How are you coping with the holidays after your loss?

Mrs. K in TX

My baby miscarried a month ago, and I am still so upset about it.  I'm not real sure what to do.  I'm seeing a grief counselor, and I have some days that are better than others.  I thought it was getting better, but now the holidays have me really down.  Yesterday, I had a really bad day.  I was sad most of the day, and everything seemed to aggravate me.  I cried a couple of times, and then when we went to bed, I lost it.  I felt just like I did when the miscarriage happened.  Helpless, hopeless, and so consumed by grief and emotional pain that I felt like I couldn't go on.

This is typically my favorite time of year, but this year, I'm just not into it at all.  I've even thought about just skipping Thanksgiving and just going about my business like any other day.  I just don't feel very thankful right now.  I know I have a lot to be thankful for, but I just don't feel thankful.  How can I be when I lost something so precious and dear?

pepomntpat

We are going to my mom's for Thanksgiving.  I am actually looking forward to it. However, we usually take our dog. This year we are leaving him home for 2 reasons. One is my mother and stepfather just got a sixth dog-a rottie that is not neutered-and he is dominant as is my little doxie mix and I think that would be a bad, bad combo. The second reason is that if my mother says/does something hurtful or if I am just feeling overwhelmed, we can say, "It's been a great day, but we've got to get home to Guinness."

For Christmas DH and I are going on a cruise to the Bahamas.  

goillini823

I just found out yesterday. We are having lunch at my mom's tomorrow with just my two brothers and us. We were supposed to have dinner at the in-laws with all the cousins, aunts, and uncles. Not sure if I really want to deal with everyone than especially cause they are expecting for us to reveal the gender.

Court1

To the prior poster, I think we are in the same boat.  PM me if you ever want to talk.  We just found out today & were supposed to have a big gender reveal tomorrow.  It's horrible.

marrie2himonly

I don't think I am dealing with TG well...but I am trying.  Some moments I am up and others I am down.  Last year I was more excited, had family coming over, and this year it is just dh & I which isn't a bad idea.  Yet, I think the mc has me feeling the loss "over & over" in my mind like it just happened.