Circumcision.. did you or no?

quickplanning

We don't know what #3 is going to be... but I am totally intimidated by the decision of whether or not to circumcise. ?I definitely lean toward not circumcising, but I feel like this is such a huge decision and i don't want my kid to be teased or feel weird later! ?Just curious why or why not you did or did not circumcise...

?I fee like I go through this with each kid since we don't find out... but I'm convinced its a boy this time, so I'm a little more panicky about it.

Rebekah1021

What does your DH think? Either way, you need to make that decision together.

LittleMamaB

My first was, and we had tons of issues (adhesions, pain, etc.). My second was not and our third will not be. It has just been much easier for us.

quickplanning

He goes back and forth too... and really doesn't have a huge opinion on it. ?i told him he had to look into... its his decision more than mine. But if I had anything passionately leading me one way... he would go with it.

august0605bride

we have one who is and one who isn't

cminNJ

We had DS circumcised at the hospital

 

What does your SO think?

 

I let DH decide  

 

Mominator

Nope. We didn't feel as though it was necessary. And fwiw, my H is circumsized and we still chose not to do it with DS.

CleoKitty

Nope.

There was something about it on the Today show last week and I think they said that the nationwide circumcision rate for baby boys is now right about 55% so regardless of what you choose I don't think the lockeroom issue is as much of a concern today as it was in our dh's generation. 

isabella22

We will circumsize DS. DH is and feels that DS should be.

Also, there is some data that shows that it reduces the risk of penile cancer and the risk of STDs, so that seals the deal for me.

butterbeansmama

Yes, ds is and if this one is a boy, he will be too.

*Lu-Lu*

Yes, miles is.  It was pretty much a non-issue for us, or I should say for my H.  We discussed it some... more like I brought up not circumcising and my husband immediately shot it down.

Also, when I discussed circumsion with my ob, he pretty much laughed and said "Oh, you mean that barbaric genital mutilation procedure?"    I guess he figures he's old and pretty much doesn't care what comes out of his mouth.  He's really a pretty awesome doc...  I guess he just says whatever he wants.  

ridesbuttons

PMQ:

Nope. There is no medical reason to do it and I'm not into cosmetic surgery for babies

FWIW, the rate of circ here in Canada is about 7%. I actually don't know of even one of my friends with a son who had it done.

I think it is actually around 30% in Canada.  But even that is irrelevant.  It is a personal parenting choice for the most part.

femmegem

We did, and ditto LittleMamaB. We've had so many issues with adhesions (even now, at 3 years old) that I would not do it again.

ErinNConnorsMom

Ultimately, I left the decision up to my dh since I had no strong feelings one way or another.  I think we were leaning toward circumcision by the time Connor was born, anyway, but the nurse said that most baby boys born in our hospital are circumcised. 

quickplanning

femmegem:

We did, and ditto LittleMamaB. We've had so many issues with adhesions (even now, at 3 years old) that I would not do it again.

?

Okay, so I am a mama to girls.. what are adhesions???

Punk*Mommy

PMQ:

Nope. There is no medical reason to do it and I'm not into cosmetic surgery for babies

Ditto.  

ridesbuttons

https://www.courtchallenge.com/refs/yr99p-e.html

Bored.

Stats on these things are notoriously inaccurate.

FloF9

Also, there is some data that shows that it reduces the risk of penile cancer and the risk of STDs, so that seals the deal for me.

Yep this is why we did it with our first and why our second son will get it too.

Goose51504

Yes, we did. Personally, I was pro circumcision before knowing we were having a boy, but we did give it the "old college try" and reviewed all the agruments for and against. In the end, we both decided that the reasons for far outweighed the reasons against. 

Good luck with your decision.

ridesbuttons

PMQ:

ridesbuttons:

https://www.courtchallenge.com/refs/yr99p-e.html

Bored.

Stats on these things are notoriously inaccurate.

Then can I ask why you think the link you've posted is any more accurate than mine? Let's meet somewhere in the middle and say the rate is about 18% then.

Regardless, the rate has declined drastically and continues to do so, I suppose that is the important fact here.

Hey, do you think the site you posted is part of the E-Health scandal?  It is pretty unfriendly and imcomplete.  Seems like it could be part of a billion dollar blunder.

cokt

Nope we feel like it is a cosmetic procedure and totally unnecessary too.

stacynikki

We did it with our first and thus one will be as well.

isabella22

Here are some quick medical references on the health benefits on circ

What is the relationship between circumcision and cancer of the penis?

 

The predicted lifetime risk of cancer of the penis in an uncircumcised man is one in 600 in the U.S. Cancer of the penis carries a mortality rate as high as 25%. This cancer occurs almost exclusively in uncircumcised men. In five major research studies, no man who had been circumcised as a newborn developed cancer of the penis. Human papillomavirus types 16 and 18, which are sexually transmitted, are involved in cancer of the penis.

https://www.medicinenet.com/circumcision_the_medical_pros_and_cons/page5.htm

What is the relationship between circumcision and sexually-transmitted diseases?

 

There is a higher risk of gonorrhea and inflammation of the urethra (the tube that carries the urine from the bladder outside) in uncircumcised men. It has also been reported that other sexually-transmitted diseases (such as chancroid, syphilis, human papillomavirus, and herpes simplex virus type 2 infection) are more frequent in uncircumcised men. As mentioned above, most recently three large studies performed in Africa documented that circumcision was protective with respect to the acquisition of HIV infection as compared to those uncircumcised subjects.

https://www.medicinenet.com/circumcision_the_medical_pros_and_cons/page4.htm

 

isabella22

-auntie-:

My son is 16 and actually old enough to deal with a locker room. It's not something boys that age bring up. Even in scouts, where I hear all manner of stuff I'd rather not hear from my guys, the subject just doesn't come up.

At that age, would your son tell you 'hey mom, we discussed penises in the locker room today'?

DandR

Goose51504:

Yes, we did. Personally, I was pro circumcision before knowing we were having a boy, but we did give it the "old college try" and reviewed all the agruments for and against. In the end, we both decided that the reasons for far outweighed the reasons against. 

Good luck with your decision.

this exactly.

The biggest thing that swayed me to do it was that there are two nurses in the family and they had an unprofessional conversation with each other about how they can TOTALLY tell the difference between men who had it done as babies and men who had to get it done later in life for medical reasons.  I didn't ask WHAT the difference was, but if it was that noticable to these ladies, then it was worth it to me to get it done as a baby and not have to worry about it later in life.

DH's grandpa had ot have it done as an adult.

DH had it done as a baby....not that I'm big on the "whatever DH had, that's what my sons will have" argument...but it was a bit if a sway.

 

elm1032004

Mominator:

Nope. We didn't feel as though it was necessary. And fwiw, my H is circumsized and we still chose not to do it with DS.

This.  We also discussed it with a uroligist and he said he agrees that there is no medical reason to circ and so he usually suggests not doing it.  Either way it's something you should look into and then decide.  If you google it you will find reasons to do it and reasons not to do it.  I would research it and then decide what is best for you guys.

Temp108743750006959

yes, we did. I didn't care either way. you should watch Penn and Teller's show you youtube "Bullsh&T: Circumcision" -- very interesting

KoriBrett

DS is, yes.  We went back and forth on this a lot, we were leaning toward not doing it for a long time.  But, in the end we both agreed that we would stay with what we're both already familiar with.  Neither of us gave a darn about locker room BS or looking like daddy.

We also agreed that one of us would be in the room while it was done, turned out it was me - I helped a bit and held his hand & talked to him the whole time.  I figured watching was the least I could do for making him go through it.

Mominator

isabella22:

-auntie-:

My son is 16 and actually old enough to deal with a locker room. It's not something boys that age bring up. Even in scouts, where I hear all manner of stuff I'd rather not hear from my guys, the subject just doesn't come up.

At that age, would your son tell you 'hey mom, we discussed penises in the locker room today'?

I have talked to my nearly 14 y/o son about this and his exact words were "Mom, no one cares about anyone else's penis".

Angela814

If this baby is a boy, we will not circumsize. I did a lot of research when I was pg with DD. I just feel like it's a completely unnecessary cosmetic procedure.

hopefulmom

We circ'ed and I would do so again.  I worked for a urologist...enough said.