WWYD?

Autumn_bride2b

This is my first week back at work, DD is still in the NICU (although hopefully for not much longer). I get up at 5 am, leave the house at 6:30, drive 1-1.5 hrs to work, work 8 hrs, and then the commute to the hospital is another hour. Visit with DD for 2 hrs, feed her, get home about 7:30, eat dinner, etc. I don't usually get to bed until 10:30. I was thinking of not visiting DD today and going straight home to take care of odds and ends, take care of myself, and go to bed earlier. It's only Wed and I feel run down already. But I feel awful not visiting DD today. DH will be stopping by. WWYD?

Clotho!

I know it's hard not to go see your precious baby but you do need to take care of yourself especially since it is cold and flu season. If you get run down and get sick then it will be even longer before you get to visit again. So go home early and rest.

msalinardi@live.com

I had a similiar  situation when DD was in the NICU. We both worked. I would go to the hospital in the morning and DH would go at night. Sometimes we just wanted to sleep a little later or go to bed a little earlier. DH and I decided that as long as one of us went to see her and hold her that she would be fine. We also added my mom to the list of people who could visit her. So my mom tried going as often as possible as well. DD always had at least one person come and be with her.

Sweets2005

I agree, go home and take care of things and then rest if you can.

I know it is really hard not to go see your LO at the NICU because the guilt is overwhelming but you also need to take care of you and things around the house.

I hated when nurses told me to go home and rest but eventually when the LOs stabilized I started to follow their advice and I am glad I did because I felt better when I did.

And to be honest, I really thought my LOs needed me so much but they barely seemed to notice me. It wasn't until closer to and after their due date and they seemed to "wake up" to things, including me.

Anyway, yes get your things done and don't feel guilty!

*Sweet pea*

Clotho!:

I know it's hard not to go see your precious baby but you do need to take care of yourself especially since it is cold and flu season. If you get run down and get sick then it will be even longer before you get to visit again. So go home early and rest.

Ditto :+)

lemen99

It's difficult, but you need to take a break once in a while! 

MsTammy

I had the same issue one time. I basically went home and did everything I needed to do, took a long nap, and when I woke up at around 11:30pmish, I just felt like I "needed" to see her, so I jumped in the car and went.  I also wasn't working at the time, so I didn't have that added stress.

The NICU is open 24hours if you really really feel like you have to go. I know it is hard, but remember you have to take care of yourself and get everything ready for when she does come home ) She has great nurses looking after her and you can call in at anytime to check up on her feedings, etc.!

AviatorJJ

it's ok to take care of yourself. really! you can't take care of anyone ele if you are feeling run down and on empty.  she is in good hands im sure and your hubby will be there.

beachykeen1723

I know its too late to help now, but here's my response for future ref:

Whenever I have a day like this, decide based on my call to the NICU. If LO is doing alright, I feel free to stay home/ get stuff done.  If LO is having a yucky night, I go. I usually need DH's help to convince me it's okay to stay home though.

courtina

i could have written your post.  i had a long chat w the doctor last night and decided at this point of the game, there is no real necessity to come vs when they are closer to coming home, are breast feeding, etc.