Anyone have immediate thoughts of TTC after loss?

Court1

One of my first thoughts after leaving the scan where they didn't find a heartbeat, was OMG I can never do this again.  There's no way.  Now, three days later, I find myself yearning for a chance to start over again.  Anyone else?  I know I wil be terrified, and I don't even know how long we have to wait yet.

lindsay.lou

I just started miscarrying a few hours ago and I was just on babycenter.com calculating potential due dates for our next attempt. So yeah, I'm ready. That said, I'm going to be a certifiable WRECK until 2nd tri.

Temp950106187509203

While I was in the hospital (that is, while my m/c was actively happening), I told my H I wanted to wait until this summer before we started trying again, because I so hated the thought of another baby being up here, so far away from our home, if we lost the next one, too (H is in law school, so we're here until May, and then we'll be moving back to TN).  Now, I'm anxious to start trying again.  It is going to depend on H's job/insurance situation whether we can actually start trying before we move, though. 

lenabeth

I am 1 wk post d&c and temping and waiting desperately for af so we can try again.  btw, got a bfn on a hpt! 

jen629

I had a miscarriage @ 5 weeks about 3 weeks ago...after the anger and sadness and alot of venting I came to my own realization that I really want a baby so we decided to try right away I am hoping for  a BFP next week ..fingers crossed;)....Everyone I think gets there in their own time but to me what changed it for me was I felt like I had to be in a positive frame of mind to be able to try and concieve

juliagulia322

I had a natural m/c last week and I'm trying again now. I was obviously upset over the m/c but was very happy to have gotten pregnant and want to try it again.  My RE said it was perfectly fine for me to start this cycle. I just finished Clomid yesterday.

monica92603

when it first happened, I was so upset knowing I couldn't try for AT LEAST 3 months b/c I'd had a c-section.  I couldn't even comprehend waiting that long.  My OB wanted at least 12 months between deliveries.

Now that it's been over 4 months, I'm not so much in a great hurry.  The 4 months absolutely flew by and it's hard to believe we can try now if we want. 

My thoughts are if it happens it happens.  I think we will actively start in maybe January simply for work purposes.  It's too hard for me to be out in August and September.

tradster2007

I immediately starting thinking about TTC again, which at times made me feel guilty as well.  Then AF took 7 weeks to show up after m/c and those were the longest 7 weeks ever.  Now i'm on Day 25 of my 1st cycle post m/c and I don't think I'm going to O.  I guess I'm hoping that if I get get PG I will stop thinking about how far along I should be right now and will focus on how far along I am. 

triple_sevens

I immediately felt dread at the thought that it could be yet another 7 months before we get pregnant again (that's how long it took last time). And I was not emotionally ready to restart that roller coaster. But now that it's been almost 3 weeks since learning about the missed m/c, I'm feeling eager to start. I think by the time this cycle ends, I'll be ready to go, though probably still anxious and stressed.

jgoetz:)

I am only 1 week past my D&C and will wait as long as the doctor says before TTC again, but I'm all for it now.  The thought of going through another miscarriage was unbearable at first, but I am strong and willing to do what it takes to be a mom.  Best of luck to all of you! 

Irishsapphire

Yes, after both of my miscarriages.  But I am glad that my obgyn made sure that everything for the most part was cleared out.  And then I really did not O until my first AF after the loss. 

vegas517

I go back and forth.  I had my D&C 9 days ago, and right now the thought of being pregnant again terrifies me.  I will never forget the feeling of seeing no heartbeat on the monitor, and the blur of days after that leading up to and after the D&C.  That tells me I'm not ready yet.  I hope some day, sooner rather than later, I will be.  Until then, I'm just going to take care of myself, keep an eye on the calendar and go with whatever the big man's plan is.

lisamarie_04

Yes, my husband and I asked various doctors while I was in the hospital for a few days after delivering our son when we could start trying again.  I knew that I needed to give my body some time to recover b/c I carried him until almost full term and b/c I had severe hemhorraging after delivery and also b/c I needed to be in a better place emotionally before trying again.  It's been 5 months and we're 'kind of' trying again.  My husband and I are both very scared.  I think he's actually more scared than I am and I'm glad that we've waited.  I no longer have that 'need to get pregnant immediately' feeling that I had in the first weeks home from the hospital.  Everyone is different.  Listen to your heart and your body.  The doctors told us to wait at least 3 months, some said 6 would be better, some said why don't you wait until the new year starts (which is about 6 months).  Good luck with whatever you decide!

sunshinenva

It took me a couple days, not long, before I yearned to TTC again.  I hesitated on asking the doctor when we could start TTC only because I didn't want him to think I didn't care about the baby we just lost.

The doctor recommended wait one cycle and then TTC.  Its been 4 weeks and still no AF.  The waiting has provided me time to heal.  I can now talk about my loss without crying.  My heart aches when I see pregnant women, but only because I want to be a mom so badly.  Immediately following my D&C I was an emotional wreck when I saw pregnant women and babies.

We are praying to God for AF to arrive sooner than later. 

Give yourself time to heal. 

And Ketch

I did.  As soon as my hcg reached very low levels, it was obvious I was Oing and we went for it.  Got my bfp 2 weeks later and here I am at almost 8 weeks.  We knew the risk, had done a lot of reading before deciding to try, and DH and I both agreed that TTC right away was best for both of us.  For me, I think becoming pg again helped the healing process.  I know myself and I know I would have been more anxious and wondering "what if" all the time if we didn't at least make the attempt.  Not having AF in between was a little nerve wracking, but it seems to have worked, knock on wood.  GL to all of you!

nanalovesjason

Oh ya...I'm obsessed with getting pregnant again!