Those that have had two miscarriages...

jmrsdve

Did you OB suggest seeing an RE? Or are you going to try again without testing first? I'm not sure what to do...me and DH dicussed both sides. DH just got laid off from his job so we may take a TTC break and think about what to do. Is the testing expense, b/c I'm assuming insurance will not cover.

Scout05

They rather horribly made me "wait until a third one, if it happens." Well, it effing happened a-holes.

Anyway, we are now off to the genetic counselor.

I say, if you can do it, do it now. Find out if there is a problem before going through this again.

I wish you so much good luck, and prayers that all will come back okay and you can try for your sticky baby soon.

jmrsdve

Thank you so much for your T&P.  That is what my doctor said to me today..

Good luck with your genetic counselor...thoughts and prayers to you to.  I'm sorry you have to go through this.

sunsetlove

my ob told me on a medical stand point.. after 3rd m/c.. then she'll do testing, but on a personal level.. she referred me to a fertility specialist.. we are waiting till after the holidays to talk to a specialist..good luck with whatever you deside..

teachinbr

When we found out that our last baby no longer had a heartbeat, my OB asked us if we wanted to have genetic testing done.  We agreed.  We found out our baby had trisomy 16.  She asked us if we wanted to be referred to a genetic specialist and we said yes (she felt there was no need to test me since the pregnancies ended due to chromosome problems).  That was my second miscarriage, but of twins.  The genetic specialist said that our first miscarriage was most likely a chromosome problem (a chemical pregnancy) and since this was also a chromosome problem, he did not feel we needed to have genetic testing done on us.  We have great insurance, but so far the D&C and appts have cost over $10,000 (we only pay a copay).  What a ridiculously high price for having nothing to show for it!

nanalovesjason

I'm sorry for your losses . I have had 3 missed miscarriages all at 6-7 wekks and no successful pregnancies. At my last D&C (10/01/09) The dr. took tissue and tested it- our baby boy had Trisomy 13. They then tested me and my husband- and turns out he's normal. I'm a carrier of a balanced 13:14 translocation.

I saw a genetic counselor today and he could not give me an estimation/guess/ballpark figure NOTHING as to how many of my eggs would continue producing this unbalanced translocation-trisomy. He did say however that not all my eggs could be affected. Yay!

I know how awful miscarriages are but I really really recommend any testing that is available. I used to feel that God was punishing me. Now I don't feel that way because I have an explanation. Please do whatever testing you can, but don't fork out a lot of money because alot of time there's nothing wrong with you at all. Keep your chin up and keep trying!!?

madladybride

Our first pg was trisomy 21. This one was a blighted ovum. The Dr. said that they normally refer to the Maternal-Fetal medicine Dr.'s after 3 mc's. However, he advised me to go after 2, since I am 35 and not getting any younger.

I think you should go and get it done to see if it's just crappy luck, or something more...

Good luck and I'm sorry for your losses.

smiles88

I am sorry for your losses. My OB did not recommend seeing an RE but did do some testing. Our insurance covered it (we called first to find out). We just did blood tests. I was also suppose to get an HSG too. We saw a genetic consuler to review the results of the testing. For us our dignosis was "bad luck". My DH felt that the testing/ gentic consuler wasn't nesscary but i think it help me with the healing process. 

Sorry for your losses

Lissa832

After my third m/c, my PCM said, "Don't worry about it.  No one is going to take you serious because you are too young (26), and have had a successful pregnancy.  We'll just wait to see if it happens again."  Guess what?  It happened again.  My OB is going to start the testing on Monday, and I am going to ask if I should be seen by an RE.  No matter what he says, I will be getting a referral to be seen by one.

I have Tricare, and they cover testing and any medication to correct a problem, but they will not cover the medication and such for IUI or IVF, or so I'm told.

rcbuko

My OB told me to wait to have three miscarriages before I seeing an RE.  I refused and made an appointment with an RE someone recommended to me. Then I called my OB's office and had them fax over a referral.  

I just knew the problem was with me and not the babies (I had my second baby tested and it was a healthy girl).  The RE was proactive and I had surgery to remove some scar tissue caused by my D&C as well as a band of skin that may have been present in my uterus the whole time.  I got pregnant again and had my daughter.  I really do feel she would have been my third miscarriage and I just looked at that as using her as a sacrificial lamb, so to speak.

I am once again TTC and have already had another miscarriage so I am back with my RE.  Once again, I am filled with fear of pregnancy and worried I will have to endure more losses before hopefully having another sticky.  In the couple of years I have been out of the TTC scene, my RE is treating me with different medicine.  We shall see.

My insurance covered me after two losses.  I believe my RE labeled me as infertile and as a recurrent miscarriage person.  All we had to pay out of pocket for was my DH's sperm analysis because the office didn't accept his insurance.  

Good luck.  I know I found empowerment in a horrible situation once I began working with my RE and hope the same holds true for you.