getting to the point where I'm just kinda zoning them out, I don't need all the negative right now.

JessMil10

Last night at dinner I forgot Brooke's sippy cup and let her drink out of my diet coke.

AngelEyes06

I honestly can't stand my DH right now and I don't even know why. Everything he does and says annoys the crap out of me. I find myself feeling irritated every time he talks to me about stupid stuff I don't care about. And honestly I am happiest when it's just me and DS at home. He's going to a bachelor party tomorrow night and was like "Don't worry I won't be out all night." But truth be told - I don't care how late he stays out! He can spend the night out at his BIL's house if he wants to! I have no interest in hanging out with him. When DS is in bed I would rather read a book or catch up on my DVR'd shows than spend time with him.

Ughhh I do love my DH and I hope this feeling passes soon...

ManciniMom

Gina418:

I wish I was laid off last year instead of my dh. I would have been much more productive around the house and I would have cherished time alone with my ds. All dh has done in the 11 months he has been out of work is start projects he has yet to finish, fill the sink with dirty dishes, shrink my good work clothes in his effort to "help" around the house, he has gained a ton of weight, complains about how hard it is for him on the days he has to take care of ds by himself (my mom watches ds 4 out of 5 days every week). He seems to have time for his 4000 mafia wars team members but somehow there aren't enough hours in the day to put up the Christmas lights (which is the only thing I really really want him to do).

I'm tired of carrying the mortgage by myself. I'm tired of trying to figure out what bills to pay on time and which ones to defer. I'm tired of getting up at 3:45 because dh needs to be at his retail job at 5. I'm tired of being accused of nagging him when I ask him what jobs he has applied for recently or if he followed up on any leads. 

I want to run away from my life, I really really do. 

big hugs to you. That must be a ton of pressure on you and very frustrating and getting up at 3:45am in the morning WOAW. Do you drive him to work?

Hope things get better soon

Bride2bMO

krys2729:

the phrase that kate moss recently coined, "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels", has really helped me to not overindulge.  and while i think her saying it is somewhat laughable, i think it is so completely true.

No way. Skinny does NOT feel as good as a strawberry Toaster Streudal tastes. Silly Kate.

Gina418

ManciniMom:

big hugs to you. That must be a ton of pressure on you and very frustrating and getting up at 3:45am in the morning WOAW. Do you drive him to work?

Hope things get better soon

Thanks. I don't drive him to work - but when his alarm goes off I get up too - I don't want to, but I can't help it! And I can't seem to be able to get myself back to sleep once he leaves. He gets home in the early afternoon and NAPS. 

goillini823

I miss this board a lot, but I can't seem to hang out here for more than a minute because of all the pregnancy tickers. I'm not bitter about others being pregnant, and I'm really happy they have healthy pregnancies, but it hurts a lot to know that Gabriel is no longer kicking inside of me.

aimeelv

Zachary was sick yesterday.  I was holding him and he vomited all down the front of my shirt and pants, down the front of his jammies, and then he gave me a big hug and puked down my back and in my hair.  

I immediately changed both of our clothes, but it took me about four hours to finally make it to the shower.  He felt terrible and just wanted to be snuggled.  When he finally dozed off I laid him in his crib and ran straight for the bathroom.  A shower has never felt so good!  

Bride2bMO

When I read posts like the one just now where the 14 month old was singing a hilarious song in his crib, it makes me feel terrible. Mine is 20 months and has never said most of the words in that post. 

AngelEyes06

Bride2bMO:

When I read posts like the one just now where the 14 month old was singing a hilarious song in his crib, it makes me feel terrible. Mine is 20 months and has never said most of the words in that post. 

Same here

krys2729

aimeelv:

Zachary was sick yesterday.  I was holding him and he vomited all down the front of my shirt and pants, down the front of his jammies, and then he gave me a big hug and puked down my back and in my hair.  

I immediately changed both of our clothes, but it took me about four hours to finally make it to the shower.  He felt terrible and just wanted to be snuggled.  When he finally dozed off I laid him in his crib and ran straight for the bathroom.  A shower has never felt so good!  

oh my!  glad you finally got your shower and this whole scenario IS pretty gross... but this statement: "he gave me a big hug and puked down my back and in my hair", completely makes my heart melt.  poor guy!

mom2be:)2008

AngelEyes06:

Bride2bMO:

When I read posts like the one just now where the 14 month old was singing a hilarious song in his crib, it makes me feel terrible. Mine is 20 months and has never said most of the words in that post. 

Same here

Us too.  DD is 17 months and doesn't have that vocabulary.  In fact this is the second time today I felt like I was doing something wrong with my kid because a FB friend posted how her kid was singing itsy bitsy spider, and she is only 15 months...

Judah'sMommy

redstars93:

And since it looks like this is going to be another all about pregnancy thread, I am out of here.

I wish we could have one day that this wasn't the 4th tri.

 

This is kinda my confession too.  I don't mind the pregnant ladies talking about their pregnancies here since I couldn't imagine going back to the tri boards either.  But I do feel like I don't have much in common with most people on the board anymore so my interest in it is waning...

I am enjoying the D&R board these days though! lol

HisWifeHerMom

goillini823:

I miss this board a lot, but I can't seem to hang out here for more than a minute because of all the pregnancy tickers. I'm not bitter about others being pregnant, and I'm really happy they have healthy pregnancies, but it hurts a lot to know that Gabriel is no longer kicking inside of me.

I just wanted to say that I am very sorry for what you are going through. *Hugs*

mom2be:)2008

I second (third,fourth,fifth?) being sick of hearing about everyone's pregnancies, this board has seriously turned into 4th tri.  I really wish DH and I could try for another baby right now...but the fact is we are broke, with  no end in sight and we are also having some marital issues...obviously not a good mix for another baby.  I feel super jealous of all of the "happy couples" out there, the people who seem to have the perfect little lives, and healthy pregnancy after healthy pregnany.  DD was born with a very serious medical issue which required her to have major surgery at 14 months old.  I feel like I got gipped on the first year of motherhood because I was constantly worried about her getting sick...or not making it through surgery.  Im unfairly bitter at moms who have babies with no medical issues.

Toosdai

I hate my cats and if it wouldn't cause a riff in my marriage - they would be gone. I fully acknowledge that this makes me an irresponsible pet owner and I don't care.

I hate that their hair is all over the place, I hate the hairballs they spit up, I hate the little teeny tiny pieces of litter that they track all around. I hate that they climb on my furniture - yesterday, one of them climbed onto of my kitchen cabinets. I hate them.

I know they did this before I had my kid but since having her, I feel like my house is one big cat bed and it's nasty.

I hate them.

Rubypercy

I washed DD's bumper for the first time (ever) this past weekend.  It has only been there for what a year and a half.  Gross, I know!  I wash her sheets regularly, but was afraid to ruin the bumper.  It came out totally fine. 

mabst196

Toosdai:

I hate my cats and if it wouldn't cause a riff in my marriage - they would be gone. I fully acknowledge that this makes me an irresponsible pet owner and I don't care.

I hate that their hair is all over the place, I hate the hairballs they spit up, I hate the little teeny tiny pieces of litter that they track all around. I hate that they climb on my furniture - yesterday, one of them climbed onto of my kitchen cabinets. I hate them.

I know they did this before I had my kid but since having her, I feel like my house is one big cat bed and it's nasty.

I hate them.

I agree. Once my cats die, I won't be getting any more. I am sick of all the litter , hairballs and attitude peeing on things.

Tess12

Now I feel totally unwelcome here.

I'm sorry for those who have had losses and I certainly don't mean to be insensitive in any of my posts, but I think it's a little unreasonable to say that I can't talk about about my pregnancy here.  There has never been a "toddler topics only" policy here.  People post about what's going on in their lives all the time--work, marriage, family stuff, friendships, financial problems, health problems etc.  What's going on in my life is that I'm pregnant.  It's unfair to say that I can't post about that but others can post about the non-toddler-related aspects of their lives.

Just as an example, a number of us have lost parents in the past year.  Every day people post  petty complaints about their parents, yet you don't see anybody saying, "well, at least you have a father to complain about."  Why?  Because, as much as we might like to say that, we know it's totally inappropriate and unreasonable to expect others to take responsibility for our feelings.

faBriezy

I just caught DS sneaking kibble out of the dog's bowl. In the past I've pried it out of his mouth, but I'm effing exhausted this morning and it wasnt worth the trouble. So right now I'm letting DS munch on a big mouthful of dog food. Its the really good all natural stuff, how bad could it be?

And on the same note, my DS is a super picky kid. He wont eat grilled cheese but he'll eat dog food. Weirdo.

violetvirgo

Tess12:

Now I feel totally unwelcome here.

I'm sorry for those who have had losses and I certainly don't mean to be insensitive in any of my posts, but I think it's a little unreasonable to say that I can't talk about about my pregnancy here.  There has never been a "toddler topics only" policy here.  People post about what's going on in their lives all the time--work, marriage, family stuff, friendships, financial problems, health problems etc.  What's going on in my life is that I'm pregnant.  It's unfair to say that I can't post about that but others can post about the non-toddler-related aspects of their lives.

Just as an example, a number of us have lost parents in the past year.  Every day people post  petty complaints about their parents, yet you don't see anybody saying, "well, at least you have a father to complain about."  Why?  Because, as much as we might like to say that, we know it's totally inappropriate and unreasonable to expect others to take responsibility for our feelings.

  this ties back into my whole "be responsible for your happiness" thing.  i'm not pg right now, but the posts don't bother me b/c guess what, when i do get pg again you bet your asss it will be at the forefront of my conversation topics.  and as for terrible things happening to people....let's be real, they happen to everyone and it sucks, but the world doesn't stop living because of it. 

userdeleted

Tess12:

Now I feel totally unwelcome here.

I'm sorry for those who have had losses and I certainly don't mean to be insensitive in any of my posts, but I think it's a little unreasonable to say that I can't talk about about my pregnancy here.  There has never been a "toddler topics only" policy here.  People post about what's going on in their lives all the time--work, marriage, family stuff, friendships, financial problems, health problems etc.  What's going on in my life is that I'm pregnant.  It's unfair to say that I can't post about that but others can post about the non-toddler-related aspects of their lives.

Just as an example, a number of us have lost parents in the past year.  Every day people post  petty complaints about their parents, yet you don't see anybody saying, "well, at least you have a father to complain about."  Why?  Because, as much as we might like to say that, we know it's totally inappropriate and unreasonable to expect others to take responsibility for our feelings.

I agree with this. At this point it seems to me like most of us have been around long enough that we're all fairly friendly, and most of what is posted is just chatter about our lives. I understand where many of you are coming from, in that seeing the pregnancy posts can be painful, but I think the multiple posts about how they shouldn't be here are pretty rude.

If this board was about toddlers and toddlers only it would get pretty boring pretty fast. 

tiniestjohnson

I don't think anyone here is asking to never discuss pregnancy or babies.  There are some people on here that moaned and cried about their difficulty getting pregnant, then once they do, they moan and cry about how miserable it is.  I am guessing that is the part that is hard for people to read...almost an ungratefulness for what they have.

*blondiem*

Tess12:

Now I feel totally unwelcome here.

I'm sorry for those who have had losses and I certainly don't mean to be insensitive in any of my posts, but I think it's a little unreasonable to say that I can't talk about about my pregnancy here.  There has never been a "toddler topics only" policy here.  People post about what's going on in their lives all the time--work, marriage, family stuff, friendships, financial problems, health problems etc.  What's going on in my life is that I'm pregnant.  It's unfair to say that I can't post about that but others can post about the non-toddler-related aspects of their lives.

Just as an example, a number of us have lost parents in the past year.  Every day people post  petty complaints about their parents, yet you don't see anybody saying, "well, at least you have a father to complain about."  Why?  Because, as much as we might like to say that, we know it's totally inappropriate and unreasonable to expect others to take responsibility for our feelings.

I have been thinking about how to respond to the pregnancy thing all morning.  I agree w/ you Tess, but I also see the other side.

I am one of those that is NOT TTC or suffered a recent loss, so it's not about that for me. It's just that I think that some would prefer that this board go back to toddler discussions again. 

People feel comfortable here. I wouldn't want to be relegated back to the tri-boards either, but some of the very random posts are kind of annoying.  For me, it has nothing to do with my feelings. 

I don't think it's fair of those that have suffered a loss to begrudge the happiness of others, though.  It's hard to look at, I am sure, but everyone has a right to post what they wish here.

mabst196

Tess12:

Now I feel totally unwelcome here.

I'm sorry for those who have had losses and I certainly don't mean to be insensitive in any of my posts, but I think it's a little unreasonable to say that I can't talk about about my pregnancy here.  There has never been a "toddler topics only" policy here.  People post about what's going on in their lives all the time--work, marriage, family stuff, friendships, financial problems, health problems etc.  What's going on in my life is that I'm pregnant.  It's unfair to say that I can't post about that but others can post about the non-toddler-related aspects of their lives.

Just as an example, a number of us have lost parents in the past year.  Every day people post  petty complaints about their parents, yet you don't see anybody saying, "well, at least you have a father to complain about."  Why?  Because, as much as we might like to say that, we know it's totally inappropriate and unreasonable to expect others to take responsibility for our feelings.

Tess12

*blondiem*:

 It's just that I think that some would prefer that this board go back to toddler discussions again. 

I would love it if we got back to toddler discussions again.  But every single time I post about something relevant to toddler life, the post dies within minutes.  It doesn't seem like others want to talk about it.  Or maybe people just find me boring.  Which is fine, but then make your own damn toddler-related posts. lol

KeepingItLowKey

My mom is leaving today after 9 days. She was supposed to leave yesterday but I made her change her flight because I was worried about the weather at her destination. I am tempted to have her change it again. I am still in bed at 9am, haven't had to get any breakfasts ready, and haven't changed one dirty diaper. I am totally getting used to this.

*blondiem*

Tess12:

*blondiem*:

 It's just that I think that some would prefer that this board go back to toddler discussions again. 

I would love it if we got back to toddler discussions again.  But every single time I post about something relevant to toddler life, the post dies within minutes.  It doesn't seem like others want to talk about it.  Or maybe people just find me boring.  Which is fine, but then make your own damn toddler-related posts. lol

Ha! You aren't boring at all, Tess And, I do know what you mean.  I am trying to look at it from all sides.

nicoleRI

tiniestjohnson:

I don't think anyone here is asking to never discuss pregnancy or babies.  There are some people on here that moaned and cried about their difficulty getting pregnant, then once they do, they moan and cry about how miserable it is.  I am guessing that is the part that is hard for people to read...almost an ungratefulness for what they have.

I agree and even if they aren't ungrateful and it is just coming off that way- some people on here that have lost a baby or pregnancy or are having TTTC have a lot of anger and sadness- so if someone posts that they don't like that this has become 4th tri- just leave it alone.  These aren't personal attacks, it is sadness and anger and I know if I had a loss like this I would be sad and angry too.  Sometimes it is ok to just let someone be mad or sad and not take it personally.  Of course, those that are taking it personally are pregnant and hormonal- so that makes it more difficult!

femmeftle9

I just mailed my Secret Santa presents this morning

KeepingItLowKey

Okay... I know some people love being pregnant but I think being pregnant sucks and is totally awful, pretty much from beginning to end. I don't think anyone should HAVE TO enjoy it or embrace it no matter how hard they tried to get pregnant. I am ridiculously happy with the final result, but I think all women, even those who struggle to get pregnant, have a right to dislike and complain about the pregnancy itself. I really can't believe people do this over and over because twice is going to be plenty for me. People should be happy to have gotten pregnant, but being pregnant can be pretty crappy.

DelGrecoBride

Tess12:

*blondiem*:

 It's just that I think that some would prefer that this board go back to toddler discussions again. 

I would love it if we got back to toddler discussions again.  But every single time I post about something relevant to toddler life, the post dies within minutes.  It doesn't seem like others want to talk about it.  Or maybe people just find me boring.  Which is fine, but then make your own damn toddler-related posts. lol

uh...im hurt PLEASE dont make me post stuff on the tri boards!!! to my defense...i dont *think* i post much about my pregnancy - but maybe i do. either way....im just gonna throw this out there....dont open the pregnancy posts  lol

goillini823

Tess12:

Now I feel totally unwelcome here.

I'm sorry for those who have had losses and I certainly don't mean to be insensitive in any of my posts, but I think it's a little unreasonable to say that I can't talk about about my pregnancy here.  There has never been a "toddler topics only" policy here.  People post about what's going on in their lives all the time--work, marriage, family stuff, friendships, financial problems, health problems etc.  What's going on in my life is that I'm pregnant.  It's unfair to say that I can't post about that but others can post about the non-toddler-related aspects of their lives.

Just as an example, a number of us have lost parents in the past year.  Every day people post  petty complaints about their parents, yet you don't see anybody saying, "well, at least you have a father to complain about."  Why?  Because, as much as we might like to say that, we know it's totally inappropriate and unreasonable to expect others to take responsibility for our feelings.

I suffered a loss just a little over 2 weeks ago, and it's by far one of the most awful things to have happen in my life. I'm not saying everyone that is pregnant shouldn't talk about it because I realize that if I was still pregnant I'd be right there with everyone else talking about it. I dont think it's fair to send you to the tri boards either because I realize how boring those can be, and it's a total different experience when you are pregnant with your second than it was with the first. It's different dealing w/ MS when you have another toddler to care for also. I'm really happy for everyone that is pregnant, and it's not offensive to me to see tickers, it just hurts, and that's why I've taken my pain over to the PL board. I hope and pray to God to be right back where all you girls are at sometime soon. I enjoy this board a lot, and I hope that as the time passes it's easier for me to hang out here more often again. I still lurk on here to keep up with what's going on, but I just found a new home in the PL board for now.

1MusicMaker

Tess12:

Now I feel totally unwelcome here.

I'm sorry for those who have had losses and I certainly don't mean to be insensitive in any of my posts, but I think it's a little unreasonable to say that I can't talk about about my pregnancy here.  There has never been a "toddler topics only" policy here.  People post about what's going on in their lives all the time--work, marriage, family stuff, friendships, financial problems, health problems etc.  What's going on in my life is that I'm pregnant.  It's unfair to say that I can't post about that but others can post about the non-toddler-related aspects of their lives.

Thank you, Tess.  I was reading this thread with my jaw dropped open and trying to think about my response.  You said it perfectly, and I also feel very unwelcome.  The people I "know" and have been through my first pregnancy are here--not the tri boards, which is why I post everything here.   I have tried posting on the tri boards, and it's pretty lame.

I understand the sensitivity of the issue.  However, all pregnancy-related posts are labeled as such and can be ignored quite easily, right?  I know if a particular poster/subject annoys me I just don't open those posts...

ToledoDeux

redstars93:

krys2729:

the phrase that kate moss recently coined, "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels", has really helped me to not overindulge.  and while i think her saying it is somewhat laughable, i think it is so completely true.

She didn't *coin* it. It is the mantra for every ana/mia website out there (aka PRO-anorexia/bulimia websites).

 

It's also the mantra at every Weight Watchers meeting - the skinnies don't own this one!