Need advice... difficult situation

feellikeaqueen

I need some advice please! Sorry this is kinda long...

I have co-worker/friend that starting TTC the same time I did. I am 7 weeks, when I told her it was kinda uncomfortable for a few days. She actually didn't really talk to me for almost 3 days - I knew it would hit her hard...

She is fine now, asking me questions and everything... she asked what nursery ideas I had. I said Dr. Suess and she got a really weird look on her face... it wasn't till later that it clicked, a few months ago she & I were talking baby and talked about Dr. Seuss themes, how much we both like it.

Now I feel really guilty.. am I being insensitive? Too senstivie? If I want Dr. Seuss should I go with it? Thanks for any feedback!

mrssmith717

I would go with it, but not talk about it unless she brings it up. 

 

h3b

i don't think she has any say about what you do with your nursery...if you like dr. seuss, go with it. you don't need to bring it up again unless she asks. i can't really imagine a nursery theme being a friendship ruining situation (like possibly a "stolen" name could).

DanceDeva4

h3b:

i don't think she has any say about what you do with your nursery...if you like dr. seuss, go with it. you don't need to bring it up again unless she asks. i can't really imagine a nursery theme being a friendship ruining situation (like possibly a "stolen" name could).

Long time friends of ours named their daughter the name they knew we had picked out before we got pregnant, which had a personal meaning to my husband and I.  I was a little mad, but hey, it's a super cute name, they'll be a few years apart and won't go to the same school.  Plus, they totally jacked up the spelling. 

But to the OP, I was in your coworkers shoes.  I'm sure she's hurt and jealous.  Just give her some time to come around.  In the meantime, plan your nursery any ol' way you want.  I wouldn't ask her opinion on everything you look at, but you're certainly not being insensitive by being happy about your baby and your awesome nursery theme!  If it still feels awkward, talk to her about it.  Maybe if she sees how much you care about her feelings she'll realize she'd rather enjoy this process with you than continue to make it difficult for you both. 

Keianna

I feel for your co-worker, but you should plan your nursery how you want. However, I wouldn't bring it up to her or ask her for ideas, etc. 

tomkat35728

mrs_smith717:

I would go with it, but not talk about it unless she brings it up. 

 

This.