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#1_BadgeBunny

So the M&M's are 4 weeks old and doing well now that we switched them to soy formula but i feel like the last 2-3 weeks of them being gassy has created mini monsters hahaha.  They are hard to put down and when ever they loose thier paci's they wake up.  I feel like i get maybe 30 min to 1 hour between feedings if im lucky to do other stuff like shower and wash bottels haha! If its not one baby its the other.  At what age can i let them try to work it out themselves?  I mean i check on them and see if the cry is truely an "i have gas" or "i have a dirty diaper" cry but if its just them wanting to be held or soothed should i ignore it for a few minutes?  I feel like we might be creatingbad habits? but my heart breaks hearing them cry!

Any advice?

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Right now they're too young to CIO.  CIO shouldn't be practiced until at least 4m, some say closer to 6m.  If a young baby is crying, it's because they need something (even if it is just to held or soothed).  Have you tried baby wearing? 

#1_BadgeBunny

cio?? sorry not very up on my accronims.  i hear ya on them needing something but if everything is checked such as diaper.. fed.. not too ho not too cold etc and its not like they arent getting plenty of cuddel time and can u create bad habits this young?

 baby wearing.. like w a sling? seems dangerous to start that w twins??? I must sound sooooooo cold.. trust me i love my babies but i am human!

atlbride23

if its just them wanting to be held or soothed should i ignore it for a few minutes? 

This is a legitimate need for a 1 month old.  If they need to be soothed, by all means, pick them up whenever possible- I know it's hard anf frustrating sometimes, especially if they are both crying.  Don't worry about creating bad habits until they are at least 4-6 months. Truthfully, some days I don't get to take a shower at all, and never until DH gets home, but i'm okay with it.  They wont be this small for long.

Also, I wore the girls together in a wrap for the first month if both of them were inconsolable.  I felt like they were totally secure as long as I wasn't bending over, etc.

#1_BadgeBunny

I feel like an awful mom letting them cry and i know they cant help themselves... PP you are right they wont be this way long i cant believe how much they ahve grown already!!! Its getting better every day just worried about when i have to go back to work in a few more weeks. 

Thanks guess a little canoodeling is never a bad thing!

ahava2005

CIO = cry it out.  They are too young to learn to self-soothe.  Not until 4-6 months can they learn that.

at that age, needing to be cuddled IS a valid need that should be attended to.  You cannot spoil a child that young. 

meldoo2002

Get used to it... for awhile at least.  The only way I stayed sane until about 4 months was wearing them.  I had a Moby wrap that I wore one in and was able to tend to the other one at the same time.  I could feed the other, change diapers, replace pacis, etc.  DH even wore them when he was home in a Bjorn because cuddling 2 was hard.  You can not let them self soothe until they are at least 6 months old (adjusted age)... until then they cry for a reason and need to be cuddled.  Habits do not begin to form until at least 12 weeks of age so you are not creating bad habits at this point.  We rocked our babies to sleep (first in the swing then in a chair) for the first 8 months of their lives.  At 9 months we did CIO... it went great and we haven't looked back since.  They were not ready before that.

gumiberg

you can wear 2 small babies in the moby and at the very least, wear one and hold one...easier than holding two, IMO.

i do a lot of back rubbing/head rubbing/patting...my kids are 4 months now and only need that stuff to go to sleep.  it gets easier!