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BlindysWife

This might be long, so I apologize in advance, but I need somewhere to vent. I know you ladies understand that.

So Tuesday I had cramping all day, and then in the evening I began bleeding. DH took me to the ER, where they saw nothing on the u/s and had a hcg level of 200. I was 6 weeks, so based on the u/s and the low hcg, the ER doc said it was either an ectopic pregnancy or I was miscarrying.

On Wed, my OB wanted me to come in and check me out and do another check of the hcg. It was 184, so he said that because the number was going down, he was sure I was miscarrying, and wanted me to get more bloodwork on Friday. Also, I was puking and nauseated all day. Miserable.

I skipped work on Wed and Thurs cause I felt crappy and, of course, sad.

So today, Friday, I had more blood drawn over lunch. The doctor just called, and the hcg level stayed the same. The same. He said it was peculiar 'cause he was sure it was going to go down more. Now he says we can't rule out the ectopic. And I have to go again on Monday morning for more blood work.

Not only am I hurt, sad, and down that this happened, but I also just started a new job two weeks ago... And here I am calling in sick, taking a long lunches or needing to come in late. Noone there knew I was pregnant, so they don't know whats going on now. I feel like I should tell my boss so that he knows that I have good reason and I'm not just being a terrible employee. Especially if, as my OB told em today, if the number doesn't go down on Monday, they may need to do a d&c or mexo-something injection, so I'll have to miss work again.

Aye yi yi. Why does this happen to us?  Anyone have a similar experience?

 

Ren's bride

I'm so sorry you are going through all of this.  I would definitely tell your boss not only because you may need to miss more days, but also so that he knows that the reason you've already taken off or come in late so soon after starting there has nothing to do with your professionalism.  Hope you can hang in there until Monday, but we're here if you need to vent some more before then...

BlindysWife

Thanks Ren, it means a lot!

rjbear21

Sorry I can't be much help.  I had a natural m/c. 

But just wanted to say that I'm sorry you are going through this.  

((hugs))

nobodygirl1983

I'm sorry you're going through so much pain. I would tell your boss, so he knows that you are going through something beyond your control. He should completely understand and tell you not to worry about time off. Oddly enough, when I got up the courage to tell my boss why I took almost a whole week off work, he was very supportive and shared that his wife had similar problem when ttc. It was so great to know that he understood, and he was able to offer some insight into such a horrible situation.