is it bad?

candylies

to start TTC before I even get my first AF after d&e? The dr told us to just start trying right away and so we were both excited to get at it but i thought AF would be here by now so now i am thinking maybe we should have waited b/c if I do get pregnant now i have no way to time things. on the other hand considering it took us eight months the first time we probably are not going to get pregnant again so soon anyway...i don't know. i probably should have just waited to def get AF but I don't think I could have convinced DH to wait especially since I don't really want to wait to try myself!

Mrs.Kristen

We were told it was OK to ttc before AF. The question was were we emotionally ready to TTC. Doc offered to do BC for a week to get AF to visit but said that it is just for tracking and wasn't something we had to do. AF hasn't come yet and we haven't prevented anything. Like you it took awhile for us to get pg the last time

picarona

if your doctor says it's not bad, it's not bad.  Remember they can date the pregnancy through ultrasound if they need to, but if you chart you could be temping right now to get an idea of O date (assuming it hasn't happened already)

Emotionally is a whole other story.  I was not ready to try at that point myself, but that doesn't mean you guys aren't/weren't.  Everyone heals differently and for some part of the healing is taking that first step of TTC again. I just wasn't ready for a BFN.  If I say I'm not trying, then I have control over the situation, KWIM?  If I try and get a BFN, it's just another defeat on top of the first one.

Scout05

I also think there is something important in giving your body a cycle to heal and get back to "normal" a little bit. I did not wait in between our second and third loss, did not have AF, and now, I worry that the reason we lost Pumpkin is because I was not physically ready to be pregnant again.

I know that is a really Debbie Downer thing to say, but the guilt is a horrible part of everything now, and if I had just waited one lousy cycle, it would not be thrown into the mix.

JMHO.

JuJuBe3

We were told to wait for just one *normal* AF after my D&C to try.  They said it was to give the body, like ambrandau said, time to heal.  I think I'd be terrified if I got pg before that that my body might not be able to handle it yet.  That's just me though.