update to 'just got the news yesterday...'

keepchanginmind

Update to my post: I went to the doctor on Tuesday because I hadn't felt the baby move in 3 days and there was no heartbeat.  I was admitted to the hospital and delivered yesterday.  I thought I would cry when I saw him but I didn't.  It really hit me when we drove away from the hospital yesterday without a baby.  He was so tiny but everything was formed.  It was surreal.  We have to contact a mortuary to cremate him since the hospital does not take care of the body after 20 weeks and I think a burial is just to painful.  The hospital gave us a box with a photo of his foot, and footprints and a blanket they wrapped him in. Looks like the umbilical cord was the issue as it was really thin at his belly button but they are going to do an autopsy to find out the cause. 

doranelly

I am so sorry for your loss. Please be gentle with yourself. You will find the group of ladies here to be a great support system. Please feel free to PM me if you want to "talk".  ((hugs))

RNCCRN9706

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Prayers and hugs to you and your family.

pepomntpat

I am so very sorry for your loss. {{hugs}}.

Cow-girl

I am so sorry for your loss.  I delivered my baby Grace at 18 wks.  It is by far the toughest thing I have gone through.  But know that when you need us we will be here for you!  Please feel free to PM me anytime!  I have been there!

Know that grief is a roller coaster ride, one that you cant stop or get off of.  There will be ups and downs and curves, and sometimes you will feel upside down.   My advice to you is to deal with each emotion as it comes, because bottling it up will only make the process harder for you to get through.  

Here is a link to "Do's and Dont's for family members".  Its a great thing to send out to them so that it makes it easier on you...

https://hopeafteraloss.blogspot.com/2009/09/friday-september-25th-dos-donts-for.html

 

{{{hugs}}} my thoughts and prayers are with you!

 

goillini823

Really sorry for your loss. I've only been on this board since Tuesday, but it's already been an amazing help. Hang in there and take care of yourself.

Temp950106187509203

I am so sorry for your loss.  You're in my thoughts and prayers.

MSC03

I'm so sorry for your loss--that is heartbreaking.

We have a late loss group that checks in on Wednesdays if you'd like to join us. This whole board is an amazing source of support.

Sonadora

I'm sorry.

lewis514

I'm very sorry for your loss. My T&P to you and your family. My loss was a stillbirth at 36 weeks so we also had to contact a funeral home. They actually were really great and very kind to DH and myself. We decided to do a cremation also because I thought it would be best for us.

I keep Chloe's items in a beautiful red box; I have a blanket, stuffed toy they gave her and her outfit. We used Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep for pictures and I have one of her and her sister (living twin) with our other family photos. I'm glad you had some time with your son; I am so grateful for the time we had with Chloe. Please take your time to allow for healing and post her whenever needed.

sunsetlove

so sorry for your loss.. my prayers are with the both of you.. ((HUGS)))

lisamarie_04

I'm so, so sorry to hear of the loss of your son.  I, too, lost my son because of an umbilical cord accident.  Please take care of yourself.  You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

keepchanginmind

Thank you everyone for your kind words.  It has been a roller coaster so far.  My husband thought it would be a good idea for me to get out of the house yesterday and so I think we picked the worst store possible for me to go to..Babies-r-us.  I had wanted the glider that was on sale since they never go on sale for half price and I thought I would be ok but once we got there and had to sit at the registry desk to wait for the pregnant associate to help us and the couple next to us was signing up for their registry I had to walk out.  I just started crying in the store.   I couldnt see all the pregnant women around me.  I didnt think it would be this difficult since he was so little and I was only 22 weeks pg but boy was I wrong.  This is so hard and one minute I am ok and the next I am bawling.  And today my boobs starting hurting and they are hard and I am wearing a tight bra like my dr said but I hope it goes away soon.  My mom was on vacation with my sister in France and we have to pick them up today and tell them so I am dreading that.  I am thankful to be apart of a board where people understand what I am going through.  But I dont think I am ready to put up the memorial ticker yet.  Thank you for letting me express my feelings and for your kind words.