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BEAUNAL
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IF and death of loved ones
BEAUNAL
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in Infertility
my grandma died yesterday. she was my biggest supporter during all of the years i have been trying to name a child after her. she experienced a m/c while ttc many years ago and was the only one who knew what to say to me in a heartfelt letter the week i m/c in 07. she said just the right thing which is so hard to do unless you really know how someone is feeling when they lose a baby.
now she's gone and it's hard to explain not only the sadness i feel that she's gone, but that she won't see me with the child she prayed for me to have. i just wanted her to see it happen for us. we comfort ourselves by saying that they will see our children from heaven, but i'm still sad about it. thanks for letting me write this out since you girls are the only people, besides my grandma, who really knows what it's like to want this so badly.
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Re: IF and death of loved ones
Oh that is hearbreaking
My condolonces to you at this time.
I'm so sorry for your loss. We have so few people who understand our struggle as it is and to lose one so close to you makes it even harder.
You're in my thoughts and prayers tonight.
(((HUGS)))
I'm very sorry you lost your grandma.
Perhaps if it's hard to imagine her looking down on you from heaven, maybe you can find happiness in kowing how incredibly happy she would be for you if she were here. Also that she wouldn't want you to be sad about her while going through the happy time, she would want you to just be happy.
There's no easy way to deal with a loss, only time seems to heal. Take care.
Your post just brought at tear to my eye. So very sorry for your loss and for your main supporter, your precious grandma.
I wish you success in your journey and I just know your grandma WILL be watching.
(((HUGS)))
Early loss 10/08
Lap 1/09
IVF #1 "natural IVF" - 1 egg retrieved, missed m/c
Tried several mini-stim cycles with no response
Switched clinics - dx'd as carrier for Fragile X
IVF #2 MDL protocol Jan/Feb converted to IUI, BFN
IVF #2 take 2: Antagonist, one embie, BFN
IVF #3: Antagonist, no fertilization
One last ditch effort at OE IVF (antagonist with Clomid) cancelled
DE cycle #1 Jan/Feb 2011, BFP, ectopic
DE cycle #2 June/July 2011 - BFP
10/28/11 Baby girl lost at 17 weeks due to pre-term labor. We love and miss you.
DE cycle #3 June/July 2012 - BFP, twins, both heartbeats stopped, D&C
2 frosties but don't know what's next
FET Dec 2012: BFP! Praying this one sticks for the long haul!
My father wanted grandkids for years and I finally told him our IF issues. He died when I was 4 months pregnant and it still breaks my heart that my son will never know him. I named my son after my dad and I wrote (still working on it actually) a journal full of stories about my dad and about what kind of man he was so my son would "know" him as best as he could. My dad always said there is a circle of life and death is part of it- you take the best from a person and pass it on to the next generation. Write down everything your grandma did for you- eveything that made you happy when you were with her.
She knew you loved her and would want you to smile when you think about her- not be sad.
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I'm so sorry hon.
Sending T&Ps to you and your family.
(((((hugs)))))
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