Really struggling tonight..

Amanda&PJ

I will be going back to work FT mid- January.  I'll be leaving my house at 6:30 am to get to work and will leave work at 4 to pick up LO by 4:45.  DH will be dropping her off at around 7:30.  This will be 5 days a week, maybe 4, as my dad really wants to watch her one day...

I am REALLY struggling with the thought of her being in daycare full time!  I just feel like she is so young... What if she gets confused and scared?  She'll have spent the first three months of her life at home with me 24/7 and now she'll be with strangers (who are VERY sweet and will be so good to her, btw, but still..)

I wish I could stay home or work PT.  But I make considerably more than DH and we live in a HCOL area, so it just couldn't work.  Anyway, I've lost it over this a couple of times tonight... I think I might be a little overly emotional anyway... should probably speak to my DR. about this... 

 Is anyone else struggling with this? 

Thanks for letting me vent!

bncmommy

I have to go back to work this week and I'm having a hard time also. I only work 3 days/week and we have grandparents watching the kids and I'm still dreading it. My DS cries whenever my MIL holds him and she will be watching the kids 2 of the days (my mom will do the other). I feel so bad for my baby. How do you leave him somewhere when you know he will probably cry all day? I'll probably be crying too!

Serinn

I go back to work Wednesday and I keep feeling like I made the wrong choice by not getting out (I'm Air Force).  I know how you feel.  I'm sad. 

Mrs.S.on.01.19.08

I am in the same situation and feel exactly the same way.  I wish there was any way around me going back to FT...but there isn't.  It's hard.  I just hope it gets better once I'm actually back....and I'm trying to take advantage of the next 7 weeks I have with DD and trying VERY hard not to think about going back to work right now.

I feel for you.

dragon_chica

bncmommy:

I have to go back to work this week and I'm having a hard time also. I only work 3 days/week and we have grandparents watching the kids and I'm still dreading it. My DS cries whenever my MIL holds him and she will be watching the kids 2 of the days (my mom will do the other). I feel so bad for my baby. How do you leave him somewhere when you know he will probably cry all day? I'll probably be crying too!

I have a similar situation.  I'm going back PT starting this Tues. and my parents will watch DD.  Thanksgiving was the first time they watched her alone for more than an hour and she cried almost the entire time.  It also doesn't help that she started refusing the bottle a couple weeks ago so now I'm stressed out about that.  I'll be at work from 7-4 my first day back and the thought of her crying and not eating for that long makes me wish I was SAH or had more time.  I start to cry now when I think about it.

Mrslove78

I felt like you at first (DS is now 7 months old), and I love him being there, and he loves it.  He has this little homey that he never wants to be separated from.  As long as you prepare for the next day every night, it's not so overwhelming.

As far as your LO waking up and being confused...  I'd start taking her for a few minutes each day just so you will be more comforatable with it all.  Can you have LO spend one day there, and you stop in that day to see how it is and have LO get used to it? 

thetwistedwillow

I was a daycare kid and loved my friends, "teachers" and having tons of activities. It wasn't until I was older (pre-teen) that I wanted to go home after school and my mom eventually let me.

fnkeefresh

With my first baby I had to go back to work after 7 weeks.  I cried everyday for the first month.  It was SOOO hard.  Now I have my 2nd daughter who is almost 5 months old, and both DH & I lost our jobs, so we are desperately looking for work.  If I get the job I have been interviewing for I will start Dec. 6th and she will be with DH starting then.  When I was gone for 4 hours for the interview & observation session Riley was fine with just her daddy....when I got home though she just held onto me and nuzzled me for hours, she woke up immediately when I tried to put her down when she fell asleep.  Being away from your LO is hard, but it makes you realize how much you love being with them.