deletion of sig pics and tickers

Pesky

See link for explanation why.  Warning:  VERY sad.  A bumpie on the toddler board lost her son.

https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/26685209.aspx

 

 

 

stever

Done.

That poor little boy. I am speechless with grief for his poor family.

Kandie35

Please don't think I'm being rude or disrespectful, but i am not going to take down my pictures. My family is my entire world, so though i feel so much sadness for her loss, i won't do anything but celebrate the lives of my family. Taking down the siggy just seems like it's saying that i should feel badly that i have been blessed. I don't know..I'm not explaining this very well at all and I'm sure that I will probably get flamed for this, but I feel strongly about it.

barkers4jmm

Kandie35:

Please don't think I'm being rude or disrespectful, but i am not going to take down my pictures. My family is my entire world, so though i feel so much sadness for her loss, i won't do anything but celebrate the lives of my family. Taking down the siggy just seems like it's saying that i should feel badly that i have been blessed. I don't know..I'm not explaining this very well at all and I'm sure that I will probably get flamed for this, but I feel strongly about it.

It's not about you.  It's about showing solidarity and respect for this family who has just suffered a most tragic loss.  If you don't want to take your siggy down, that's fine.  I just think you should have left it unsaid. 

Kandie35

Calling me petty is disrespectful and unnecessary. You do not know me. I was in no way putting anyone down for their decision to take down their siggy, but rather owning why I am not.

iluvtom

done and I am so thankful for my Alexa Brynn, 19 yo and Callie Rose 3 months..Tears rolled down my cheeks..I feel so bad for that family

barkers4jmm

Agreed - I deleted the statement that I thought you were being petty as it was unnecessary (although not disrespectful).  The rest of my statement stands.  And no, of course, I don't know you.

Kandie35

barkers4jmm:

Agreed - I deleted the statement that I thought you were being petty as it was unnecessary (although not disrespectful).  The rest of my statement stands.  And no, of course, I don't know you.

I appreciate the edit.

I felt that it would be more disrespectful of me to not explain why I am not deleting my siggy than to pretend as if I was unaware of the movement to do so; hence my original reply to the requesting post.

Peppernut

That is so sad.  It's every mother's worst fear...  Wow.  I had to go wake up Margaux and hold her a while.

Their family is in my thoughts.

I, too, would rather embrace and celebrate life, Kandie.   We all mourn in our own way.

stever

I hugged my Mikey upon hearing the news before removing his pic and ticker from my siggy to show solidarity for a bump sister.

I still celebrate him and life though, hence the above post regarding his birthday.

Let's remember that we all get along.

Kandie35

stever:

I hugged my Mikey upon hearing the news before removing his pic and ticker from my siggy to show solidarity for a bump sister.

I still celebrate him and life though, hence the above post regarding his birthday.

Let's remember that we all get along.

gosh, i so did not mean to start anything negative by explaining myself.

barkers4jmm

And I didn't mean to promote negativity on this board either by disagreeing with Kandie.  But this poor mother just suffered the most unimaginable loss.  I am in tears - I made my husband read her post and tears streamed from his eyes, too.  I just don't get why others' rejoicing of their own fortune needs to remind her of what she has so horribly lost.  It's a symbol to support her, and heck, it's only until Monday.  I rejoice in how lucky I am to have my daughter, but the siggy deletion is a gesture in support of another mother, not a rebuke of my own daughter.

stever

Kandie35:

stever:

I hugged my Mikey upon hearing the news before removing his pic and ticker from my siggy to show solidarity for a bump sister.

I still celebrate him and life though, hence the above post regarding his birthday.

Let's remember that we all get along.

gosh, i so did not mean to start anything negative by explaining myself.

I'd never think you were being negative Kandie! I was just trying to add a bit of levity lest we degenerate into a tri board.

Okay, we're nooooowhere near that, but you get what I'm sayin'. 

Temp159135562506975

I think everyone is just really upset by the loss - and our emotions are going nutty.... nobody should get bashed for leaving sigs up, or taking them down.... whatever works for you works - - as long as we all think of this mommy and her son- that's what matters.

I have said so many prayers for her today since finding out - it just hurts my heart.... and makes me even more thankful for my boys.

SFAug07

How incredibly sad. I feel so sorry for her and her family.