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When you were having the TTC conversation

weelass24weelass24 member
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and one of you wanted to wait, how did the other person get the point accoss without bashing the other over the head with it, so to speak.

D will not leave me alone about TTC #2.  I'm all for it, next September.  Not now, not in March. September.  End of.  He's driving me crazy.  He knows that I want to wait and how long.  It's 10 freaking months away.  Can you give me that?  Please? 

SIGH.

Someone please help me not to kill him.

 

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Re: When you were having the TTC conversation

  • DNK777DNK777 member
    I would inspect your condoms for holes. Stick out tongue
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  • griffenhcgriffenhc
    I'm sure you've already done this, but have you told him the specific reasons why you want to wait and heard his reasons why he doesn't?
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  • AllThatGlitters101AllThatGlitters101 member
    What are his specific reasons for wanting to start now?
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  • Anna&MattAnna&Matt member
    we made a list of things that needed to be done before we started trying and when we finished the list we started trying. Can you make a goal that you want that will take that long to accomplish and go about it like that?
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  • weelass24weelass24 member

    imageAllThatGlitters101:
    What are his specific reasons for wanting to start now?

    He's just wants another.  He loves kids and want lots of them. 

    I just want some more time. I was not that in love with pregnancy and had a really rough 3rd tri.  I want to give myself some time before I put my body through that again.  Plus, I don't want to be pregnancy and having constantly pick up the NSWB.  Because he is NOT wee.  LOL. 

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  • weelass24weelass24 member

    imageAnna&Matt:
    we made a list of things that needed to be done before we started trying and when we finished the list we started trying. Can you make a goal that you want that will take that long to accomplish and go about it like that?

    Maybe, but I don't think he's go for it.  I just want time to not be pregnant.  That's really my only reasoning.  Enjoy Oisin and not be pregnant. 

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  • goofyteachergoofyteacher member
    Honestly that was how it went.  DH pestered until I finally gave in and as soon as I did I was super excited about it.  So sorry I'm not any help.
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  • Anna&MattAnna&Matt member
    I'm sorry wee. But really if you're not ready he needs to suck it up and wait. You should BOTH be ready because going from 1 to 2 is going to be hard on everyone and will be even harder if you're really not ready yet.
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  • heather527heather527

    We have been having the same issue for a few years now. He wants kids yesterday and I have been putting it off. I think it is hard for him to understand that while it is a major step/commitment for both of us, it is even more so for me.

    I have to carry the baby and then breastfeed and everything else pp, that is a huge physical commitment. As much as I would love a baby, that part is freaking me out. I know it's all worth it in the end, but it is a lot of work on our part. So good luck making him understand, I haven't been able to yet.

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  • GBCKGBCK member

    well, default whenever in disagreement on kids always comes down to those in favor of delay/no kids wins.

    Alway.s

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  • griffenhcgriffenhc
    Sounds like he needs reminding about how hard it was on you.  He wasn't the one whose body was in distress, so it may have gotten all hazy for him.  After all, he has that adorable baby putting a nice gloss over those bad memories.  But all in all, yes - your body, your right to say when.
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  • Lambie.Lambie. member
    I'm not much help either. DH would make an occasional comment here and there but he was never annoying about it. When I finally came around he made me look him in the eyes and say it a few times because he didn't believe I was serious.
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  • IncogNeatoIncogNeato member

    Hmmm. That's a tough one, but IMO, it's your body, and you get to decide when to put it through that again.

    DH and I are super planners so we've decided and agreeed on our start month... but I'm still starting to spaz out about the physical commitment. Today we went mountain biking and I kept thinking "I have to enjoy this now!" (because my HR goes crazy high when I bike) then I decided I MUST go horseback riding right away, even though I haven't been in ten years. Plus, every glass of wine and highly caffienated espresso beverage feels like my last. Poor DH might have to give me a pep talk in March! I'm ready for a baby, but not ready to give up my non-PG fun stuff. :-P

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