Anyone else starting to think about #2 or 3 or...

ml0904

I know I know she is just 3 months old but I am 42 and DH is in his 50's..... I had to have a lap to clear my tubes in order to have her, so the ob is saying that I can't start trying until she is 6 months but that once a year goes by I will start having issues with my tubes again. But this is really not the issue with #2.

I am so worried that we would be tempting fate. Does anyone else feel that way? She is so wonderful and other than being preemie and the AR we have had no issues but I worry that with my age it would be almost greedy to try again. I want another one badly and DH has said that if he knew it would be healthy he would be all for it. Believe me if we got pg and there were issues DH would be right there but I think he is worried also that we are being greedy.

Anyone else think about this.

Peppernut

Great picture of little Vivianna!

Yeah, I am 41 with kind of a loss-filled history, but we'll be trying again in six months.  I'm terrified that we'll have more losses or a child with severe issues, but I would rather we tried than regretting not trying.

I do feel a bit greedy, and I worry about how emotionally wrenching the process is.  

Kandie35

My opinion is that greedy is the last thing you could call someone who wants to devote herself to more children. I often think of the tempting fate aspect, but honestly, I have known more younger people to have issues with pregnancy and birth defects than I have "older" people. I think we are just far more health conscious than most younger people. My advice: Do what your heart dictates and don't let your brain talk you out of something that your heart desires as there will never be the "right" time or age.

stever

I'm 36 and am hoping to begin trying for #2 next Summer. DS is a relatively easy baby so I do wonder if #2 would be more difficult, but not because of some karmic justice for wanting too much. 

stever

Peppernut:

but I would rather we tried than regretting not trying.

This too.

peeper72

stever:

I'm 36 and am hoping to begin trying for #2 next Summer. DS is a relatively easy baby so I do wonder if #2 would be more difficult, but not because of some karmic justice for wanting too much. 

This (but I'm 37). If we got pregnant sooner I wouldn't view it a a tragedy at all.

Pesky

Yes.  We have 2 wonderful kids and I do wonder if we would be pushing our luck by eventually trying for #3.  We do think about #3 but more will we or won't we for a lot of other reasons.  FWIW, I did try for #2 when DD was almost a year, had one m/c/chemical pg and then pg with DS next cycle.  It worked out okay!

busybea

Yes, we definitely think about it, I was an only child (and I hated it) so my "plan" was to always have 2.  I'm now 37 and DH is 48 so we're thinking about trying again in just a few short months.  Considering it took us over 3 yrs to conceive, we're not holding our breath.  We're very happy & blessed with DS, so if it's not meant to be, then it simply isn't.

Daisiesinmygarden

I know I want one more, DH and I have agreed to wait a year (so 2011) before we discuss TCC. DH never even considered having a baby before we decided to try for Maddie, so he is still getting used to the idea. I know we are really enjoying Maddie so it will be nice to focus on her for a year with no pressure from either of us either way.

shouldbworkin

I hear you on the tempting fate thing.  I have two kids already and they are beautiful and perfect.  I'm lucky to have never had a m/c or any troubles TTC, but I know how that can change as the years go by.  I'm terrified to TTC now, but we don't feel our family is complete either.  As it is, #2 will be 3.5 when/if #3 comes along, so I feel like we have a small window of opportunity.  I'm not sure how long I might want to TTC if we have trouble b/c of the age difference (there are only 21 mos btwn #1 and #2.)/

ETA:  What I worry about more is really regretting not having another later in life when there is nothing I can do about it. 

NewMrs07

Yes, I'll be 40 this summer and def. want to start trying for #2 in the spring of '10. If I'm lucky we'll get pg soon and I can take my maternity leave during the holidays next year, how nice would that be?

&&

Yes, we will start trying for #2 as soon as the doc gives us the okay...we would like the kids to be as close in age as possible.  I try not to think too much about the difficulty we had TTC DD (14 cycles) and guess I am hoping that this time around it is a bit easier.  FX