Thanksgiving Vent...(long)

schen0510

So as I mentioned previously we had like 16 people come for Thanksgiving.  I actually think more showed up but I lost count.  I always set everything up buffet style because it is easier so before everyone started, DH made a toast.  It was very beautiful...he congratulated all our siblings for their recent interviews and/or acceptances into graduate school, doctoral programs, and law school, mentioned all of the wonderful times, and also stated that through the harder times we all faced this year that we have made it through because of our loving family.  I was having a wonderful time as we all grabbed our food and made our way to the tables. 

As we are sitting there, my SIL is talking to everyone about her upcoming trip to China.  She is leaving her job in January, doing a semester in China, and then starting her MBA in September.  While discussing this, she starts talking about a friend that is pre-med and how they were having a conversation about selling her eggs.  Her friend told her she could probably make like $20000 because she is very intelligent, tall, and Asian.  Whatever...my plan was to blow it off and continue to enjoy my day.

She then decided to talk about the procedure and how it is so quick and painless.  Of course, she then looked at me for my opinion....SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I basically went through the run down of what happens, completely unemotional, as if I was having a conversation with a doctor hoping she would get the picture...WTF...it is Thanksgiving, I am trying to enjoy the day with my family, the last thing I want to do is talk about all the meds I took, the procedures I went through, and think about the final outcome!  I thought my dad was going to jump across the table.

She finally stopped and we went back to a more normal conversation.  Overall I think I handled it pretty well...but come on...family should completely understand when enough is enough!!!

MSC03

That does seem like an awfully inappropriate thing for her to bring up at the dinner table--you'd think if she really wanted to ask you about it, she'd do it in private.

You handled it like a champ, my dear!

andrea z

I am so sorry.  The whole IVF talk came up at my Thanksgiving too.  I love how easy everyone thinks it is.  My grandma said I just need make an appointment and get implanted.... I wish it was that easy.  Hmm I think I will just go next week sometime and get my eggs taken out and then embryos implanted.... no big deal.  

Ren's bride

I don't even have words for this, and even if I did, I wouldn't be able to speak them because my jaw is still on the floor--I can't believe how oblivious/insensitive your SIL was!!!  Bravo to you for keeping it together!

Staribeth

You are all class!

Imanurse03

Wow, you handled it very well.  I'm sorry that you had to go through that.  Your SIL is really insensitive.  I don't think I would have handled it as well as you did. Your SIL really is ignorant.  I'm so sorry.