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MaxOrTori

Did you remove your siggy / plan to observe the silence, because you didn't want to be judged or felt pressured?[Poll]

XXXXX222

That is a shame that some feel pressured to do so.   What do the people putting the pressure on think they're accomplishing by that?

MaxOrTori

sulfababy:

That is a shame that some feel pressured to do so.   What do the people putting the pressure on think they're accomplishing by that?

I know that some have received hate PMs for not removing their siggy.  I think thats wrong.

j_luvs_r

MaxOrTori:

sulfababy:

That is a shame that some feel pressured to do so.   What do the people putting the pressure on think they're accomplishing by that?

I know that some have received hate PMs for not removing their siggy.  I think thats wrong.

What???  That is awful.

Melaneigh1

I didn't vote because I don't really have a right answer.  Like others have said, I appreciate the sentiment, but am not sure it's completely appropriate.  I did, however, remove my siggy.  I guess I'm going with "erring on the side of caution," if that makes sense.

When I removed it I resolved that it was inspired by Christopher, but just as much for every other lost baby from any other woman, or any other tragedy that has happened.  I think it does us all good to take a moment and reflect, however we choose to do so.

I also think it's terrible that peple are receiving such hateful responses for choosing not to participate.

crownedbee

MaxOrTori:

I know that some have received hate PMs for not removing their siggy.  I think thats wrong.

That's was TW, and it makes me sick to my stomach that somebody would send her a hate PM for not removing her siggy.  She lost a child too, you know?

I removed my siggy because I did something for the girls here that lost their babies, and I wanted to do something for ketamarie too.  My siggy will go back on Monday, including the lost babies candle.

I think it's silly that all boards should observe the hour of silence, though.

LucyAnnie

I did it because I wanted to.  If I didn't want too I wouldn't have.  I think it should be each persons decision to make and that we all need to respect that decision.  It does not mean that they don't care or are not compassionate about the other person.  I can't beleive that some would be hateful because of some one choosing to keep her siggy.  I am sure ketamarie would not like that at all. 

Jenandtonica

I'm acknowledging both sentiments for one reason - leaving my siggy as is and posting during that hour mean less to me than what a show of support could potentially mean to someone else. I'd do the same for anyone on the boards.

goofyteacher

I didn't have a siggy prior to this and will be at work during the hour of silence.  So completely by coincidence I am par-taking in both.  I don't understand why something that was meant to bring everyone together is getting people so upset.  To each their own and no reason to judge one way or another.

roshybride

SO I just found out what was going on, but I have not removed, nor plan on removing my siggy. It is not because I don't feel awful for the woman and her family (I do), but I feel that if I removed my siggy, it will just because I am following the crowd. I don't know her and to me, removing my siggy in memory of her son would be like attending the funeral of someone I didn't know who died, just for appearances.

*KC*luvs*RJ*

j_luvs_r:

MaxOrTori:

sulfababy:

That is a shame that some feel pressured to do so.   What do the people putting the pressure on think they're accomplishing by that?

I know that some have received hate PMs for not removing their siggy.  I think thats wrong.

What???  That is awful.

Wow!  That's really terrible!

thefarmchick

I am observing because if that were me I would be devastated and I feel like its such a small thing to show support.

Pictures and a ticker on a message board being removed for a weekend really aren't that big of a deal, I can look at my son and she can't.  It's not about what "I" want, it's about showing support and how sad the situation was.  Every time I see the "in memory of Christopher" I say a little prayer for that family and thank God for mine.  I do that every time a see an "in memory of" signature.

I don't care if other people did/not do it though. Their choice.

Lambie.

Can I vote for "I didn't remove mine because I have been bumping from my phone for the past week and a half" and also I am slow and don't read all the posts since my phone is slow so posts about signatures weren't high on my to read list. 

Now that I know though, it is very sad and I feel terrible for her.