FFFQ?

Breezer80

Can I ask a FFFQuestion?

Let me preface this by saying: I have no intention of doing this ever. It would make my heart hurt too much, plus pedi says no, but, still a question:

Why is CIO bad? Besides the whole it-hurts-my-heart thing, what makes it detrimental to the LO?

CheekyMommy

Studies have shown that TRUE CIO can lead to anxiety disorders in later adulthood.

howa0155

There have been studies about detachment.  I think Chrys has them.

Breezer80

CheekyMommy:

Studies have shown that TRUE CIO can lead to anxiety disorders in later adulthood.

Interesting! I would actually like to see them. The reason I ask is because I know that my parents and DH's parents all strongly believe in CIO, and can't imagine that there could be a better way. Along the theory of, "it worked for you, and you're fine, so what's the problem?" I often can see what the problem is (ie introducing solids too soon) but in this case I was a little puzzled.

Thanks for the info

amber_tynan

I have heard it raises their heart rate and blood pressure.  They fall asleep out of pure exhaustion and feeling abandoned.  Imagine needing love and comfort and left to try to figure it out on your own while being terrified.  My heart aches thinking about it.

beckytr

I read Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child and discussed with my pedi.  In my case and DS's case it was not bad - it was good.  DS needed to learn to sleep on his own & he is getting more sleep now, which he needed.  The pedi told me at 3 mo. old DS knew I loved him & would not feel abandoned.  We did it this week and the max he cried was 10 min. (which, heck, is a lot shorter than the time he would sometimes cry WHILE we were holding him during his newborn fussy period).  I went in to soothe & check on him periodically.  And I still feed him when he wakes up at night.  But guess what, he slept the longest he's ever slept in a row last night.

kes3237

beckytr:

I read Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child and discussed with my pedi.  In my case and DS's case it was not bad - it was good.  DS needed to learn to sleep on his own & he is getting more sleep now, which he needed.  The pedi told me at 3 mo. old DS knew I loved him & would not feel abandoned.  We did it this week and the max he cried was 10 min. (which, heck, is a lot shorter than the time he would sometimes cry WHILE we were holding him during his newborn fussy period).  I went in to soothe & check on him periodically.  And I still feed him when he wakes up at night.  But guess what, he slept the longest he's ever slept in a row last night.

This.  I don't judge either way - I did a FORM of CIO and it worked for us but I understand those who don't agree with it.  

FWIW - it makes me cringe when people use CIO to get their babies to STTN (especially at, like, 4 months).

amber_tynan

Some things I have found (googled):

Cry It Out, the potential dangers

Excessive crying could be harmful to babies

Harvard Researchers Say Children Need Touching and Attention

deeanneharris

amber_tynan:

Excessive crying could be harmful to babies

This one always upsets me because DD was really colicky and there was no way to keep her from crying a lot of days/nights.

howa0155

deeanneharris:

amber_tynan:

Excessive crying could be harmful to babies

This one always upsets me because DD was really colicky and there was no way to keep her from crying a lot of days/nights.

Actually, colicy babies usually have higher IQ's presumably due to the constant stimulation they get.

amber_tynan

howa0155:

deeanneharris:

amber_tynan:

Excessive crying could be harmful to babies

This one always upsets me because DD was really colicky and there was no way to keep her from crying a lot of days/nights.

Actually, colicy babies usually have higher IQ's presumably due to the constant stimulation they get.

You do have to look at it  regarding your situation, i.e. colic.  A study showed negative findings "due to the lack of responsive attitude of the parents toward their babies."  Being colicky is far different than intentionally making your child scream themselves to sleep! 

Mrs.Greenie

I read in Dr Sears' sleep book that its ok if that is what you choose to do, but that the child will associate sleep with fear, anxiety and being upset. That made me sad. I hate it when DS is sad.