I just have to share re: cousin's annoucement

JDG2007

My 36 year old, divorced, single mother of a special needs 7 year old, financially struggling cousin just announced on Facebook that she's going to be a Mom again.

Ok, so like how bad is it that I have no idea who the baby daddy is?

It's offical, I'm a bitter old barren woman cause this really ticks me off.

 

 

 

 

MDBeachbride

It always sucks when it's not you - no matter what the status of the mom to be.  Sorry. 

hav2run

I understand your resentment.  Not to stereotype, but it seems that the type of person you just posted about has an endless supply of good eggs and fertility, and no clue how to give the baby half a chance at a decent life. 

I have to qualify that by saying that I raised DS as a single mom for 8 years before DH came along.  It was a struggle while I finished my education, but I knew full well what birth control is, and used it.  Not trying to look down on anyone, because I have been there, but I understand where you are coming from.  It is so unfair!

CharBart

Yep...that's the way it always goes.  There is a women who was just arressted for DWI & child abuse when she crashed her car into a pole at about 4am yesterday morning.  She had her 18month old little girl in the car.  The pole crushed the girl in her car seat and she may not make it.  Very sad.

panda246

Yikes...that had to be a tough annoucement to hear.

I agree with have2run.  It seems like those who get pg most easily are often most unprepared to care for a child.  I usually just chalk it up to the idea that since they don't have a lot going on in their lives they have all the time in the world to just lay around and BD...that's my theory anyway...it allows me to sleep at night when stories like this come along.

hav2run

Panda:  I tend to agree with your theory.  But what makes them O AND implant AND carry to term with their awful habits?  I just don't think it is fair.

joyfulnature

Sorry, JDG.

I know how you feel. It's a natural reaction - and  one you can feel free to vent here!

There are so many stories all around about people having kids when they are ill prepared, doing all sorts of awful things to their bodies, etc. And more stories about people who have kids and abuse/neglect them.

It's heartbreaking: No two ways about it.

 I hope that your cousin finds a way to make it work, for her 7-year-old's sake, and the baby's sake.  And I hope that very soon, you are announcing that you're going to be a mom, too.

 

(((hugs)))

 

JDG2007

I love how honest we can be on here...and how supportive everyone is.

Thanks everyone!