How do you keep going??

MrsNJTiger

What gives you strength to keep going down the TTCAL journey?

I am at a major bump in the road and trying to figure out if we should continue with our journey or if we need to get the "hint" it is just not in the cards for us.

Looking for some inspiration

I_am_DCA

I look towards my patients for strength. I had a 49 year old with twins a few months ago.  She had previously failed 6 IVF cycles and had some pregnancies intermittently.  That's just one example. 

Where there is a will, there is a way. 

I often need breaks from here because the constant BFPs of people newer than me can get tough.  Just lean on your husband and do not give up.

 

bebeblues

I totally agree. I am there w/you. I feel so "done" at this point. I'm ready to throw my cards in and just accept where I am. My dreams of a large family may not be.

I hope we both find the strength to keep going and get our sticky bfp's soon. ((hugs))

 

picarona

I find enormous strength from the other women on this board, but you already know that source.

I have done something positive towards the goal of baby after each miscarriage.  After the first one, we replaced the window in our future baby's room (we've been doing them one at a time through the house) because it was tangible proof to myself that we ARE going to have a baby in that room someday.  After the second one, I painted that room for a nursery. I don't know what I'll do if, God forbid, this happens a third time.  I don't want to furnish the whole damn room on a hope.

Anyway, is there anything tangible you can do to prove to yourself that you believe it will happen?  This sounds so cheesy but it really does help me.

SpeedGlenn

It's soooo soon for you.  I think it's normal to want to toss hope out the window and back over it with the car.  I think you need a little time between your most recent loss and and making any decisions about your journey.  You'll be able to make a decision (one way or another) with a little more clarity and certainty.

MrsNJTiger

SpeedGlenn:

It's soooo soon for you.  I think it's normal to want to toss hope out the window and back over it with the car.  I think you need a little time between your most recent loss and and making any decisions about your journey.  You'll be able to make a decision (one way or another) with a little more clarity and certainty.

It is really hard b/c this is loss #4.  My surgery this summer was supposed to "cure" my habitual miscarriages, but now there must be something else.

I_am_DCA

I can't remember what surgery you had.  A septum removed?

MrsNJTiger

I_am_DCA:

I can't remember what surgery you had.  A septum removed?

Yes, I had a septum removed in July.  They also took out some tiny pieces of endometriosis that they found and also my bowel was around my left ovary so they fixed that too.