Poll Christmas related.

#6

[Poll]

goodheartedmommy

We had a family friend do this--it was rather sickening.

 

I would never threaten it at all, though. IMO don't threaten something you don't intend to carry through with. 

4Speedy

I wouldn't take away Christmas because it seems like that is simply punitive--it doesn't actually correct or teach better behavior.

heyitsme

4Speedy:

I wouldn't take away Christmas because it seems like that is simply punitive--it doesn't actually correct or teach better behavior.

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I think that if you are going to cancel xmas bc of behavior then you have a lot of thinking to do about behavior and it shouldn't revolve around a big event like xmas.

that said, in my SPED classroom (emotional disabilities) we had layers of short-term and long-term rewards and there always was at least one kid who lost a 'big' long-term reward. It was very hard to deliver that news to the parent -- the kid knew already and almost always took it well.

Most of those kids choose to come to school that day and do work in another classroom rather than staying home and most of them did have successes through the year -- just not the 'big' ones.

 

 

#6

A lady I work with  told me today about doing this with her kids.  Im curious to see if she follows through with it.  Some of the stories that she tells about her kids are really off the wall.  As tempting as it is to make this threat to my kids I know there is no way we would follow through with it so we dont even talk about it.   

I cant imagine a kid waking up on Christmas morning and only finding coal.    Sad.  But maybe that would spark a will to behave if the kid was at least old enough to understand.  My kids are too young to fully understand all of that. 

goodheartedmommy

I doubt it would work. I think most kids have a desire to be "good." Some just have trouble doing it. I don't know any child who really just wants to misbehave. I highly doubt that taking away Christmas will be the key to making a child listen.

I can't imagine waking up and having nothing from Santa. Christmas is so magical to a child--why take that away? 

Mickschick

I didn't answer in the poll b/c it didn't have an option for my opinion.

I think it depends on the age of the child and if they understand Christmas. Would I do it to my kids this year? NO. Not even next or the year after. If they were 10 YES. As a matter of fact, when DH was 15 or 16 his parents cancelled Christmas and him and his brother got nothing b/c they were "involved" with a few other kids throwing M80's at the school's windows...they didn't actually throw them personally but they were there with the kids who did; so accomplices of sorts.... so that year, Christmas was cancelled... and they had to apologize to the school and pay for some of the windows to be replaced with their own money.

GrowingFamily

I prefer to go by the heart of the "law" in this case versus the letter of the law