Sensitive ? regarding stillbirth

Judah'sMommy

Why do they induce you rather than give you a section?  I think that would just be exponentially more awful to go through.

 

jenifairies

Probably to avoid surgery. My friend delivered her first DS that way.

PMJacobsen

i think bc a CS is a surgery and carries with it more serious risks and complications.  but i agree, that has got to be the worst!  although, i can't imagine having a scar on my stomach to remind me every time i showered or changed clothes.  i don't honestly know what the best answer is here and i'm curious as to whether or not they give women the option to just have the CS...?

Dobie_Mama

A coworker of mine recently lost a baby at 22 weeks.  They gave her the option of a c/s or induction.  She chose the induction.

meggiekins

C/s carry more risk for complications, and may limit the number of children you have in the future. They're doing the best they can to preserve future fertility.

KellyG6279

I would assume because the risks associated with a c-section are greater than a vaginal delivery.  But I agree, it would be a very tough and heart wrenching experience - I cannot imagine...

LittleApple

I wonder the same thing.  Either way it is incredibly heartbreaking to go through.  A woman that goes to my church had a still birth.  She was due the same day DD was due.  She found out that her baby had died a week before her EDD.  So sad.

ali2005jason

I had a friend who three years ago lost her daughter in utero. She was 20 weeks. She had had her son by csection and they still induced her to give birth to her baby. I really think that wasn't fair to her. I have no clue why they do that

punkfiction_v.3

bc for me it would mean that a csection would make my body reminded me every day with a scar. but an induction would be only in my memory.

sabloja

PMJacobsen:

i think bc a CS is a surgery and carries with it more serious risks and complications.  but i agree, that has got to be the worst!  although, i can't imagine having a scar on my stomach to remind me every time i showered or changed clothes.  i don't honestly know what the best answer is here and i'm curious as to whether or not they give women the option to just have the CS...?

someone on my local board was given a choice. So I am sure some docs do.

J+O

I can't imagine being in that position, I think both would be very hard to go through  

southernbelle82

AshKStffr:

ditto Punk. i see my c/s every morning & am amazed how she came through that lil slice. i couldn't fathom having to see it everyday & know my baby was no longer with me

Yep me too.  My scar is special to me...I couldn't imagine it reminding me of something so tragic.   Both experiences must be absolutely terrible though.

CrystalDaun

My neighbors wife delivered her 2nd son stillborn. Her & I talked about it and she was crying as she talked about it. She told me how aweful it was. She had no epidural and said it was the hardest labor out of her 4. I couldn't even imagine and was crying w/ her as she was talking about it.

~AllSmiles~

In general, c-sections are done for the wellness of the baby and it is better for the mother to have a vaginal birth vs having major surgery. That is how I've heard a doctor explain inducing mothers of stillborns

ncbelle

Given the choice, I'd rather be induced than have a section if I were in that position.

Judah'sMommy

Hmm... I'm noticing a trend in those who have had c-sections.  I think my 25 hours of labor clouds my judgement about inductions.  I don't know how I could get through that knowing that no baby was coming home with me.  :-(

It sucks all around.

mrsmatto

My friend's DS died @ 39w6d from a true knot in the umbilical cord. She had to deliver him vaginally. It was my understanding that it was the only option she was given.

momtoRaegan041008

I would say that because a c-section is a surgery and more than likely you will try to have another child.  Most hospitals won't do a VBAC anymore.  I think it would be hard either way though.

memclar

One of my best friends delivered a stillborn in August and requested to continue with labor (she was in labor and they found out at the hospital the baby didn't have a heartbeat anymore). She really wanted to avoid a c/s, but ended up with one after a long time pushing and no progress. I think I would want to be completely knocked out (for days maybe) if I was in her situation.