Registry Vent (another one)

aegrimm

Tacky as it may be, I put a note on our registry saying that we've been blessed with the gift of more clothes than we know what to do with and don't need any. (It's worded a little better than that, but I didn't feel like going to my registry to look.)

(I literally was given 16 trash bags full of baby clothes size 0-12 months plus blankets and burp rags and towels. A lot of the stuff has never been worn!)

I've been washing all the clothes this weekend and my Facebook updates have mostly revolved around how many clothes this little girl has and how she's going to have more clothes than her brother, daddy and mommy combined.

I've had people texting me all day saying, "Do you not need any baby clothes?!?!? Now I don't know what to get you!"

Seriously? I REGISTERED. And it was on the invite.

My mom said maybe the stuff left on my registry is too expensive for some people. So I looked. Almost EVERYTHING is left. (not really venting about that, my shower isn't until next Saturday and lots of last minute shoppers!) I have tons of bottles, bath supplies, and other little things (under $20) on there.

Why do people refuse to shop a registry???? UGH!

WithoutMelissa

same thing happened with us - We got tons and tons of brand new baby clothes from a friend who works as a buyer for a childrens clothing line. I posted it on my blog, facebook, everything about how we had WAY too many clothes already - and at my main shower, I got more clothes than anything else - despite the fact that I had two registries!

It's always so nice that people give a gift at all - but I learned that they buy mainly what they want to give you, not what you really need.

MrsRebecca

Because people would rather give you something cute like an outfit than something practical like a bathtub.

nlvaden

aegrimm:

Tacky as it may be, I put a note on our registry saying that we've been blessed with the gift of more clothes than we know what to do with and don't need any. (It's worded a little better than that, but I didn't feel like going to my registry to look.)

(I literally was given 16 trash bags full of baby clothes size 0-12 months plus blankets and burp rags and towels. A lot of the stuff has never been worn!)

I've been washing all the clothes this weekend and my Facebook updates have mostly revolved around how many clothes this little girl has and how she's going to have more clothes than her brother, daddy and mommy combined.

I've had people texting me all day saying, "Do you not need any baby clothes?!?!? Now I don't know what to get you!"

Seriously? I REGISTERED. And it was on the invite.

My mom said maybe the stuff left on my registry is too expensive for some people. So I looked. Almost EVERYTHING is left. (not really venting about that, my shower isn't until next Saturday and lots of last minute shoppers!) I have tons of bottles, bath supplies, and other little things (under $20) on there.

Why do people refuse to shop a registry???? UGH!

I will take some off your hands.  We only have NB-3 months.  Anything you have doubles of, seriously, I could pay shipping for and such.

rhawkins06

We're having a co-ed shower, so if the 22 manly Lift Mechanics that I work with can go shop off a registry at Babies R Us and Target (Yes, some of them have asked HOW to do that but that means they're going to do it! Haha) then anybody is able to shop a registry. It frustrates me when people don't, I ALWAYS buy off of registries and always have. Good luck getting it through peoples heads.

Barneso

Great question.  When I told MIL (who is a gossip hound and I knew would spread the word) that we didn't need any clothes because we were given so many hand-me-downs, LO will never be able to wear all of them, she said, "Well what are people supposed to get you?"

Um....we're first-time parents.  Just because we have clothes doesn't mean we don't need a million other things.

I said, "Well, we still need lots of 'gear' type stuff," and she said "Well, most people can't afford that kind of stuff."

Uh... like I said in a previous post, 37 items on our registry (a total of 60-some) are priced at $15.00 or less.  There are lots of $4, $6, $8 items on the registry.

I'm sorry it's not as much fun for you and obviously I will take whatever you'll give me and don't expect you to support my baby... BUT... it is a shower and registries do exist for a reason... freaking BUY from it.

grapeape73

I get irritated when people don't include a gift receipt with the clothes.  I would never be insulted if someone had to  return something I bought them. 

grace_smith03

Girl,  i hear you...i had about 100 items on my registry, not a stitch of clothes or receiving blankets on there.  About a dozen things from my registry were purchased (mind you, i made sure to have different price ranges) and i got **72** items of clothes/outfits and 9 receiving blankets...sigh.  i just waddled my fat ass to the store for merchandise credit and traded it in for registry stuff.  (i had three separate showers...after the first one i asked my mom to spread the word that i was good on clothes, but no one listened)...

 

hope u have a better experience than i!! 

jordans_wife

i wonder why people won't use the registry when it comes to baby showers. i mean, i got lots of stuff from my wedding registry but it seems as if people are proving a point by specifically not buying off the registry when it comes to baby showers. what gives?

lvmomjbj

I'm sorry We had the same thing happen to us. A lot of clothes and only 2 things off of our registry. Frustrating yes, but like someone said, people will buy what they think is cute and all.

loubelline

My shower was yesterday and I got a ***-ton of clothes leaving a majority of my registry unpurchased.  Thankfully almost all included the gift receipts in the gift....so just keep your fingers crossed that your guests do the same!  I have to say my hostess was getting a bit ticked bcs everyone who RSVPed would ask her what to get me  (registry cards are included in the invites for a reason people!!!).  Good luck and I hope you have a happy shower!

pandagirl15

We don't know what we're having, so I'm hoping people will get off the registry since they can't get a specific outfit.  However, if they do not, I'll be going to every store to figure out where the outfit is from and getting what I need.  I will keep some things, of course, but we will need the gear.  And we have things that are as low as $2.50 on our registry, so there is a nice price range.

jenny1980

MrsRebecca:

Because people would rather give you something cute like an outfit than something practical like a bathtub.

This.

I don't care how many clothes you have. It shows a lack of graciousness to whine about "why aren't you buying me what I tellllllllllllllllllllllll you?"

 

liv97

because bottles and bath supplies are boring, and people want to buy more interesting things.  smile and be grateful for what you get.

lindsayll

To all those who are complaining, have you always shopped from the registry for your friends having babies?  Made a point to buy practical things and not clothes?

Luv-a-Bug

lindsayll:

To all those who are complaining, have you always shopped from the registry for your friends having babies?  Made a point to buy practical things and not clothes?

Yes, when I get an invite to a baby or wedding shower I always buy from the registry.

ericaraec

I'm not complaiing. I was told to expect lots of blankets and clothes from my showers so my expectations were in that place. I do so wish that people would include gift receipts though because it would be nice to be able to exchange NB clothes if for some reason they don't fit.

I can see why people get frustrated because it does take a lot of time to create a registry and the amount of stuff you need for a baby is kind of overwhelming. I think it helps to make a list of must haves for now and realize that everything you need for baby is not necessarily needed right away. My showers wrap up this weekend and then my hubs and I will make a list of what we still absolutely need to get through the first month after our LO arrives. Then we'll slowly purchase the remaining things as they are needed.

I do always buy from the registry for both wedding and baby showers. I guess I just feel like I want to get the person something that they can need and will be used. For baby showers, I almost always buy the bathtub and bathing supplies or the bouncer. Otherwise, I give a gift card so that they can go out and buy what they need instead.

aegrimm

I do buy off the registry. I might buy clothes or blankets or bibs in addition to what I buy from the registry, but always from the registry first. The last shower I went to I bought her diaper bag and filled it with the traveling wipe case, bottles, a formula dispenser and then the bottle brush and drying rack. We also came armed with a case of size 2 diapers.

I realize I sound ungrateful. I truly am not not worried about getting anything. If everyone showed up empty handed I would be OK with that because I just want to spend the time with my friends and celebrate our baby. BUT, if you're going to take the time to go shopping, why not shop the registry? lol

Thanks for letting me vent, girls.