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.rosenjoe

Just saw your response to my poll from this afternoon.  I can't get H on board for a home birth for the first one (he's said he'll consider it for subsequent ones if the first one goes smoothly). I am definitely going the birthing center route, though.  I love the MW practice I've been seeing up here and you are right--especially compared to a hospital birth, the price at the birthing center is whoa cheap. 

Texas77again

really?  what are his concerns?  and really just because one birth goes well does not mean that future births will go well. 

at the clinic where i work there is no difference between the clinic and your house.  all of our equipment goes with us no matter where we are.  the only time the clinic is preferred is if the client lives waaaaay far out of town on a farm and if they are concerned about getting to a hosp in case of an emergency. 

.rosenjoe

Texas77again:

really?  what are his concerns?  and really just because one birth goes well does not mean that future births will go well. 

at the clinic where i work there is no difference between the clinic and your house.  all of our equipment goes with us no matter where we are.  the only time the clinic is preferred is if the client lives waaaaay far out of town on a farm and if they are concerned about getting to a hosp in case of an emergency. 

I know that, and you know that, but try telling him that.  I think it's mostly that he doesn't understand that a modern home birth does not = Little House on the Prairie, and there is no getting him to see past his ideas.  Even after I made him watch The Business of Being Born.  It took his bff (a med student) telling H that he respected MWs as medical professionals for H to be 100% comfortable with me switching to the MWs from an OB practice (not that he would have kept me from doing what I wanted; I just wanted him to be ok with my decision).  His family are all very big believers in conventional medicine, to the exclusion of anything that is even a little outside the mainstream.  I'm a little (ok, maybe a lot) "crunchier," and it's an adjustment for him.

Of course, we also thought our first was going to be born while we were living in an apartment, and I don't know that I would have been comfortable knowing my neighbors, none of whom we like very much, could hear everything through our paper-thin walls.  For the next one, we'll be in a house, so I might try again to convince him.