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I think I have the new low/high in the TTCAL edition

ShellShockedMamaShellShockedMama member
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of WTF was I smoking when picking my friends?

I was talking to a friend and she was all concerned that I've been absent from social activities and such. I then told her about the loss and the fact that I just don't feel like doing some things:

READY? (no. really. you need to prepare)

"Friend": Oh, I know how you feel. When I got my last abortion, I was totally sad.

Indifferent

I didn't even know what to say, so I just hung up. I mean really? REALLY? I'm not even upset, I'm honestly at a loss for words at how bad I am at picking out friends.

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  • SonadoraSonadora member

    WTF? People suck.

     

    I finally told BFF this weekend and the first thing she said was "Were you trying?" UM, wtf dude? Why does that matter and would it hurt any less if we had an accident? No, it wouldn't. I had something terrible happen to me and that's what you have to say???

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    Whoa.

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  • lindsay.loulindsay.lou member
    PLEASE tell me you are NEVER speaking a word to her ever again in your entire life? PLEASE!
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  • erpetdocerpetdoc

    That's ridiculous.  You can't compare a chosen loss to an unplanned, unexpected, and unwanted loss.  And I do know there are some women here that made the choice to go through their losses, but that was not because the child was an inconvenience or a problem; it was because it was the best thing for their child, and the kindest decision to make. 

    Your IRL friend(s) need to STFU!!! 

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  • travers081906travers081906
    ummm.... wow!!! Those are tow different situations!!! WOW
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  • SallyCampos22SallyCampos22 member
    imageSonadora:

    WTF? People suck.

     

    I finally told BFF this weekend and the first thing she said was "Were you trying?" UM, wtf dude? Why does that matter and would it hurt any less if we had an accident? No, it wouldn't. I had something terrible happen to me and that's what you have to say???

    I had been asked this countless times after I told people about our loss. I have wondered if people ask because they feel like they're out of the loop, since they didn't know we were trying to have a baby (as if they needed to be in the loop on this one...).

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  • babes12babes12 member

    huh? people are so strange!!! 

    well hopefully your not as bad picking out "TTC Buddies"  LOL! 

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  • ShellShockedMamaShellShockedMama member
    imagepapetvet:

    That's ridiculous.  You can't compare a chosen loss to an unplanned, unexpected, and unwanted loss.  And I do know there are some women here that made the choice to go through their losses, but that was not because the child was an inconvenience or a problem; it was because it was the best thing for their child, and the kindest decision to make. 

    Your IRL friend(s) need to STFU!!! 

    Oh, yes for sure. This friend has ended two pregnancies purely b/c she didn't feel like having them and didn't want to be tied forever for the men she was with at the time. (Nothing like anything anyone one this board has been through)

    And while that's her right in this pro-choice world, damn it, I wanted mine.

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  • Mrs.KristenMrs.Kristen

    Central Florida wonder if it is the same "friend"

     

    sadly I know people like that and i've chosen to stop all communication with them. Those that like to fake their pregnancies to.

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  • ShellShockedMamaShellShockedMama member
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    huh? people are so strange!!! 

    well hopefully your not as bad picking out "TTC Buddies"  LOL! 

    Haha, I think I did pretty good with that one. I obviously was smoking the good stuff that day. hehehe.

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  • lax15bsulax15bsu member
    Um, wow. That's as bad as my finding out my psycho SIL had 3 abortions. She had told me she had three m/c's. Not that I don't respect her right... But omfgosh.
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  • MrsDCruzMrsDCruz member

    Omg I would have lost my shiiiit.

    ::runs of post screaming and pulling my hair:: 

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  • andrea zandrea z
    Oh my God... who thinks that is the same???  Hmmm I think you need to fire your friend.
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  • HeatherPB1020HeatherPB1020 member
    I have no words.
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  • babes12babes12 member
    imageShellShockedMama:
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    huh? people are so strange!!! 

    well hopefully your not as bad picking out "TTC Buddies"  LOL! 

    Haha, I think I did pretty good with that one. I obviously was smoking the good stuff that day. hehehe.

    hee, hee, hee...

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  • cintimcintim
    Oh My. Yea, that is soooo the same... NOT.
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  • erinrae1011erinrae1011 member

    WOWSurprise

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  • mrs.pooksmrs.pooks

    if i didnt know any better, i'd say we have the same *exact* friend. she told me that on pregnancy/infant loss day when i was bummed out. i wanted to poke my eyes out with a spoon.

     people suck ((hugs))


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  • Cow-girlCow-girl member

    Indifferent  What do people think really?  When they say crap like that.  It just amazes me how much people stick their feet in their mouths...  Im sorry you had to deal with that...  I would have told her that my loss and your abortion are two TOTALLY different things Ahole!

    Oh and btw, thats why you should just hang out with us!  Cuz we would NEVER say stuff like that to you!.

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  • dandlelyondandlelyon

    All I can muster up is... 

     whoa.

    (Said friend doesn't even deserver a capital letter. )

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  • angw79angw79
    You seriously need a new friend! I don't know if I could ever speak to that person again.
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  • grr_aarghgrr_aargh member
    I'll be your new friend.  I say stupid ***, but it's FUNNY stupid ***. 
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  • KelleyBeanKelleyBean member
    Since Kelz isn't here I'll say it....Oh No She Didn't!
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  • ShellShockedMamaShellShockedMama member

    imagegrr_aargh:
    I'll be your new friend.  I say stupid ***, but it's FUNNY stupid ***. 
    SWEET!

    So, are you moving to FL or am I moving to CO?

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