Just got a BFP and I need advice (silly problem)

buler23

I just got a BFP and I need some advice.

We are going on a wine tour this weekend with DS whole family (parents, BILs and wives).  I am only about four weeks along.  What do I do?  I don't think I am ready to tell anyone, but they will know something is up when i don't participate.  Any suggestions :-)

ridesbuttons

If you are visiting vineyards, the proper thing to do when tasting is to swish it around and then spit it out.  Don't know how long you'll get away with this.

If you are known to be 'trying', then I advise just saying that you are trying and therefore not drinking.  I used this legitimately for both pregnancies and it totally backed off any further questions.

Suzie~shell

Are you all driving or are you being driven? You can always call DD. I find that people jump at the chance to have a designated driver that isn't them. Maybe you could say that you and DH flipped a coin, and it was your turn to drive?

 

grja

At 4 weeks along, i'd just fake it. Swallowing a little won't hurt the baby. I'd just go into it saying you're not feeling well and taking baby sips.

buler23

Suzie~shell:

Are you all driving or are you being driven? You can always call DD. I find that people jump at the chance to have a designated driver that isn't them. Maybe you could say that you and DH flipped a coin, and it was your turn to drive?

 

 My pregnant sister-in-law has already called DD.  The nice thing is that this wine tour isn't just about the wine - it is a holiday event.  However, I usually love me some wine, so people will wonder. 

grja

Well if its family, i'd probably tell them. But then again, i told both our families the day we found out both times.

marchbaby

I would tell them, but I always tell right away.  I figure if something was to happen i'd want their support.

But if you dont' want to do that, you can say you are on a medication (just pick a random thing..sinus infection etc) that you can't drink with.  Just make it a non contagious problem or they'll all avoid you like the plague

AnnapolisLari

grja:

Well if its family, i'd probably tell them. But then again, i told both our families the day we found out both times.

I wasn't even late, and DH told the world. I would just tell them.

4Speedy

I had to go to a wine tasting when I was about 15 weeks PG with clients.  We were right in the middle of an aquisition so I was worried about job security and therefore keeping my PG secret.  I faked my way through the whole thing.  I never once took a drink but I held the glass up to my lips and made comments about how this one smells "sticky sweet," etc.  Even my closest friends at work couldn't tell I was faking and they had a good laugh weeks later when I finally had to come clean.

Printergirl

If you don't want to tell them yet (we waited as MIL would tell the world and we weren't ready for that) I'd try to fake it. Sit on the end w/ next to you so they won't pay as much attention. Have him switch glasses with you (we did this at a wedding and it worked like a charm).