How old for a sleepover? (clicky poll)

rbidi

Ok, so clicky polls have rarely ever worked for me. WTH??

So my DD has a sleepover this week. It is her girlfriend from class' birthday overnight. She just got the invitation last week, and I don't know these parents, so the answer is no, she's not going. I need to meet the parents at least a few times, on separate occasions, and even then, who knows how I'll feel. She's only nine and I think thats too young anyway, unless it is at her grandmother's house with her cousins. How old do you think is old enough for a sleepover, this is after you've met the parents and it's same sex of course. My mom never let us go on any, except the youth retreats at church.

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MommyofAlissa

My dd spends the night at her bf's house all the time, and she is only 5. The first time she did it, she was 4.

AnnapolisLari

I'll say 8-10, but if you don't know the family, that's a big old no.

 

dpdw

I personally don't think any age is too young for a sleepover if you know & trust the other parents.  It's all a matter of how comfortable your kid is sleeping somewhere without you.  We've done weekends away without our kids, so it's no different in my eyes.

kevschickee2

I will need to know the parents also I said 8-10

My kids have slept over my families houses though but friends are different in my oppinion

brightning

dpdw:

I personally don't think any age is too young for a sleepover if you know & trust the other parents.  It's all a matter of how comfortable your kid is sleeping somewhere without you.  We've done weekends away without our kids, so it's no different in my eyes.

Ditto.

PinkPiano

This is a tough one, I'm really protective when it comes to this stuff.  I think 8-10 is reasonable but I would not allow it if I didn't know the parents.  Could you have her friend come to your house instead?  Or maybe do something together with a parent for a few hours one day to get to know them.  I'm not sure how I will handle this either when the time comes, but I definitely plan to error on the side of caution.

 

penguingrrl

I was allowed to have sleepovers with close friends (i.e. our moms were and still are friends too) and cousins in kindergarten.  My first group slumber party was in 3rd grade.  Our town was small so all the parents knew each other to some degree by then.

TheNextWest

My DD has spent the night with friends a couple of times already (she's 5)- and one of them is a boy! She has stayed at his house and gone camping with him and his parentsI have known the parents very well for years. They are practically family. The kids even tell people that they are cousins.

Now that she's in kindergarten and making friends with people I don't know, I am a little nervous about that first overnight invite since I don't know any of their parents and we are new to this area. But IF I met their parents several times and felt comfortable with it, I would let her go at this age.

GrowingFamily

By 8-10, most kids are ready for sleep-overs.