FIL is pushing videos/TV on DD

MissyOlivePants

Ugh! He just doesn't stop. He keeps buying DVD's for DD. She doesn't watch TV - but he doesn't get it.  We keep trying to tell him - but he just came home from Target with a dvd of Elmo's Potty Time.  It's just frustrating.

DH is going to have to have a talk with him....

Bonzer

you don't have to show them to her. who is he harming by buying them?

angelynn8411

my mom does the same thing. they have direct tv and they were doing a free preview of the kid's channels. she told me she was gonna record several shows for Hannah, and I told her that we don't let Hannah watch TV (it's on in the background from time to time, but she has never been placed in front of a tv with the purpose of watching a show, KWIM?). anyway, my mom got all sh*tty with me and was like "FINE, if you don't want it, then i won't do it!" ummm ok, thanks! That's what I was trying to tell you, lol!

lkstor

Would it help to tell him that the AAP recommends no tv for children under two.? Then it's a medical thing and not just you and DH being "weird"? LOL

funchicken

We don't let S watch TV, but I don't make a big deal about it with the ILs or my parents.  If they give us a dvd or something like that I just say thanks and put it away.

MissyOlivePants

Well, see, last night at MIL's, he kept turning the TV on to find little kids programs & trying to sit them down to watch with him. It's like she *needs* to watch because that's what she does. We've told him that she doesn't watch tv and don't want her to - then he acts like we're depraving her.

lanie30

Bonzer:

you don't have to show them to her. who is he harming by buying them?

Exactly. Just say thank you and put them in a box. What's the problem?

cmrand4

Hopefully he encloses a gift receipt.

DarcyLongfellow

MissyOlivePants:

Well, see, last night at MIL's, he kept turning the TV on to find little kids programs & trying to sit them down to watch with him. It's like she *needs* to watch because that's what she does. We've told him that she doesn't watch tv and don't want her to - then he acts like we're depraving her.

I'm a big believer in fostering strong relationships between DD and her grandparents. Even if what they want to do with her isn't exactly what I want her doing. If grandpa really wants to bond with baby by watching cartoons, I don't think one short session of tv will hurt her. If grandpa sees her every day and wants to watch tv with her, that's a separate issue. But once in a while, I'd probably decide to let DD watch tv -- even though I am very much against tv before 2.