Memorial Service?

pepomntpat

Is anyone having or already had a memorial for their baby?

The hospital where I had my D&E has a group burial several times a year and we chose to participate in that.  They will cremate our baby's remains and put them in a shared casket with other babies.  Our memorial service is January 12 and there will be a burial site where we can go and visit if we so choose.

Is anyone participating in something similar? Or did you do something else?

 

MommaRed83

I don't think the hospital does anything like that where I had the girls. We had them cremated through a local funeral home.

Our origional plan was to scatter their ashes into the Pacific Ocean this summer and have a memorial service. But then my husband left and I have no idea what we are doing. I just don't feel as if I am anywhere near ready for that.

I think that it is nice that your angel will get to be with other angels. Please keep us posted and let us know how it goes.

BIG HUGS!!!!

papillon21

My hospital has a similar service in place. We are having our girl buried. She will have her own casket. Our service will be in May.... pretty far but that's ok, we find comfort in knowing that she won't be alone. There will be a tombstone for the all the babies that have passed. And we will be able to go see her whenever we want.

andrea z

We had our boys cremated together.  We then had a service for them back in NC (our home).  My DH did the service, and pretty much told our story.  Most of the people that came had no idea what happened or anything about our story.  So he told the boys story.  It was very helpful to have a service.  I really felt like it helped me to move forward.  After the service we buried the boys ashes at our home church.  That is something I sometimes wish we had not done.  DH is in the military, and the thought of being far away from them makes me sad.  I never really thought about that before we did it.  My parents take flowers and stuff to their grave, but it makes me sad that we can't just go visit them.

coolteacher79

WARNING... TICKER BELOW....

We didn't do anything when I miscarried our first as far as a memorial service goes.

We did have a memorial service for Isaac that we put together. He was born alive, full term, and lived for a short time after birth.

 

tryingforbabyL

Our hospital had this option as well.

We opted to have our own service for Hope.  We had a small burial ceremony at the grave yard  with the priest. (she was buried with my dad -- I will never forget the sight of that little casket).  Then we had a mass at church that we invited family and friends too.  While it was horribly hard, I am thankful we did it this way.

roxyttandme

Haleigh has been cremated. We brought her home about a week after I delivered her. Personally, I couldn't stand not having her anywhere from home. Although I am looking at a box, it is comforting for me to be able to look over and see her. It is my way of holding on to her.

I think a service and/or remains are a very personal decision. I believe each individual needs to decide for themselves what is right for them.

(hugs)

Temp950106187509203

The hospital where I m/c'ed does the same thing.  They have a group service at a local cemetery once a quarter.  We'll be participating.