Maybe I just need a therapist..

realisticdreams

because I want another baby. 

But then, tomorrow, I won't.

I know it's horomones, but I need to decide if I'm going to get my IUD put in.

I want to give Peyton my undivided attention...I was an only child but Dh is one of three. 

He is on board with whatever I want to do.

Financially, we would be OK but we only have two bedrooms.  We couldn't really get a new place with just having Peyton right now..so that wouldn't be a change.

I  miss being pregnant, but then I don't miss being pregnant.  I had alot of complications and was told I was going to miscarry multiple times.  I was on bedrest and had PUPPS, I had a partial abruption and lost alot of blood. 

My delivery went quickly but I had a bad episiotomy and had over 40 stitches..

I'm obviously rambling on & I'm sorry.  I just need to get it all on paper and get opinions.

We also had to take fertility drugs to get pregnatn with P, so even if we don't use bc I could still NOT get pregnant. 

Part of me wants to just see what happens..but I'm slightly scared to death of getting pregnant again.

I know I don't have to rush..stupid horomones!!

Mysterious_wife

You aren't even cleared to have sex. I think you need to wait, before making a choice.

weelass24

You've made this mistake before. this is BOTB , not 0-3.

LucyAnnie

Mysterious_wife:

You aren't even cleared to have sex. I think you need to wait, before making a choice.

This? 

buckin

Since you have a few more weeks before you are even cleared for sex to worry about it, I would advise chilling and letting your hormones calm down before considering pregnancy again.

That's about all I've got in that situation. Maybe try the 0-3 month board with a possible larger target audience of people with similar thoughts etc.

Adorable dogs btw.

lo45fd98wq32

It's def just hormones. She isn't even 1 month old yet! There is no way you should be TTC after all those issues when your baby is 3 weeks old.

I know it's rough, but you should focus on her, and think about a 2nd one later on.

horizon1322

I'd go with a therapist over internet strangers. Or better yet, your husband... but anyway:

If you're having second thoughts, you need to wait. You've made a good argument for waiting, but no argument for having another child now (other than "I want to").

Also, I know you needed fertility drugs to get pregnant with your first, but please use BC if you're TTA. That's the logic that led to my parents' second child...

realisticdreams

weelass24:

You've made this mistake before. this is BOTB , not 0-3.

I'm pretty sure I've never posted over here before, on purpose or accident.

I was also unaware that "babies on the brain" was for an elite few.

Because, I have babies on the brain, it seemed to make sense to me.  Won't make this mistake again.

My checkup is at 4 weeks, btw, to be cleared for sex. 

Mrs.C042807

I had a bad tear and sex was the furthest thing from my mind for weeks. There's no way I'd even consider it at 4 weeks.

buckin

realisticdreams:

weelass24:

You've made this mistake before. this is BOTB , not 0-3.

I'm pretty sure I've never posted over here before, on purpose or accident.

I was also unaware that "babies on the brain" was for an elite few.

Because, I have babies on the brain, it seemed to make sense to me.  Won't make this mistake again.

My checkup is at 4 weeks, btw, to be cleared for sex. 

You got VERY helpful comments making your statement rude and unnecessary.

weelass24

realisticdreams:

weelass24:

You've made this mistake before. this is BOTB , not 0-3.

I'm pretty sure I've never posted over here before, on purpose or accident.

I was also unaware that "babies on the brain" was for an elite few.

Because, I have babies on the brain, it seemed to make sense to me.  Won't make this mistake again.

My checkup is at 4 weeks, btw, to be cleared for sex. 

You were. it involved a lot of singing MJ because you didn't explain to us that you couldn't feed your hungry daughter more than 2oz every 2hr. i was not trying to be a snob, I was trying to be helpful. I honestly thought you meant to post this on 0-3.

My fvcking bad. 

julia0402

Sounds like you need to go with some sort of birth control that's less long-term than an IUD until you get everything straightened out in your head.  You had a baby THREE WEEKS ago.  Give yourself a little time  I'm almost 10 MONTHS out and still haven't decided whether I want another or not.

leslie13510

You're still in the "easy" newborn stage.  Your baby hasn't even woken up yet.  Survive the 6 week to 4 month old period and then start deciding if you want more now or later.

bronc09

leslie13510:

You're still in the "easy" newborn stage.  Your baby hasn't even woken up yet.  Survive the 6 week to 4 month old period and then start deciding if you want more now or later.

This, and try to survive early toddlerhood too!

realisticdreams

weelass24:

realisticdreams:

weelass24:

You've made this mistake before. this is BOTB , not 0-3.

I'm pretty sure I've never posted over here before, on purpose or accident.

I was also unaware that "babies on the brain" was for an elite few.

Because, I have babies on the brain, it seemed to make sense to me.  Won't make this mistake again.

My checkup is at 4 weeks, btw, to be cleared for sex. 

You were. it involved a lot of singing MJ because you didn't explain to us that you couldn't feed your hungry daughter more than 2oz every 2hr. i was not trying to be a snob, I was trying to be helpful. I honestly thought you meant to post this on 0-3.

My fvcking bad. 

Seriously?  I posted that on here?

I didn't mean to be a ***, but I felt kind of attacked. 

but now I just have to laugh that I honestly never realized that. 

I'm just going to get my IUD put in, I think alot of it is hormones.  If we change our minds I will have it taken out. 

It's funny, two years ago we didn't want kids at all.

I do have heart problems and may have to have a transplant in the future because my muscle is not functioning as well as it should be.  I was told the earlier we have children the better because function wise it can handle it right now.  I had multiple echo's during pregnancy and have to have a follow/up one in January to make sure their was no existing damage from pregnancy/delivery.

Thanks for everyones opinions and sorry I snapped.