C-section moms-when did DH go back to work?

Blakes mommy

I had a C-section a week ago from today.  My DH is going back to work tomorrow and I am scared sh!tless.  Not because I am scared of the baby but because I am scared I can't physically take care of the baby.  I am still pretty sore and have been having some strong burning sensations on the right side of my incision on the muscle. 

Anyone else feel this way and how did you cope?  Any tricks or advice?  I just want to be the best mom I can be for LO and I don't know if my body is going to let me do that yet. 

lissah23

DH was able to take a month off of work - but that was arranged well before we knew I was going to have a C/S, so I was super lucky.

I felt great pretty fast, but I know I couldn't have done it alone.  Even now at almost 3 weeks PP I still struggle to do some things without DH's help (especially if I get myself into a weird position on the couch while I'm holding DS - DH went out the other day for a while and I was stuck on the couch the whole time watching Italian news because I couldn't sit up to change the channel).

Do you have any friends or family members who can come over once in a while to help you out or check in on you?

Rogue Lily

My H went back after 2 weeks, but if it makes you feel any better, I started to feel 30 million times better around day 8.

tabi_ja

DH went back to work on day 5.  I was fine, and so was Miles.  Just give yourself permission to do nothing but care for your LO.  No house cleaning, no errands - don't even fix dinner (do leftovers, take-out, or have DH cook).  You will do a great job and everyone will be ok.

GL! 

melissapgreen

I had M on a Thursday and DH went back to work the next week's Monday, so I had a week and a half.  Just be careful. If you feel comfortable with it, invite a close friend or family member over to help out a little. If nothing else, they will help take your mind off of being overwhelmed (that was my problem). GL and Congrats!

Teenie61006

My DH is going back tomorrow and he was home for 2 weeks. Like the PP, don't attempt to do anything but care for LO. The second week home was so much better than the first but make sure you still take it slow-and if you have any neighbors/ friends close by have them just stop in to check on you guys every now and then. GL !

umbcpt

DH went back last night   That was 9 days.  We managed fine, but I forgot to take Motrin before going to bed, and luckily he came home at 6:30 this morning and got it for me.  I also cheated and DD coslept last night.  I am not sure I could have done it any other way.  Thank goodness DS slept and didn't need me last night (he occasionally wakes up with a bad dream or something). 

GL.

wheelenl

DH goes back to work tomorrow, a week out from my C/S. My mom is coming up for the week, though.

I feel good enough to take care of the baby, it's my three-year old that makes it difficult. 

Don't be afraid to ask for help. I ended up asking a friend to take my other son yesterday for a while because even with DH and I it was getting to be too much, and his mom (who was planning on helping) has been sick since Tuesday. 

GL.

AMYfromKY

He went back after the week, but then I was readmitted to the hospital (not c-section related). 

Honestly I would've been fine physically taking care of him within 4 days of my c-section.  If you are still sore can you take some pain meds?

chrystaleigh

I was lucky DH was able to take a month off. He goes back Monday...boo!

Nikki_Jo

DH took 3 weeks off but we had this arranged before we knew about the c/s.  He has to go back this week to work, but luckily he works 12 hr shifts 3 days a week.

ZAngel

DH went back after 3 weeks.  He didn't want to go back before I could get up and down the stairs by myself.  I also had to go back on pain meds because I pushed things too hard the first week home.  The meds made me very sleepy so he wanted to make sure he was around when I took them.  I also wasn't released to drive until after my 2 week pp visit.

mb~zf

I'm spoiled because he is home with us for another 2.5 weeks.

Like the pp's have said.  Only do baby stuff.  Leave the house, dishes, errands for later.   

mybobble

My dh has been off for the wk w/ me. He has to go back to work this wk but only for half days due to scheduled meetings he can't get out of. We're going to play it by ear for the next wk. He has a TON of vacation hrs he needs to use so he could continue working half days for a while.

I don't plan on doing anything overly exciting while he's gone. Just baby related stuff!

juliane2004

I had my csection on a Tuesday, and he went back the following Tuesday, only because he didnt have any more time to be off.

I made sure to take tylenol and advil as often as allowed. Also, I made sure to try to do things as much as possible myself before DH went back to work; like I got up and walked to the kitchen if I needed something, etc. The more I moved, the better I felt. Also, at 1 week old, my baby slept a lot of the day (like she was only awake to eat), so I slept a lot when she did.

Other than that, I was able to cope simply because I had to.

Also, I would suggest that if anyone at all can come help, have them come over. My sister took us to my LO's first doc appt (since I couldnt carry the carseat cause of the csection), and stayed with us that first day after DH went back to work.

 

GL.

cstowe

My baby was born at 33 weeks and was in NICU for almost a month, my husband was off for a week and went back to work so that DS came home he would be able to take additional time off. 

 It was hard with him being off because I could drive to the hospital at first, but my parents would take me everyday so it worked out.