How much of this is heredity?

Alison513

I'm new to the board and relatively new to TTC. I guess I figured it would be easy to get pg cause my mom has 3 kids and never had any problems (even with only one ovary). However, we m/c'd this month after our first BFP. I have an older sister who also m/c'd early. Anyone else out there have a mom or sister who is/was in the same boat? Is my m/c something I should share with my younger sister (she and her DH are also TTC)? For me, it was easier the fewer people that knew so only my mom knows. Just wondering....

ColindaP

Some causes can be hereditary, some are not. With as common as it is to have one early mc, statistically speaking, it's not surprising it happened to both you and your sister, and odds probably are still that it was just coincidence. But we all know how frustrating that is to hear when we want answers ;-)

My mom had severe endometriosis and my parents TTC for about 10 years, then adopted my brothers, then got pg, miscarried, then got pg again (with me, and it was an oops - they were supposed to wait and didn't). I don't have endometriosis and have no trouble conceiving, I just have multiple losses. So, in short, it seems like sometimes there may be a hereditary factor, but oftentimes, there's not.?

SallyCampos22

I'm very sorry for your loss. You've picked a great board to talk to, however.

Regarding your question, my mom had a stillborn baby in her first pregnancy. Other than that, I don't know of any other family members that have had a pregnancy loss. My sister got pregnant quite easily, which is a source of frustration for me.

I don't know how much of it is hereditary, but I do know that early pregnancy loss is common in the first few weeks of pregnancy (not that anyone tells us until it happens to one of us). Once I had told a few people of my loss they were full of stories of friends and family members that had lost their first pregnancy. It didn't make me feel any better, of course.

3ltlones

I have had several losses and have some problems(fibroids, cysts, don't ovulate every month) and neither my mother or sister have had problems.  So,  I'm not sure, I think it depends on the situation.

medblonde

Yeah, my mom lost 6.  I've lost 1...this makes me extremely nervous.

I_am_DCA

I am so sorry for your loss.  Most miscarriages are spontaneous.  Only after a woman has recurrent ones do you start to think about clotting disorders / inherited problems.  There is really no need to share this loss with family members unless you want to.

We got married on the same day!  It has just flown by hasn't it?  Did you get married in Texas?  We were married in Houston.

Best of luck.  Hope to see you around here.

Alison513

I've been in the Dr for bloodwork several times over the last 2 weeks. She told me it was fairly common to have an early loss. Why don't they put that info out there when you're first TTC?? Maybe I would have felt more normal.

Alison513

I_am_DCA:

I am so sorry for your loss.  Most miscarriages are spontaneous.  Only after a woman has recurrent ones do you start to think about clotting disorders / inherited problems.  There is really no need to share this loss with family members unless you want to.

We got married on the same day!  It has just flown by hasn't it?  Did you get married in Texas?  We were married in Houston.

Best of luck.  Hope to see you around here.

 

Yes It has flown by!! We got married in Tyler. Good luck to you

BTW I love your pumpkin pic... hook 'em!

I_am_DCA

Probably not to scare people?  If you ever feel comfortable opening up and talking to people about your loss you would be shocked at how many have had at least one.  The textbooks say that 20% of known pregnancies miscarry but they think many, many more happen (and the woman never knew she was pregnant).  It is truly a miracle that people ever have babies. With that being said, most people only have one miscarriage.  

ChicagoWeded2007

THe fact that your mom and sister have had early losses is not very surprising, considering the fact that early loss is so common.  Both my sisters and my mom and I have had losses, but it's just because they have been pregnant so often.  My mom had 4 m/c, but then 6 babies.  There is no reason to think that you have a hereditary problem.  My loss for example, was caused by trisomy 16, which is not hereditary.  You have no more chance of having a miscarriage again than any one else and neither does your little sister.

The sad fact is that many people have miscarriages.  having one or two does not necessarily mean that anything is wrong with your genes.

Alison513

That's true. Although this whole process has been a little scary. I'm trying to read a lot and have all the info I need to ask good questions when I go back to Dr. next week.

MrsNJTiger

I have asked myself this question many times...I am not sure what the answer is.

None of the other women in my family had a hard time getting pg.  All got pg. right away, first time.  My grandmother even had my aunt at 40, and my mom had my sis at 39.  I thought I would have no problems getting pg.

Well, it took me 9 months to get pg the first time.  I am currently having my 4th m/c.  All the other ladies in my fam have had easy healthy pregnancies, yet here I am.  Actually my grandmother had a stillborn.  So it is just she and I.

To answer your last question, I think it is just personal preference.  I have chosen to tell my family..sisters & cousin bc it was easier for me to talk to them about it.

I am sorry you are going through this.

Court1

This is my first loss, and hopefully my last, but it was a late one.  We have absolutely no losses in my family, except for my grandmother.  DH's family has a few.