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Maybe I am too sensitive but people's comments really annoy me
Okay, I realize that I am totally emotional right now as my pregnancy winds down and we have a c-section date, but people kill me with their comments. Since telling people that we have our c-section dater I have gotten a few comments from other women (either friends of mine or DH's) that say things as if I chose to have a c-section. First of all, this was not my choice, it is based on the position of the babies (baby B is the lower one now and her rear is on my cervix). It is not like I am Britney Spears and scheduling it just worked better for me. Another woman made a comment about how she knew someone who delivered vaginally even though her baby was breech. Um.....okay, what do you want me to say...give her a medal? Then another woman said that she finds it so hard to believe that I am having a c-section given the fact that I have been in and out of the hospital and they had to stop labor at 33 weeks. Maybe I am just too sensitive right now, and maybe I just need to get used to people's comments, but really? What is wrong with people? This is my first pregnancy, is there some kind of birth heirachy where c-sections are looked down upon? BTW, all my friends who have had c-sections have been nothing but supportive!
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Re: Maybe I am too sensitive but people's comments really annoy me
Sorry to hear about that, people always have something to say whether it's negative or positive...don't try to let it get you down, just remember you'll be seeing those sweet little faces shortly!
Even when you have the babies the comments won't stop, just try to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy
People have stupid things to say about everything under the sun. C-sec or not, BF, FF SAH, etc.
Try to tune them out as much as you can.
Congrats on making it this far!
<hugs> People tend to say the worst things possible sometimes and don't even think about how it effects the other person. Please try not to take it to heart though. I know it can be hard to do but try and ignore them.
I don't think anyone would prefer a C section to a regular delivery, especially when you look at the recovery process. A C Section is an abdominal surgery and involves a lot of muscle healing. Plus if they are schedualing to have the baby for convience purposes (patients and doctors alike) they are induced, not c sectioned.
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For the rest of your parenting experience, everyone else will always think they know better than you, have a better way of doing things, etc.
I'd tell them what's going on with my vagina & cervix is none of their business, but I've lost a lot of tact and prose since having DD and dealing with a lot of this.
I'm so sorry to hear that. People are just so rude sometimes. You have to do what is right for YOU and YOUR BABIES, not what someone else thinks would be right for them. Hang in there!!
On the other hand, I'm actually getting the opposite type of comments. Its bizarre. I had a scheduled C/S with my son (and it went wonderfully) He was breech and I had no choice, that was fine with me.
Now with the twins, my OB is saying that if baby A stays head down, I can try for a v-bac. That gave me some hope. But omg, you should have heard the commotion when I told people over Thanksgiving dinner!! You'd have thought I had 2 heads!!
"WHAT?? How can you possibly deliver vaginally with twins??" ,
"Yeah, well you will likely end up with a c/s anyway, so don't get too excited",
"That is going to be so dangerous. I don't like that idea at all" (from my mom)
and even "Is your doctor serious??"
It sure deflated my sails
Yeah, people are just so freaking ignorant.
people are jackasses and will continue to be after the babies are born- saying even more stupid stuff. you have to learn to just ignore it.
in most cases i think people mean well - they just want to share stories and have conversation- and don't realize that the stuff they say is stupid.
i choose to have a c section very early on in my pg. i do not regret my decision at all. i find that people really just want to talk about themselves though so turn all questions around and you wont have to worry about them commenting on you.... ie 'are you going to have a c section?' 'we'll see, what did you do?
' we'll see, too soon to tell, i dont know', all work wonders. plus like other pp have said the comments never end, esp with multiples so numb up to it. it can be very annoying, but i think people mean well and they are so darn cute how can people not notice them?!
I know how you feel. For some reason, people think we want to hear their opinions. I just got an earful on how I should handle the way we tell people when the babies come, and all I wanted to say was, "They're my babies. We'll do it my way."
I am having a C-section too. My doc suggested it immediately after finding out it was twins. I'm totally okay with it, and I let everyone know it right up front to try to stop their opinions. Some don't get that though, and offer "helpful" tips on how I should do it.
You just have to get used to it, I guess. I'm still working on that part myself. It's good to vent it all out, though.
People just feel the need to make a comment on anything and everything. I've been shocked at the variety of things people have said during my pg. I have a scheduled c-section too, and I just want to say to you what I wish other people would say......
Good luck, and I hope all goes well!!
Amen to this. You don't even have to be pregnant for this statement to be 100% true.